Will you ever compromise with yourself?

India
January 11, 2012 6:27am CST
Will you ever compromise with yourself for any girl? If you are already in a relationship (not so strong and long) but after few days you fall in love with another girl and after few days you realized that you are more compatible with this new girl.She loves you too.But the previous girl loves you too. Whom you will accept as your life partner?? Will you listen to your previous girl as she will cry a lot? If you accept your old girl friend you may not be happy as you are compromising with your self but you don't want to hurt you previous girlfriend too. Whom to listen?
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8 responses
@zaahro (749)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 12
Oh My God... I feel like I want to punch you :D Well, love is so cruel. It comes and leave whenever it wants. So don't ever make a clear promise to your gf, my favourite promise when I have new relationship is 'I'll do my best in our relationship :)' Don't say : I'll always be with you no matter what happens, yours always, you are my last love, etc, etc, etc. It will be a good weapon for her when you're change :D I am a girl but I I'll do what's good for me and try not to get hurt.
• India
12 Jan 12
Ha Ha punch on me? Well you have a very strong point to be noted but only ever if you have promised some one that you will be ever with him and just because you have promised will you mention this relationship without thinking anything? Thanks Zaahro for your comment.
@zaahro (749)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 12
Yes yes,,,:D umm....that's a difficult question. I am not sure :D But I don't want to get hurt so I'll try not to hurt my partner too :) win win system lol.
• India
13 Jan 12
I think every time if you are making a decision for life you must think a lots of parameter.such as feelings,financial,understanding ,career,liking,dis liking etc. So now you too are thinking that, this is indeed a tough situation .Isn't it? Are you still willing to punch me?? Have a nice day.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
11 Jan 12
I would say listen to your heart and mind. Who do you have the most in common with. Who can you see yourself spending the rest of your life with. It is not right to be seeing 2 women at the same time. You need to end one relationship in order to form another meaningful relationship.
• India
12 Jan 12
Hi MaryLynn,Yes you are right,but.. Will you always listen to your heart ?Or your head? It's true if you want to end up any relation from your own the other person will be hurt but if she want to finish things up then will she ever listen to you?
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• United States
12 Jan 12
I guess that is why we were given a heart and a mind. Our mind can help us use common sense. Our heart has a tendency to lead sometimes. Someone will definitely get hurt in this relationship.
• India
13 Jan 12
So who is making such a crime it's me or the situation?Even I will be hurt too. Have a nice time Mary.
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@soulist (2987)
• United States
12 Jan 12
I think that if you are in a relationship and find yourself having feelings for someone else you should be true to yourself. You don't want to stay with someone simply because you think she will cry.
• India
13 Jan 12
Yes I am obviously very committed every time,but some time situation leads us to a difficult way.I think you also have faced it ever in your life too,even not in relational aspect then on other aspect.Nevertheless I have decided to follow my brain this time not to heart's call. Have a nice time soulist.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
First of all he should know what she love in both girls. You have to know why you fell in love with this new girl or know her. You might feel it is love but then you realized it's just an attraction. So better to assess one's feeling before leaving the current girl friend.
• India
12 Jan 12
Brilliantly mentioned.You are exactly to the point.Thanks Enelym.
• China
12 Jan 12
who do you love more,previous or the new?You can imagine that who will bring more happiness if you are together with.Not until you choose one girl,will you be happy.
• India
12 Jan 12
Who loves me more or whom I love more? Which question should come up first ? Nice comment.Thanks.
• Indonesia
12 Jan 12
I'd listen to myself....love can't be forced. I'm someone who hard fall in love type. Although, I already in relationship, and I fall to other girl, and she must me a special for me....If I feel comfortable, and enjoy, I will choose new girl. Yeah, it will hurt to my old girl, but...that's fact
• India
12 Jan 12
Obviously listen to yourself ,but whom brain or heart? So you have the guts to face the situation when you will say good bye to your old girl. Brave heart. Thanks Luckygrey.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
11 Jan 12
Hello, This is a very hard decision to make because if you made a decision someone will got hurt. If you choose to one of them you better be sure of your feeling and dont be hurry because in those decision you have to use your heart and feelings. If you really love your girl friend you will never fall to anyone. Of course it is your decision to make and it is always depends on you on how you handle the situation you up to. But a simple advice dont lOok on the appearance of the girl but instead look whats really inside her.
• India
11 Jan 12
Thanks Tina,nice comment.But what if the new girl is looking more ordinary than the former one but she is more understanding and tries to make every one happy.Then What will be your answer?
@KrauseHome (34995)
• United States
13 Jan 12
Personally this is the reason why a person needs to stick with just one person and if they are wanting to see someone else, than break up instead of leaving both people hanging and ending up hurting another persons feelings. Personally in a situation like this it will truly be something you have to live with, and if you choose the wrong person or situation, or even if things work out OK, you might still find yourself wondering what if. So the Best situation from here might be to write down the Pros and Cons of both situations, and decide what is Best from here.