how to keep the friendship alive even from a distance?

Philippines
January 21, 2012 9:32am CST
I have this bestfriend since my first year in college that I have never seen for more than ten years now, but we still consider each other as bestfriends. We call each other best everytime we caught on each other. I care for him dearly like a brother. I remember our memories together as very happy and memorable. There was never a dull moment with him. He always made me laugh and made me appreciate even the simplest things. Like I mentioned earlier we haven't seen each others for more than a decade now but our love and care for each other never changed. Thanks to technology we are still able to catch up with each others lives. Cellphone and Facebook are our means of communication. We would call each other once in awhile or chat through Facebook. I can't wait on that time when we will finally meet and laugh again. He's planning to come home and visit me and my family soon yahoo. How about you? How's your relationship with your bestfriend so far? Is it for keeps like ours?
13 responses
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
distance is n0t problem in friendship if u are a true friend you can wait your friend....theres another way to make to talk ur friends by using communication.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
Yes it is for keeps. Thankfully now that I was in our country for 2 years already, we were able to spend time with each other again. We are planning some more bonding together. She had cried and expressed how important I am to her - It's so touching and I almost cried too but I held back my tears. It's really nice to have a best friend.
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@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
22 Jan 12
i know what you mean, but its only been about 6 months since seeing my best friend and it feels like a while. we just both have different life styles that keep each other busy constantly. i now have 2 children and work and she works and is pregnant with her first. we try to catch up every few months for dinner/lunch or whatever time suits us both. we usually try and text each other as well. hopefully you can see your friend when he comes and visits. does he live very far from you is there any chance you could visit him sometime for a holiday?
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
I don't have a bestfriend. I have many friends but I haven't considered one as my bestfriend. I only have with me my boyfriend whom I considered as my bestfriend already. I congratulate you for having a very good best friend who is always there for you even how far you two are with each other. It is important to keep the friendship alive and this can be done through constant communication.
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• Philippines
22 Jan 12
Friends may come and go but bestfriends stay whenever you go. It's kinda difficult to maintain and sustain your relationship but if you're so close to each other or you feel like you can rely your best friend as much as others can do, you'd probably trust your bestfriend especially if you're bestfriend is your brother or sister. Brothers and sisters doesn't always maintain their role as that but they could be more than that like bestfriends do.
@annierose (18021)
• Philippines
22 Jan 12
hi aicasalinks, While reading your post, it makes me remember my Chinese best friend. He stayed for 2 months with us. At first, I hesitated him going here for a visit.We met each other through a language site and it we only had few talks that was why I was nervous because I do not know if he is a good man. Fortunately, when he went here, I found out that he is one of the nicest man. He is a gentleman, really funny, sweet and thoughtful. I see him just like a brother too and my parents treat him like their own son. We had our ups and downs while he was here. But we have more good and funny moments. I really miss him now to the time that I sometimes cry. It has been almost 2 years when he left. I promised him that I will visit him and his family in China once I finish my masters here in the Philippines.
@diillu (5128)
21 Jan 12
I am also having long distance with my best friend. She isn't my child hood friend but from the time I have known her, she became my closest friend. We have shared almost everything with each other and I love the way she makes me feel so comfortable to share my deepest secret with her and the way she makes me trust her. Right now she and I both are in different countries and its been already couple of years that we haven't met each others. As you said thanks to the technology we are connected with each other through Facebook and mobile. I think when people becomes close to each other, then silence also becomes confutable. It doesn't matter how long we haven't talk with each other but every time we call each other or chat with each other it feels like we are right there next to each other doing our regular gossips.
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@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
One good reason why friendship last long despite of distance is that there should always be a communication , be faithful to her.. love her despite of everything, understanding.. My best friend and I are in good and harmonious relationship, we never have problems yet and I know the advice that I gave you will be effective because that is also the tool for us..
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
My best friend and I are very close too. We only see each other a couple of times a month, and we only get top hang out and really talk at least once a month since college began. However, we have a very strong friendship and we have never drifted apart. She's been my best friend for 12 years now, and I know that we will be best friends forever, as cliche as this may sound. In fact, I'm pretty sure that she's gonna be the maid of honor in my wedding in a couple of years or so!
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21 Jan 12
my best-friend only live about 5 blocks from where I live, so we often see each other even if weekend and no school. but before, she go to their province and stayed there for almost two months, so we often call and text each other and every night we make it a point that we vid-chat then she will tell me what she did the whole day and I'm likewise with her.
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@eunife (165)
• Philippines
21 Jan 12
my best friend and i had lived apart mostly for about 15 years now. at that time, there was not much of technology for long distance communication but it was never a problem to us. we see each other once a year when we go home for vacation and we still feel the same as we were not been away from each other. our partners even gets jealous when we see each other because we talk really long and we even sleep together like when we were kids. as we get older,and living on different countries, the chance of seeing each other is getting lesser. we don't have that much of correspondence but whenever there is something great or something really awful that happens, or we need help, we just buzz each other and there we go. when i got married, he flew from hong kong just in time of my wedding. now that she's getting married i have to fly back home to be with her. that was a promise we made when we were in grade school and we are keeping every promise we made and we will make. i think that's the edge of friendship to love relationship. you don't expect much but you do so much. it is really a feeling that you miss each other and when you get a chance to be together, it's like everything is pink. i love my best friend and i know even if we don't talk that much, we are best of friends no matter what.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
21 Jan 12
By having daily contact and sharing. But still that is hard. A text will do or internet if that is cheaper. But still I think sooner or later you both will start living your own life. If you don't meet life again the friendship will change. My husband lives on the other side of the world. I seldom know what he is doing, can only quess. It's expensive to keep in touch but I try daily (text mostly), he already lives by the day, it's what I am trying to do also.
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• Nigeria
21 Jan 12
the reason for a good friendship is to be a faithful, lovely and more. for a friend u can't do without, it is difficult not to see each other, even if by chatting of calling, it can't be like seeing each other alive. my best friend has just went to another town to school, and i was lonely in the community.
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