The one that got away

January 19, 2012 5:00pm CST
Hello There MyLotters! Now i don't know if this is a discussion that has been talked about here before. I'm just new here so here it goes. Do you believe that Even though a person ends up with a Wife/Husband or Boyfriend/Girlfriend, there is always another Person that He/She would consider as "The one that got away". I know a couple of persons that have this. There was even a song By Katy Perry about this (Just Sayin'). I mean They end up in good relationships and they love each other but they would have someone in their past that could have worked out real well if they got together first. A person that you would imagine to be with instead. now i don't know if some of you would consider this possible even if you love the person that you are currently with. but sometimes there is really a person that you would consider as that Person who got away. In my Native Language "Sayang, naging Okay sana kung Nagkatuluyan kami (Too Bad, it could have been Okay if we ended up together)". What are your thoughts about this? Comment Below, Let me Know.
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@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
20 Jan 12
When I read topics like this, there's always one person that comes to mind. It's my suitor back in college. I guess he was really my first love, puppy loves excluded. I think of him often, but then what we would have had could not replace the happiness that I have now with the one I am presently with. People do move on. It just takes time. And instead of focusing on the ones who have already slipped away from us, why not cherish the one you have now? Someone in myLot told me before that some people are in the past for a reason. It's really true.
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@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
-thumbs up- Yeah! Why people like to think about the past that much, I don't understand. Since I was young, I have decided to live a life with no regrets.
@Theresaaiza (10466)
• Australia
23 Jan 12
Those are the people who never really had a closure. You call them "fixated". For a time, I was. I had regrets especially after seeing him happily married, with 2 kids now and already financially stable. It makes me think, ouch, it should have been me celebrating those successes with him. But then, maybe he wouldn't have ended that way if his life went on another way, like if it were us together. There is no use pushing your luck. I believe everything had been for the best
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
hmm, i see. But that's alright. There might have been something better in store for you.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
23 Jan 12
might sound strange, but I don't have such person maybe later in life I will, I don't know yes there were a few I thought we could be together but things happened and they chose to either cheat, or left so yeah, I don't have "the one that got away"
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Human beings in general are fixated on the concepts of 'if' and 'what could have been', so yes, I do think everyone has that feeling of considering a person as 'the one that got away'. I have a couple of friends who have good relationships, but there would always be this one person that would have been 'it', but outside forces or something didn't exactly make things work. I think this is similar to the 'first love' concept too, don't you think so?
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Hello there iampaolo! I was about to make a discussion like this and the topic is about " The one that got away". Before Katy Perry released the song I have read an article about "The One That Got Away". I was really so touched about it. The One That Got Away is simply the person who seems to have everything but then the cards didn't play right. It's kinda bit so sad for this kind of relationship but I think the One Got Away is not the right person for you. That person came into our lives for a purpose and that is to bring out the best in you.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
i used to ponder on this, but fortunately i got out of it as it would only cause frustration and depression, lol! admittedly, there was some sort of resentment of letting go only to realize that it was better to let go as it was really not meant to be.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
Ah, pinoys like us are just hopeless romantics, don't you think? Hmmm, I'm not married yet. I have a boyfriend now who I am happy with, so far, I have no regrets breaking up with my ex-es. They turn out to be not the perfect guy for me so I end the relationship and wait for someone to come to me. Maybe someday, I will experience this, but I really doubt it. Maybe if I am separated from my boyfriend now... he will probably be my 'one that got away'
@Bluedoll (17069)
• Canada
20 Jan 12
The one that got away was a butterfly that needed to find a flower. Like a bird that needed to fly is the one that got away. The deer that bolted so suddenly and with a tail in the air showed you not to worry for free things often to get away. :-) some time they come back or you see them one day or feel them like a Katy Perry song.
20 Jan 12
In human nature we always want to be with someone with who we feel comfortable. Definately when we break up we need more and more support.And very generally some one who we know and around us will be the first person to give their shoulder to us. And the person got away if you think can give you a trusted hand then i should tell you to consider it as a fortune came back.
• United States
20 Jan 12
at first i was tinking that this discussion was going to be about the song of katy perry, but never imagen being about relationship.
• Philippines
20 Jan 12
This is possible if the girl or the boy in the relationship is not satisfied with the partner or the person still have feelings for "the one who got away." It can be a lover from the past or a childhood sweetheart. But since you already made a decision, then maybe you should consider thinking again of the reasons why in the first place you fell in love with your husband or wife. God has plans, don't worry.
@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
19 Jan 12
I think this thing happens even if some don't want to admit it. It's a question of what ifs. What if I got married to the other one? What if I didn't break up with him. What if this and that. But personally, this somehow shows somewhat of a fracture in their current relationship. I mean, if you're really satisfied and happy with who you are presently with, you wouldn't be thinking of what ifs. Your love for your spouse or your current partner may not be absolute when you think about scenarios like this.