how would you know when your husband is cheating?

@eunife (165)
Philippines
January 25, 2012 9:33am CST
my friend always tell me that she suspects her husband is cheating on her. she says she's got a feeling. i wonder if she's just paranoid or what. is a woman's instinct really true?
6 responses
@mariamac (145)
• India
30 Jan 12
yes i too believe in instinct and it is true. If your friend suspects her husband let her find it out her own way because each woman knows her man best than anybody else in the world, so if she has this feeling then there may be not one but 100 reasons for her to feel it. so let her find it out for herself and deal the way she chooses to. take care
• United States
30 Jan 12
yes a woman instint is really true every time i thought that my ex would cheat on me i was always right all the time. so he probably is if he acting different he don't let you see his phone.i don't know but for me i get this wired feeling in my stomach that he cheating. and i swear i'm always right.
• United States
29 Jan 12
I say trust your feelings, but also have proof before you accuse someone of something. I thought one time my husband was cheating on me and I accused him, only to find out that the reason he was not coming home for a couple extra hours every couple of days was because he was working overtime to buy me the new washing machine I wanted for my birthday. Wow did I feel dumb. So make sure something is really going on before you do something that can really hurt the relationship. Me and my hubby laugh about it now, but there were a few months where he was hurt because I did not trust him.
• United States
25 Jan 12
I don't think the the "feeling" itself is a good enough reason to accuse your significant other of cheating. Everyone worries and thinks the worst sometimes and this can lead to a lot more problems. If the "feeling" is the only reason she suspects her husband of cheating she should take a step a back and just watch how he acting and keep a closer eye on things that would also be a clue. Go around him more while he's on the computer, see how he acts. does he close the windows right away? does he let you see what he's doing? and when he gets phone calls (or texts) on his cell phone does he leave the room to answer? does he not answer when she's around? there are so many other things to pay attention to that can be clues on if he is doing something unfaithful but just accusing based on an "I feel like he is" can lead to so many more problems down the road. If she really suspects he is and just can't let go of the feeling she should just confront him and see what his reaction is.
• United States
25 Jan 12
If you have a feeling that your signifcant other is cheating then i would go further and investigate it as well. Maybe you could have a friend he doesnt know you have invesitage it for you and maybe have him or her follow your significant other around and see what they are doing and snapping some photos would be good to. I actually have had friends call me and tell me about my ex and thats how i found out was through pictures from a friends phone. Its good to always be on the look out but you do have to have trust in one another and if the trust isnt there then your relationship isnt there either.
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
I do believe on woman's instinct,but sometimes we shouldn't really on instinct only . If your friend's husband is really cheating, she should investigate thoroughly. She should have a basis on what she's accusing.