Why is it that some parents take their children out when they are ill

@jugsjugs (13045)
January 20, 2012 6:34pm CST
or when they are getting over a illness.Well all the parents are talking about a mother that makes their children out when they are ill and i think that it is awful that a parent would do that to a child when it is ill.Unless you have no choice in taking a child out and spreading an illness or making the child feel worse, you should keep a child indoors where they can keep warm, rather than taking it outside in the cold.If mine are ill, i keep them indoors, not unless they need to see a dr.Why are some parents so selfish.
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@SinfulRose (3529)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Jan 12
Sometimes the only way for a child to get cured is to lighten his/her spirits when he/she is feeling down due to illness. Kids, most of the time, loves the outdoors and it's better if he/she would see nature. The saying that "nature is cure to illness" is so true. Not only in medicine but psychologically as well. Whenever we take out my brother, we do not intend to pass his sickness to others. Instead, we intend to make his brain think of other things aside for his current situation. It is also a fact that being optimistic and totally forgetting that you are sick makes the body think that it's not sick (look into psychology and alternative treatments). This way, the body's natural guard against foreign bodies immediately takes action to dispel the illness. Hope this helps. Happy MyLotting!
@jugsjugs (13045)
21 Jan 12
If a child is being sick and had the runny poos, a child, just like adults do not really want to be dragged out to visit other people.I know for a fact that a sickness bug in a child is not nice for the child or the parent and if a child has a fever, then even a dr would say to keep the child indoors in the warm.I have six children and when one child gets the bug it tends to be caught by the other children as well.
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• Davao, Philippines
21 Jan 12
I don't know how to answer to that kind of situation...If my brother frequently needs the comfort room, it would only last for half a day. After sleeping for a while, he'll become as good as new. I don't know what parents are giving to their child in situations like this and the treatment because our case is that of allergic reaction more than viral...
@Masihi (4228)
• Canada
21 Jan 12
Well, depends, if my kids are sick (throwing up/diahrea), running a fever, or recovering from surgery then that's the time they need to stay home, drink fluids, and get lots of rest. Now if they have the cold and not having a sinus headache then yes keep them outdoors, school, actively running around because that's healthy for them to be exposed to the fresh air. I was brought up on going out with a cold and staying in bed when I'm sick to my stomach, and so I raise the kids that way.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
22 Jan 12
The child was being sick and with in an hour of the child being sick the mother was dragging the child round with her to friends houses, as well as to other places where there were children.When i am being ill with a sickness bug all i want to do is rest or be close to the loo.I myself have six children, i would never dream of taking my child or children out of they were being sick as it is not nice for them, neither is it nice giving sickness bug to other people or their children.
@roberten (3131)
• United States
21 Jan 12
I suppose it depends on the parent. Some parents have no choice, especially if they are single parents and cannot afford childcare or time off work to care for the sick child or children; it may be a case of not knowing any better for others. Maybe there are some parents who may not give any consideration to the consequences of their actions. There are probably as many reasons as there are parents and sick kids; in any event, my heart goes out to the sick children.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
21 Jan 12
I feel sorry for the child as well.I feel that some parents do not think of their child the way they should and these are the parents that are known for dumping their child on people when their child is ill with sickness bugs, as they do not want them under their feet.It is not fair on the other children that go near the child that is ill, as they can and probably will catch the same sickness bug.Some mothers are really selfish.
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@la_chique (1499)
21 Jan 12
I think it depends whats wrong with the kids. My mother wouldnt just keep us at home because we had a cold for example. If we had measles or were throwing up or something, then no, we wouldnt go anywhere apart from the drs. I dont think kids should be wrapped in cotton wool and mollycoddled just because they say they dont feel well. I work with kids and I see so many that fake having a headache or sore leg or something just to get attention and thats quite unhealthy too. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that the mother would be being mean taking her kids out when they are ill as in sick, but if they just have a cold, then I see nothing wrong with it. I still go to work if I have a cold.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
21 Jan 12
The child was ill, like had the sickness and pooing bug and she took it to a friends house and that made the friends children ill as well as the friend.I know there are times that can not be helped when a child has to go to the drs, but to just visit people and go to clubs is really mean.Even me being an adult, i would not want to go any where if i was ill.Sickness bugs do not go after a few hours and then return and other people get the bug as it is passed on really easily.
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
21 Jan 12
Hi Jugsjugs! Usually we do not take children at home out if they are not feeling well, especially if their disease can infect others. My sister's children they are all easy to get cold and flu so whenever they got symptoms of it we won't let them out even if they insist to follow us. We don't want other people to get the same illness~(^^)
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@Heixyin (175)
• Malaysia
1 Feb 12
Well you have a point there. But then, how sure are you that it's not the kids request. There is a possibility that it's the kids who wanted to go outdoors. The parents thus listen to their request since they are sick. Moreover, I believe the parents would have at least ask If the kids wanted to go out with them or stay at home. Most kids would prefer going out to relieve themselves except for severely sick kids. When you say parents who take their kids out even when they are sick, is it by force? Well, it might be the kids own will. If I were the parent , I would still allow my kids to go out if they wanted to though, no offence. Provided its a very terrible sickness. I would not force them of course. I will ask them before hand. So yea.
@jugsjugs (13045)
6 Feb 12
I am on about a child or children that have actually been sick and that are not allowed in school due to being sick, as the other children will catch the bug that the child has.I do not think it is fair on a child to be taken to other peoples houses when they know their child is ill.Also when the child is out and it says its feeling ill and wants to go home the mother makes it stay with her at her friends rather than taking it home.
• United States
1 Feb 12
ive seen that and also seen parents that have their babies out in the public days old which hello not smart. i dont understand 99% of peoples parenting skills
@jugsjugs (13045)
6 Feb 12
No i do not understand these people either, also they really show off how rubbish and uncaring parents they really are to all the other decent mothers that are out there.I feel sorry for the child as well as all the other children that they bump into when they are out, as they may or will get the bug as well.
@Hatley (164639)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Jan 12
hi jugsjugs some parents seem brainless to me. sending kids to school when they are ill is mean and also stupid as then they will spread the colds and flus to kids who have not had them yet. When my kids were small if they were ill they stayed home inside with me until they were well again.
@jugsjugs (13045)
22 Jan 12
You are right Hatley, these parents do seem very brainless as well as selfish.I feel sorry for the child that is ill, also the children that are passed the sickness bug.I think that some parents do not like to stay at home no matter what and it is a sad fact that it is those people that put the rest of the other children and parents at risk of passing it on to them.
@much2say (39738)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Seriously!! I know fellow moms who do this - argh! One in particular doesn't want her kids to miss out - whether it's a birthday party or get together - and that IS so darn selfish. Not only could her kids get worse, but they may spread their sick germs around - that's totally not thinking of anyone else! Last year her daughter had a party and two sisters she invited were too sick to go. That party host mom told them she didn't care - she wanted them to come anyway. When I heard that, I was so livid . . . what was she thinking? I guess she wasn't even thinking of her own kids' health. The sick kids mom didn't feel right about that and at least had the brains to not bring her kids.
@jugsjugs (13045)
21 Jan 12
There are a few mums that still take their children to school when they are being sick, only for the teachers to call the parent to collect the child.If one of my children get the sickness here i know that no doubt so will the others end up getting it.This mother was taking the child near other children and those children also ended up being sick.I feel that it is a shame that there are parents that just have to take their children to clubs, a party or near other people when they are ill, as they do not want to miss it, or worse still they are sending the child as it is free and they do not want the child under their feet.
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
25 Jan 12
Yes, some parents are really selfish. They do not bother about the well being of other kids, but only want their child to be happy. I know such mums are caught in the middle and it's difficult for them, but it's not right for them to make their children happy at the expense of other kids. Being a mum, they ought to be sensible enough to think, but it's often not the case. They are setting wrong examples to their sick children.
@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
25 Jan 12
I dunno if it's still done,but I'd heard years back that kids who'd had those childhood diseases like chickenpox and measles were the ones their parents would have "arranged" to have play dates with ones who'd not yet had that disease..the idea being the healthy kid would get a weakened version of that bug..I don't think parents should expose other kids to their offspring's "vomiting" bugs,though..
@celticeagle (118609)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jan 12
First off, illnesses are usually only contagious in the first few days. A mother would know more if a child can go out than an observer would. And if a child is still sort of sicky and a parent has to go out and run some errands and has no one to do them the child would rather go along. Bundled up they would okay. I just try to see things from both sides.
@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
23 Jan 12
There are times when the parent has to do some things, like there's no food (well, not NO food, but you know what I mean) in the house and no one to watch the child and they have to go out to get things. What I don't understand is why some families have to take EVERYONE, husband, wife, and a half dozen kids or so to the store... What's with THAT? why can't one parent stay home with the kids and send the other to the store?
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
23 Jan 12
Yeah, i have seen some parents doing so, especially when their kids has chicken pox.. haha I think about 3-4 years ago, there was the "hand foot mouth disease" among kids in singapore. One selfish mother brought her kid to swim in the pool, well knowing that the kid has to be quarantined. When other kids refuses to play with her kid, she even scolded them! haha It's not right for the mom to bring a "HFMD" kid to public places, much more a public swimming pool right?
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
22 Jan 12
Sometimes, there is no other option for the parent but to take the child out. Maybe there is only one parent in the home and no one else available to watch the child while that parent goes to the store. Maybe they just left the doctor's office and are picking up medication before returning home. There are many reasons why a parent may take a child out when they are sick. I do feel that if it not necessary to take them out, children should stay home when they aren't feeling well. I don't think that parents are trying to be selfish when they take their sick child out, I think that more often than not, they feel that there is no other choice at that time.
@Lucky12 (770)
• United States
22 Jan 12
Well it depends on the circumstances. Some parents that have no choice have to take their kids with them when they leave the house, because they may have to run to the store or something like that. I don't take my son out at all when he is sick which I am lucky, because I have a husband that can watch him if I need to go to the store. only if in dire need I will take him out, but other thank that he is at home in bed. I don't even take him out when it is raining outside haha.
@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
22 Jan 12
Well, I think that you answered your own question, they do so because they are selfish, if a child is ill, and, unless it is necesary to take him/her to the doctor,or to provide them another care, children must be indoors, inside of the house, where they are physically and emotionally secure. For any other reason, I donĀ“t see any justification
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
22 Jan 12
I would never take my children out when sick except to the DR other wise they would be home taken care of and getting well as soon as possible! I did work in childcare and some parents would drop their sick children early in the morning and then the staff had to call the parent an hour later to come and get the child as she/he was too sick to be there!
@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
Some parents do this to ease border some for their kids, especially when they are sick! The nature has its relaxing environment especially during the morning, fresh air and morning sunlight is good to our health! But I guess it's not advisable to take a long travel that might be stressful and worsen the illness!
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
Maybe it depends on the illness, its severity and its chances of infecting other people. I have seen parents also who does that in the malls. I could even see small children with about to heal measles or chicken pox being brought to the malls and i think that is so disgusting. I don't think these mothers are that ignorant. Chicken pox is more contagious during the healing period and some kids who did not have the disease yet can easily become infected. For minor illnesses maybe they can bring their kids out, but even cough and colds nowadays are also infectious and it is hard to have colds and cough because it is also a nuisance and besides, it could become serious too. I think parents have to consider first on when and where they can bring their kids out when they are sick.