Why do so many people view marriage as a 'death' sentence?

@AidaLily (1450)
United States
January 14, 2012 12:28pm CST
Now I have been on quite a few forums and I always see people complaining about marriage or wanting to be single or possibly just missing out on life. Its not. There are a lot of things a person can still do while married unless you are in a controlling relationship or you just give up on things. Problem: You miss going out on dates with your husband? Answer: Save up money and learn to money manage to the point where you only pay for things you need and then with the money you saved up go on a date. If you have kids, plan date night ahead of time and get a babysitter or family member to watch them for you for a couple hours. Trust me. It works. Problem: You miss hanging out with friends. Answer: Read the above answer and if you don't have a controlling partner then go out with your friends. Sure they can hook up with random people but if thats all you want you only had/have two options: 1.) be ok with an open relationship or 2.) ask why you got married in the first place. Problem: You would like to go shopping. Answer: Go while the kids are at school if you have them and obviously save up money. Stop buying stuff that you don't need if you want to take yourself on a nice shopping trip. Overall, my husband and I would have over a 100 a month and have saved it a few times. Problem: Housework and Taking Care of Kids. Answer: You had to grow up sometime. I mean isn't it nice to know that everything you are doing now, is something that you are doing on your own rather than having someone hold your hand through it? Why do people honestly think their parents enjoy it so much? After my children turn 18, they will have responsibility. It wont be they can work and just spend their money and live in my house while I do all the cleaning and such. No. They will pay rent, clean their own messes, and so on. Maybe that is where a lot of parents messed up. I guess I just think people who complain or something about marriage or talk about the 'grass is greener on the other side' weren't ready to be married. If you were ready to be married, then you wouldn't have those thoughts in MY opinion. What do you guys think?
1 response
• United States
14 Jan 12
I like your post and hope many will as well. I know this one girl who seems stupid to me. I hate sometimes knowing the things she says out of her mouth. She sounds retarded.. she is always talking about people like they are lower than her because she is single and does for herself. Even to the point she had said she does not rely on a man. I think in like having someone who has your best interest and needs at heart is awesome. I know my man can rely on me to make him feel complete. She still lives at home so with that said I try to let go o the stupidness that comes out of her mouth. She has no clue what a real relationship feels like. I would lie her to move out on her own and then talk about what she does for herself. Paying mom and a rent is not like paying your landlord a full months rent.
• United States
14 Jan 12
I can't agree with you more. I wish everyone saw this like we do. I was married and it failed because he cheated and still I know marriage works.