Living at home again

Canada
January 12, 2012 2:47pm CST
how many people here have moved out then moved back home? currently i rent the basement off my parents after moving back home have you noticed that even though you are renting they act as though hats your's is there?? no matter what i buy food for example i will put in MY fridge tehn come home and its gone and they simply say well we wanted it but i am not allowed to take food from their fridge i have even tried putting my name on my food and they simply say i am being selfish I BOUGHT IT FOR ME! I am not allowed to eat their food why can they eat mine?
11 responses
• Jacksonville, Florida
12 Jan 12
I moved out for years and I am back here now since my husband got hurt at work. We have 3 children also that live here. Thank goodness it is a big house. It seems to me parents always think like parents no matter how grown you have become. Even though your not a child, since your living home they act like you still are. That is how I feel anyway. Some days are better than others. We are hoping to be in our own home again in a few months once I get a job and go back to school. We are going to be saving and saving to get on our own...This is really tough and just know someone else is going through the same thing you are! I am here if you need to talk or vent. I do understand completely!
• Canada
13 Jan 12
its not always the big things such as stealing my food either its when i put my purse down when i come in the door and go back out to grab stuff from my car and the second your back in the door "don't for get to put your purse away, oh and your shoes you never put your shoes away" because i left my shoes on the landing when i was 15!!! not since then that has got to be hard moving back home with your kids as well I could not imagine that
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Jan 12
I understand trust me! I go through the same types of things. Its really hard and annoying. My parents seem to know how to affect me. It gets to me every time. I try to ignore it but thats hard to do when you are living it! I know how hard it is to get on your own again too. Especially in this economy. People act like your choosing to live there, like you dont want to leave. Yeah right, I would NOT live here by choice! That is for sure. We cannot wait to save enough to get out!
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Jan 12
It is hard with our children because they act like my kids are theirs. They yell at them when I am right there which really makes me mad. I wish they could just be good grandparents!!
@parascevi (314)
• Greece
13 Jan 12
I used to live alone for about 9 years because i moved to next town for studies and work.Now i live again with my parents but there are no such problems. On the contrary, my parents do not let me buy my own food and they find this really insulting for their own child to buy his/her food from the moment this is parents' obligation. I pay for my personal expenses but no food and no bills.Here in Greece all parents are like that and they help financially their kids with loans and other things.
• Canada
14 Jan 12
My parents pay for nothing i have to pay them rent to live here, I pay my own food, my own schooling, my own bills for everything
• Greece
14 Jan 12
So sorry to hear that. You must find all these really difficult and how do you manage to work and go to school at the same time? This is really hard and i admire your strength and courage. I wish you good luck with everything you do in your life.
• Canada
18 Jan 12
i go to night school after work generally it is difficult but that's kinda life they have it no so its so hard to afford a house or apartment even to rent let alone own
@maximax8 (27056)
13 Jan 12
I live in my own bungalow. In my younger days I used to go to stay at youth hostels and backpacker hostels. I put my name and the date on any food put in the fridge in the hostelers kitchen. I made sure it was in a dark bag so couldn't see what it was. For example I wouldn't have put a juice carton in the side of the fridge. It is unfair if you are not allowed their food yet they eat your food. Maybe you could buy a mini fridge and put it in your own room. The trouble with a fridge in a room is they tend to make a bit of a noise. Good luck
• Canada
14 Jan 12
unfortunetly i already have my own fridge thats were they are taking my food from
13 Jan 12
is the fridge in your room or is it in their kitchen? i had this problem too, but i was sharing a house with other people, people were stealing food from me so i put the fridge in my room along with everything else that belonged to me and i put a strong lock on my door, just because this is your parents house you are renting the basement from them so they have no rights to help themselves to your stuff, tell them this, or put the fridge in your room and put a lock on the door, that's the only thing i can think of.
• Canada
14 Jan 12
the fridge is in the basement jsut outside my room as that is the only plug that can hold the power draw from it the plugs in my half of the basement are all conected so it flips breakers if it was in my rooms. I have tried locking my door they broke the door and changed the knobs back
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
I haven't experienced to move out home. Ever since I live with my parents. They don't want me to rent a room in the city for school. I just have to travel from home to school back and forth. Why are you and your parents acting that way? You should give and take. That is the very essence of being a family. Sharing is loving.
• Canada
14 Jan 12
i pay rent as soon as i was old enough to work i have had to pay rent i pay my own schooling as well as i go to night school because i have to work durring the day to pay my bills
@tatzkie23 (774)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
That's strange. They let you rent your house? Did you live there before? or you should start paying them because you are old now and have a job? Well, if that's what they want. They get your foods out of the fridge without asking you is way too harsh! Well, why don't you try to buy them some foods, and separate your own and tell them that what is yours is yours. LOL I moved out when i was going to review for my exam. It's my first time to be far away from my family. But i enjoyed it. Being alone and being independent.
• Canada
14 Jan 12
i moved back home and rent a basement apartment off of them i can not aford to buy them food i can hardly fit food in my budget for me
• United States
13 Jan 12
They probably feel that because it is their home that they can do or use whatever they want. Some parents never view their children as grownups and never give them the same respect that they'd give others. Or it could be that they just want you to move out but dont have the heart to just tell you that. So instead they are doing things to annoy you so that you dont get too comfortable but will be motivated to move out without them having to tell you and hurt your feelings. I've never moved out and moved back home again. I do whatever I need to do so that I'll never have to because I know my mom would be in my business and treat me as a child.
• Canada
13 Jan 12
oh they are not shy about telling me they want me to move out that is for sure its just not somethign reasonable for me to do right now they want me to live with my b/f but i have been there done that and it ended badly dont want to rush into that again
@Hatley (132313)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jan 12
hi innocents lost get a padlock and key as they have no right to\ get into your food at all.its your refrigerator and your food. You are not being selfish as they made you buy your own food,you bought and paid for it so its yours. lock the fridge and to hell with them , they need to rethink their actions.
• Canada
13 Jan 12
I tried putting a lock on my door by changing the door knob and came home from work to my door broken and the lock changed back as they said it is their house their rules i don't have to like them just except them this is why i search apartments every day
@Porcospino (16476)
• Denmark
12 Jan 12
I moved out of my parents home many years ago. After I moved out I lived in an apartment by myself at first and then I moved in with my ex-boyfriend. When I ex-boyfriend and I broke up I had nowhere to live so I moved back to my parents home for a while. It was a strange feeling to live with my parents again after being independent for many years, but I didn't experience the same situation as you. My parents sometimes ate my food, but that didn't really bother me much because they always let me eat their food as well, so we just shared the food that we had. I think it is a little strange that your parents take your food and refuse to let you eat their food.
• Canada
13 Jan 12
I had the exact same situation i moved out for more then 3 years but when me and my boyfriend moved in together then we broke up i had to move back home as I could not find a place i can afford on my own.
• United States
12 Jan 12
Well maybe you should try moving back out onto your own. I think they are giving you the hint of maybe you should go out again. I think thats what they are trying to do because there not liking you live at home or something because if they are doing that to you then they have no respect for you or your money. I moved out about 5 years ago and i do live back at home and have been there for almost 4 years so i moved out for a year and not along year at all and wish i was out on my own again because at times its dificult and i understand that. I buy food and use the winn dixie card that gives us money off at the gas station and my mom goes oh i used that sorry. So now all i have to do is buy my food and use my own card that i will be investing in because i feel it was rude on her behalf to use that. I know where you are coming from so this year i hope to be buying a house.
• Canada
13 Jan 12
If moving out was an option i would not be back home again. I am currently going to school at night and working three jobs those jobs hardly give me enough money to cover cat insurance, gas, rent, school and food to rent a room alone else were (which is not an option as i can't stand other people in my living space) i'd be looking at $600 an apartment i'm looking at $1000 a month defiantly not something I can afford. my parents have never had much respect for anything that is mine i now hide my spare car key and keep my regular car key's beside my bed as its nothing for me before to wake up and go to leave for work and my car would be gone
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
13 Jan 12
I live outside of home since i was in a boarding school,i was so happy and had a memorable moments with my best friends,since i graduated from college last year and i find a job in another city which is really far from my hometown.Of course i do not live together with my parents.Anyway,i was about going home for several days,i feel really excited.