is it bad to be good so much?

@asliah (11149)
Philippines
January 18, 2012 4:52am CST
greetings to all mylot users and friends,now a days many people change because of the journey they had in their life,from being good they went to bad and sometimes bad went to good,but more of them is from being good went to bad,because now a days people used their mind and not their heart,because being good so much is sometimes the looser one so that they suddenly change from being good to bad,do you think sometimes we need to be bad to survive?is it bad to be good so much?why?
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@BoboMama (321)
• India
18 Jan 12
A single bad guy can ruin a whole group of good guys ;) Sometimes, you gotta pretend to be bad to survive.
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
even in the family the bad children they call it blocksheep which affect the reputation of the family name. however if you are bad guy only your chance is to survive not to easy life without worry. because people think that around us are all bad guys... do I de-rail the idea? see you around
@Annrose21 (161)
18 Jan 12
It is not bad to be good so much. Actually, it is not bad to display or manifest a trait or behavior you originally have. It is up to the public to recognize or critique your own behavior. After all, you don't have to become a facade just to be accepted by the public. But one must take into consideration about his/her dignity and principle. This should not be abused when you display goodness.
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@allamgirl (2145)
• Philippines
24 Jan 12
I don't think that it would be bad to be so good. I don't think that there is such a thing as being too good. If there are more people who are too good, the world be a better place. I think you have a valid point though. People does not become too good because they are afraid that they would be taken advantage of. That, I think, is the negative side there. Too good people are being corrupted by people who aren't good.
@digidogo (446)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
It is never bad to be good but if you were referring to the extent where in it ruins someone, for example, it spoils them to the point where in it affects them, then that would be bad. Otherwise, keep being as good as you are. If people take your for granted or abuse you for that then it is of their faults that they lose you. Also, from what I learned. When you are in the real world, you would have to be aggressive at times to get what you want but not the the extent of violence. You would have to fight for what you stand and plan to achieve in life.
@jordq7 (576)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Hi there asliah!!! Well I don't think it is bad to be a good person.Although sometimes it's really the good persons who were being battered and mistreated I still don't think that they should have thoughts of turning into a bad person.Amidst all the sufferings and pain in this world, we can still have time to be happy. There were actually time in my life where I think that I should really change my heart and be a bad person.Well not really a bad person but someone who ha power and untouchable so no one can hurt me anymore.I've experience so many hardships in my life that he thoughts of changing always come across my mind. But I don't know what happen to me.After many years I am still the same me.But even if it's like that I am not ashamed of being good.I am just thinking that the hardships will only make me a lot stronger and it will mold me to become the person I wanted to be.
19 Jan 12
hi:) I think there are times that you need to be good and there are times when you need to be mean, depends on the situations.I also noticed that some people become meaner this days and do some bad things, maybe because of poverty or greediness... but whatever it is that drive them we can't still judge them to what they become because we really don't know their intentions and what they been through in life.
• United States
19 Jan 12
I don't think we need to be "bad" in particular but more-so assertive. We don't need to be mean and hurtful, but we don't need to be pushovers and carpets either, or just conformists without a voice. In other words, we can still be good, just... not weak. We have to be strong individuals who will push back if pushed and we have to stand on our turf and not bend so much even if they are friends. Also, I don't think you need to be this to really "survive", but to strive well and be a bit more in control.
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Hi Asliah, I think it is because people would tend to abuse because you are too good. There are certain limitations on how to be good...and that is a limit it couldn't harm us. Usually people will just abuse you to do this and that...not knowing that there are hurting you or you are hurting. Good people tend to do things that isn't really their task. They do things because some people told them to do so. I am good but I have set my limitations..and I think that is really very important. I don't think we really need to be bad in order to survive...we can stay good but set a limitation. Happy Mylotting!
@tatzkie23 (773)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Change is good if it's for the better. People change sometimes, they change for the good or the bad. We really don't need to be bad to survive, i think what you mean is that should be more tougher? I know some people are struggling with life, they have problems, like i do. But sometimes, those challenges can make you tougher and stronger. But other people see the other way around, they tend to be bad, to be aggressive, it's their own way on how to face their problems. I agree with you that people now, use their head/brain and not their heart. It is supposed to be like that. Since the brain controls everything. As for me, I've been through a lot of things, but i still see the positive side of it. I'll just accept them, and face it. I ask somebody whether it's my family or friends. I know that i can't live alone. I don't think that being bad will help you survive. You can't just be bad all the time, because you're just getting things worst. Survive anyway.
@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
I think being good or being bad are quite broad terms. It depends on what one meant for saying these. For me we are good if we follow all the laws, natural, divine or our national laws and we don't violate any of these. Being bad is the opposite. There's nothing bad about it. No one will oppress a person if nobody will have himself oppressed. I don't know if this is the right term hope you can get what I meant.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
18 Jan 12
Hey, you don't have to be good to be able to survive. Just follow your heart, and follow your sane mind. Do not try to hurt people, or make other people who treat you good in a desperate position. Someday, karma will haunt you in your doorway. So, no matter what, do the best to protect yourself, at the same time, do not hurt other people.
@jeetking (190)
18 Jan 12
You are right my friend most people turn bad from being good because it is seen mostly that people who are good by nature turns bad eventually as people take advantage of goodness for sinful activities.
@vandana7 (62543)
• India
18 Jan 12
I think we all are given a definition of good which is not really the right definition. But there are plenty of words and feelings that are hard for a child to understand. So older members of family and in general the society tell the child it is good to help. But what they dont tell is that it is good to help if you can. Nobody needs to forego their needs to be good. Even if the person isn't foregoing anything he or she is still good as long as she is not snatching or stealing anything from others. As long as he or she is not killing anybody. As long as he or she does not have any ulterior motives of becoming friends with another. There are a few sentences like that which a child only understands with experience because each feeling must be experienced and the brain needs to analyze for deciding which course of action should be followed. The good and bad behavior therefore depends upon the experience the child or the person had in recent past. It may seem extreme at times but then that is it..what influenced him or her was that experience. The person per se was neither good nor bad.
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Well actually it depends upon the person, if he/she is comfortable at being bad or good all the time.. I guess to be able to survive in this life is it needs to be balanced.. You can't be good all the time and so as to be bad all the time.. IF you're too good, people might abuse you and if you're bad, people might hate you.. So I guess everything should always be balance..
@hoodedboi (185)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
It's bad, when we lose our self along the way....
@ibytes (81)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
being good so much wont be a bad thing. It will be bad if people will abused your goodness. Being good is not bad when you know when to be bad and good. Many people says people with a good heart can pass away easilly. But there wasnt any people who havent did anything wrong! Thanks.
@CRIVAS (1820)
• Canada
18 Jan 12
There is a saying: The good finish last. Personally I would rather finish last and be a good guy, then win and be the bad guy. I have taught my children that although people may say that good guys never win in life, they are wrong. Good guys always win, they just might not see the prize right away. Personally I think people go bad because in this day and age, it is easier to be bad, then it is to be good. Since I have never been one to take the easy way out, I will continue to be good and I will continue to teach my children that it is better to be the good guy. I hope that you don't let people change who you are, never let anyone tell you that being good is bad, cause they are wrong. I am glad that you started this discussion because it gives us good guys the chance to let others know: Yes we are good, and we will stay that way! Happy mylotting.
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
It is not bad to be good so much but you need to limit your goodness to people, since other people may took advantage of your goodness. Sometimes, we have to be smart or be a wise man in dealing or meet with people because today, there are more people that can't be trusted and we need to protect ourselves.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
It really depends on the situation. Sometimes in life we have to risk and deal with things not part on the plan. I guess even though we let bad to rule in our life is that we want to be good to others. Too much is bad. We need to control ourselves. Let us not be too good and be too bad.
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
Hello Asliah, I think it would be better if you maintain in doing good. Becoming good is a lot more better than becoming bad. Sometimes, we cannot avoid the things which are bad since we are just human, but it would be pleasing in the eyes of GOD if we do the good things, which are in accordance to His will. Being good will not in any way make you bad and being bad will definitely put you in trouble. Happy mylotting and GOD bless.