How do you let go of someone you love and who loves you when you haven't been able to stay faithful but still want to be with them?.

Philippines
January 22, 2012 8:06am CST
I wrote the question. I have been honest with her. She says that she does not hate me she just hates what i did. She says that she wants to forgive me but does not know how. I hate what i have done to her. I don't know what to do. I love her and want to be with her but she seems to not be able to make up her mind. What do I do now?.
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@vt689586 (585)
• India
23 Jan 12
it is looking very interesting that both are you loves each other. but hurts each other also by any means.there is possibility that what you did with her was not intentional but i think it was hurt her a lot and she did not able to over come with this . i suggest you to talk to her very gently and apologies before her and if take rest for days from your relationship.
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
thank you....i try that...i wish it can help in my problem...i will make apologize to her
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
23 Jan 12
I think if you make some mistake on her you must prove it to her that you will not do the same mistake again and you will do much better for the second chance. Show to her that you really love her and you show much more effort now that before. But if she still not forgive you,you must move on. Try to enjoy by yourself by going in the mall and hang out with your friends.
@yanzalong (10204)
• Indonesia
23 Jan 12
You need more time to wait. It seems to me she is still evaluating you, which is why she doesn't give any response. Just be patient, bro. I was with my girlfriend for 7 years before we got married.
• China
23 Jan 12
if you have done something wrong??? people who love each other may get sad ending, and it is normal,just take it easy,
@klw5000 (213)
• United States
23 Jan 12
People can be funny at times and I have worked in a field where the majority of persons are not faithful. Male or female. It's just something about our nature. It may not be that you really mean to be unfaithful, but it just happens. With her, it's not so easy to accept. Women tend to hold on to things for long periods of time and we don't forgive so easily. Honestly, if she loves you, she needs to accept who you are and what you do. Right or wrong, good or bad. It's all part of the package. I would sit down and talk to her and explain how I feel and why you do what you do. Relationships are never perfect and there is no way to make them that way. Each person has to in love with the other person and that love will always prevail regardless what happens. If she can't accept you for you and your actions now then she won't ever accept them. You both need to figure out are you really in love?
@Hatley (164347)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jan 12
frozenshield she has no way of knowing you will change your spots and now be faithful to her o nly. you have to prove it to her that you have changed and will not be unfaithful to her. You have to show her you are not the same person. you must win her trust back. once a girl loses trust in the man she loves its hard for her to trust that nman again. It is not her that needs to make up his mind but you as you are the one who betrayed her so now you must prove you have changed and will be faithful to her.Show her daily she can trust you then she will start to believe you. take her by the hand and tell her you love here and noone else. but if you make one misstep that is it. too bad you did not think with your brainy head not the other one in the first place. once you break a girls trust, why should she believe you unless you constantly show YOU have changed.you be there for her and in time she will see you have changed.
@mselin (77)
• India
22 Jan 12
This is a rather confusing situation. In the first place why did you do something you know will hurt your girl friend? If you love her, you would not want to hurt her. If you have a very valid reason for this, she may be able to forgive you completely. but otherwise, it will keep haunting her that you cheated her when she trusted you, and she might feel threatened later also. From your question, it seems that you want to break up with your girl friend rather than try to patch things up. If that is the situation, think her from point of view and see if she would feel more hurt or happier. If you really love her as much as you claim you will do what she wants to do. Give her some more time to realize what she actually wants and during that time be sure to remain faithful.