Should kids have a set bedtime?

@samd87 (327)
January 13, 2012 10:16am CST
I believe that they should. My kids are 5 and 3 and they go to bed at 7.30pm on a school night, on weekends i don't mind them staying up a little later, but even then i would have them in bed by 9pm. My sister has different thoughts then me on this and her children don't really have a bed time, they can just go when they are tired. What do you guys think on this? Should kids have a set bedtime or not?
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@maximax8 (28559)
• United Kingdom
13 Jan 12
I believe children should have a set time to go to bed that corresponds with his or her age. My younger kids are aged four years old and aged two years old. Every day of the week they go to bed just before seven O Clock in in the evening. At the weekend if something special happens like a day out in summer they can go to bed as late as nine O Clock in the evening. Each child should sleep in his or her own bed. Every parent has different ideas and children can differ too. I believe it is good to get into a routine in the home.
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• Canada
18 Jan 12
I agree, I think that having a routine is very important! Especially younger children, so that later on they are no stranger to learnning other important things such as boundaries, rules, other routines, etc.
@timetravel (1428)
• United States
14 Jan 12
I never had one for my kids. Kids are like anyone else - some need more sleep than others. Most parents set a bedtime for their own benefit, not for the benefit of the kids. If you really want your kids out of your hair by 7:30 each night, and they aren't tired, at least allow them to read in bed or play quietly with a small toy. When tired they will fall asleep. What I did have was a set GET UP time lol...and believe me, getting up at 6:30 a.m. every day - they were plenty tired by night time!
@samd87 (327)
14 Jan 12
With my kids it doesn't matter what time they go to bed they are up at 7am every morning. My kids have a set bedtime, sometimes they don't want to go to bed, but i know if they go to bed any later they are always tired the next day, so i do think its wrong for you to make the judgment that people who set a bed time for their kids just want them out of their hair.
• United States
14 Jan 12
Notice I said "most" - not you, not anyone in particular? From what I've heard and seen, that is often the case. And, just as adults need to deal with being overtired if they stay up "too late", sometimes a kid will, too. When mine were very little I put them to bed when they were obviously tired - after a bit of unwinding time - which involved reading to them, or playing a lullaby tape very softly....bedtime rituals can help a small child a lot.
@samd87 (327)
14 Jan 12
It sounded a little like you were having a go at people, I do see what you mean though. Yea im sure some parents might do that. I think its just a case of every child being different sometimes, My kids would stay up all night if I let them, they can sometimes hide the fact that they are tired very well lol
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jan 12
I never used to set a certain bedtime for my children. Then I realized they were cranky and my husband and I never got to spend any time together alone. It was causing us to fight a lot and everything because it felt like the day never ended peacefully. So now we do have a set bedtime for them and it makes things much easier on us.
@samd87 (327)
13 Jan 12
Great point! When the children go to bed its great to have quality time with the other half.
20 Jan 12
I believe children should have a bedtime. My daughter goes to bed at 8 o'clock every night. When she gets a little older the time will go up but she is little and needs her sleep. You dont want to have to deal with a grumpy kid the next day because they didnt get enough sleep that night. Also for all the moms that stay at home and take care of their kids and dont work when will they be able to get their mommy time in! :)
• Canada
18 Jan 12
My kids have a set bedtime! My oldest is 5 and goes to Kindergarten a few full days a week. I feel fair is only fair, and if my oldest has to be in bed by 8 every week day night so does my youngest. I don't mind if they stay up an extra hour or two on nights that she doesn't have school the next day, but no later then 10 for sure. Kids especially younger ones need their sleep, and school can take a lot out of a child.
• Philippines
16 Jan 12
Yes, there should be a set bedtime for kids because if they won't have a fixed schedule the tendency is that they'll have dark circles under their eyes. It is not good that kids will sleep only when they're tired it's because it can gave them too much stress on their body.
@KG4SXF (19)
• United States
15 Jan 12
Yes. Kids should have a set bedtime. They need a lot more sleep than an adult.
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
15 Jan 12
To me is good to set up a routine so children know what to expect and bed time is one of them...besides parents need time for themselves as well other wise how can they discuss any thing important with a child interrupting every now and then? I had 4 children...the youngest went to bed at 7 pm and the older at 8 pm except on week ends of course when they were allowed to stay up till 10 pm[ the older ones] if we were watching a movie or playing a game which we did most week ends.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
15 Jan 12
Your children: your rules.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
I think children must have still be on their parents until the age of seven because the comfort of parents is very important for children's growth...
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
14 Jan 12
Believe me, your childrens teachers love you for that! Children need plenty of sleep to make the most of out life. Remember, their futures depend on learning everything they can, both in school and socially! Teachers can recognize lack of sleep faster than anyone. I am not a teacher but I witnessed how an over tired child is affected by the lack of sleep when I did day care!
@deebomb (15322)
• United States
14 Jan 12
Hello sam and welcome to myLot. When I was raising my kids I found that a well rested child is a happier child and therefore a happy parent. A well rested child doesn't get as frustrated as a tired child doe too. A set bed time helps to get a child into a regular routine for school and as an adult for facing the world of work.So in my opinion children do need a set bed time.
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
Yes I think kids should have a set bedtime.. one thing is that they are still growing and they need enough sleep to be well rested so they can grow better other than that sleep helps sustain the stamina they need for the next day's activities especially if they are at school age already..
@tamirs (1808)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
Definitely sam. My daughter is seven and should be inside the school before 7 in the morning. I thought her to sleep early,830 pm so she'll wake up at 530 during weekdays.And sleeps at 9 during weekends. That is better so i don't have a hard time waking her up..
@yanzalong (10174)
• Indonesia
14 Jan 12
I agree with you, kids should be trained to be desciplined in time. By telling them regularly about the time for bed, time for dinner and so on. Kids will grow up with all of this routine warning. We can start with time, later we can tell them about what should be done and what mustn't be done.
@jtj_hello (627)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
Yes, they should have a set bed time. It is said that the body repairs itself from 10PM to 2AM. It is important that by that time, our children had already went to sleep since it is important to their growth.
• India
14 Jan 12
Totally agree to this one.. My mom was quite strict when I was a kid- No Tv after 9 and 9-10 was story book time and off to bed by 10.. On weekends though it was a little more relaxed , but I never did stay up very late.. And though at that time I resented it, I feel its done a lot of good to me as I used to get a good night's sleep which made me healthy, I dint spoil my eyes watching too much tv and it inculcated the habit of reading and also being punctual in me.. I would say thanks to my mom.Cheers
@ardoy0731 (6865)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
Don't have any kids yet but my niece and nephew is living with us.Kids should really sleep early and we set a sleeping time for them.When my niece sleep really late,she having a hard time to go to school the next day and having tantrums already.I guess kids should be practice to sleep in a certain time for them to used to it.
@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
13 Jan 12
As a mother, I can tell you that my toddlers (4 and 3) have a set bedtime. They go to bed at 7pm with bath time and everything at about 6:30/6:45 pm. I don't understand the point of letting a child stay up super late at night. Once they hit maybe about 15 or 16 then I probably wont mind as much. I mean either way they will still have to get up for school so they should be responsible enough to go to sleep on time. At a young age I think they need a set bedtime. The structure helps with schooling and such and for those parents that want five minutes to themselves without staying up all hours of the night. It is the perfect way to do it. I put my sons to bed at 7pm (7:30pm if dinner ran a bit late) and then I can watch my TV shows instead of NickJR all day and do anything I might need to do including clean with no interruptions.
@dodo19 (33583)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
13 Jan 12
I definitely think that children should have a set bedtime. Granted, their age will affect what time they go to bed, but they should definitely have a set bedtime.