First date

By C
@ShyBear88 (16862)
United States
January 18, 2012 11:29am CST
How old where you when you went out on your first date? I was 20 when I went on my first date. I know for some people that seems a bit old but it didn't seem that old to me. A little bit older and wiser for a dating it seemed right for me over when I was young and started liking guys.
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14 responses
• United States
18 Jan 12
I was 19 and it was a double date. This is a good question because when I think back, I really don't recall going on a lot of dates. I'd hang out with friends who'd happen to invite other friends over, who'd just happen to be guys. lol But even that didn't happen often because I was never very social. That's my personality and I'm happy with it but for mostly everyone else, I think it is good to go on a lot of dates to meet a potential mate or get to know the one you're with better before getting serious.
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@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
19 Jan 12
I don't think everyone needs a lot of dates to find the one person. It just depends on your age and what you want cause at different ages you want different things out of a relationship and if your not with the right person those ages of what you want hey might not want as well. I only dated one man and I'm married to him. But I waited tip I was 20 and then felt okay and comfortable with any kind of date.
• United States
20 Jan 12
Well said. You're right not everyone needs to go on a lot of dates to know what or who they want. It really depends on the person.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
23 Jan 12
Yep.
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
19 Jan 12
I was 16 when I had my first date. Many girls were dating younger than that, and there were girls that didn't date until they were older.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Veryone is ready to date at different ages there is no wrong age to date.
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• United States
19 Jan 12
No there is no wrong date. I don't even think I would have gone out on a date at that age. My girlfriends brother asked me out. I had known him for years. Needless to say we only went out once or twice. We just weren't suited for each other.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
19 Jan 12
That is way I said above everyone is ready at different ages to date. When your old enough to Amira choices for yourself the right time comes to you. 16 is like a normal age for dating someone any age over like 13 is a normal age of dating.
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• United States
18 Jan 12
I was 17 when I first met my boyfriend and started going out with him. Its probably better to start dating when you're older and are a little smarter and ready to have an actual relationship with someone.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
18 Jan 12
17 isn't too young. I see that as a norm for most people. Yeah waiting till your a bit older and wiser and smarter and use your head a lot more then your hormones it's a better I think at least for myself. I wasn't ready for all that adult stuff till I was with my husband I just knew he was the one and we whee friends for a long time.
• United States
18 Jan 12
I was just like that with my boyfriend now. We were friends months before we went out. Looking back, I'm glad I waited to date until I met the right guy. Now, I couldn't be happier with him. I think age does make a difference in dating. Your relationships with people should be meaningful and not just for the sake of having a boyfriend or girlfriend.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
19 Jan 12
I don't think age of weather youdated young or not means that it wasn't a meaningful relationship. There are young adults that take dating just as serious as and an older adult would there are some old and you that date just to date and have someone shower them with affection.
• India
18 Jan 12
I did not have a girlfriend when I was in school and so my first dating experience was in my first year of college.. I was 18 at that time and we had just started seeing each other and I took her to a small eatout next to her place.. We are now engaged and about to get married this year end and the eat out still remains one of our favorite places to visit.. Cheers
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
18 Jan 12
College is school. But that is cool. Studying is important. I was out of school when me and my husband started dating. Which scho wasn't the reason that stopped me just myself. Been Madrid almost 2 years. Well good luck on the wedding and I wish you a happy marriage when you get married.
• India
19 Jan 12
Hi shybear in India we dont call our college the school.. School refers to education that we receive till we are 16-17 and then we apply for a college for a specialization after that .. We dont have anything separate like junior high etc but we term the entire 14 years as school..I totally forgot about how the education system is different here while writing the response.. SOrry for that confusion.. Cheers . Happy Mylotting
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
19 Jan 12
School in the US is 12 years it's over when you 18 and it's your choice to continue education and if you continue on and go to college your still learning and your still a student so there for your still in school.
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
23 Jan 12
I guess for me it really depends on what you would consider to be a date. I started seeing the first guy that I was ever with when I was nineteen years old. However, though the two of us spent a lot of time together, I wouldn't really say that we ever went on a real date. So, my first real date would have been about 14 months after that when Donnie and I broke up and I started seeing Mike. Mike actually took me out of my first date where he bought me dinner and then took me to a movie.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
23 Jan 12
Date can be in our out at places. I also say it's a date if you or the other pay or make something. If flowers are involved it's a date or a kind way of saying I like you.
@KrauseHome (31966)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I was 18 when I went out on my first Single date. I used to hang out at my 1st guy I liked sisters house every Sunday and we even double dated with them a couple of times, and such. It was quite interesting looking back as there was always the safe guard more than when you single date.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
23 Jan 12
There is no difference between a double date then a just a date. Both are a lot the same one you get just one on one time vs no one one one time. I never went on any double days. Me and my husband went ou just the two off to a lot of places when we where 20 although he started dating before me. We didn't have to depend on others to get around shin is nice. I didn't that's a car just my husband had his own.
@Craydz (65)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Well good for you. But as i remember my first date it's a little bit odd for me. Cause I don't know what to do. It's kind a funny though. But it's a good experience somehow.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
19 Jan 12
You left out how old you where?
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
Hi Shybear88, I just couldn't remember what was my first date or where did we went back then. I guess, I wasn't into dating before because I am really afraid of my parents. My parents were really strict that I couldn't get out of the house while I was still in high school. When I went to college, things seemed similar as well. Anyways, maybe I went to the mall and just walk around. Or maybe not because I was afraid that my parents or somebody who knows me will see me in there. And right now that everything is OK, things are going well..and I tend to watch movie or even go malling. And I am happy that things are really OK. Have a nice day!
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
19 Jan 12
Going to the mall is not a date at all. Movies is a date for sure. By the sound of it you never really been on a date that sucks you need to go on a real one and don't be scard it's not scare and who care who see your your an adult not a child so act like it.
@vt689586 (585)
• India
18 Jan 12
i was 19 when i went on my first date.and before that i am busy in my studies .there was no time for girls.and after first date everything reversed.now i am always available for date ha ha ha. but i think my decision was correct. now everything is in my control there is no problem at all about the carrier.i am cleaver huh?
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
18 Jan 12
Well if your 19 and going to college that is still school. Everyone has the right time to start dating you just got to feel for it.
• United States
18 Jan 12
It depends on what you mean by a date. I was nine when I started a relationship with a boy five years older than I was, and we dated for five years, but we hid it from both our sets of parents so we never officially had a night out or a date. Three years after we went our separate ways, I started dating another boy and went out on a few dates with him (to see an ice-structure festival, to go DJ-ing with him and his father, etc.). Later that year, I met the man who is now my husband, so we've been on quite a few dates! I'm not going to say the older the better, since so many people tried to tell me I was too young when I started dating my husband, and I still know to this day that they were speaking of the majority of sixteen-year-olds and could not have known about my personal maturity level. Still, there is nothing wrong with waiting until later on to start dating, and quite honestly, I'd recommend it. I have a fading relationship with my best friend, who is 24 now and still does not seem ready to date, yet she's expecting a baby with her boyfriend. My uncle is past 40 and still isn't mature enough to date. And, after growing up with both my mother and father, I'd venture so far to say that my mother wasn't ready for a relationship (and, after the divorce, still isn't). On an ending note, it normally depends on the person, but in general the later the better. There are too many kids trying to be adults when they aren't ready, having babies in high school, etc. One last thing: if you are going to start dating young, don't get physical. As young as I dated, I saved my virginity for marriage, and it was one of two best decisions of my life. No comparisons, no STDs, no heartache, no memories of other people...I would highly recommend it.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
18 Jan 12
Well then I'll clarify for you. A date as in you or the other person paid for the date, parents where not there to watch. You might have kissed or not. Ita not a date you pay for only your half. Double date or friend dates with a group of friends with a person that asked you out you asked them out is a date I'm taking about. Dating normally is around your middle school years and up elementary years really don't count since most all of the time pArents are always involved. I see at when your a young adult those are dating years and up. Everyone dates at different times. I had fronds dating at 13 or 14. Most all are in people's high school years when you finally finger out all these crazy emotions but that doesn't make some mature because they are dating. Maturity isn't paste off of age but experience and being adult like in choices that you make and act. There was guys I liked and was into but I'm old fashion when it comes to dating I can't the guy to ask me and not me ask them. I was t ready for allot those crazy adult things till my late teen years and then there was no guys I wanted to be woth. I always liked my husband and he always liked me by was scared of me so he never asked me out in high school. He wait till I was 20 to ask me and ever since been together. I wasn't into waiting to save my virginity I was waiting for the right guy it just so happened to be the man I'm married with and have a family with.
@dheckerz (473)
• Philippines
18 Jan 12
I really can't remember what was my age when I had my first date. This needs recalling =). At any rate, I would agree with what you said that dating is better done when both parties are mature enough to know.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
18 Jan 12
Veryone is ready at different times. My was a little bit later then some. My husband started dating around 19 so he had a few dates before me. I was always mature of me age bust just no ready for that kind of step into being with boys outside of being friends.
@sk66rc (4264)
• United States
18 Jan 12
Well, if I count the "play date", I probably was around 8... I remember teacher had us in couples for some project... We were goofing around in class & got in trouble... We were in "time out" together & she said "What are you doing after this?". We started laughing & we ended up walking home together... When we got to her house, she said, "Hold on a minute...", then she runs inside... I can hear her yelling out to her mom, "Mom...!!! Could you take us to icecream place? We're still on time out date...". Her mom called my mom to make sure it was ok & off we went to finish out date... Looking back on it, I thought it was cute... I did start seriously dating around 6 but I don't remember my first date...
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
18 Jan 12
School projects is not date. A date is when two people go out on there own to get to know each other in hopes that they are the one person they need in there life. 8 year olds don't date teens and up date. That's not dating when parents are involved. You need to look up dating and what it is. Date is when you or the other person pays for it no there parents and dating leads to kissing and touching and normally little kids don't do that unless abused at a young age.
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• United States
18 Jan 12
Im not sure how old i was on my first date but i know where i went, what movie i saw and which boyfriend i went with. I was either 14 or 15 years old and we went to the movie theater and there was no one really else in there and we saw the movie Glitter with Mariah Carey in it. Weird how i remember things but i still see him around today and i can see what he is up to on facebook and i enjoy still being able to see what hes doing of course. Well of course waiting till your older is i guess somewhat better if you think you arent ready when your younger and you might be wiser and more intelligent then of course too. I of course likes boys and wanted to go out and be with my boyfriends all the time.
@ShyBear88 (16862)
• United States
18 Jan 12
I wasn't ready for all that drama that comes with dating. Other girls can be quite irritating when they want the same guy and I really don't want to fight over a guy. That and I'm old fashion where the guy asks the girls and all of the guys where scared of me which was a good thing because I wasnt ready for any of that adult stuff. Some girls are ready for it before others it doesn't mean I wasnt into guys I just wasn't into them in the same way.
@boyuancy (1709)
• India
18 Jan 12
I think I'm gonna be 25 when I go for a first date. I haven't dated ever, but I'm not ready still ready yet. I'm 20 now, and if that's old, I don't what what's 25!!!