what does a wife needs to do?

@jazel_juan (15767)
Philippines
January 26, 2012 7:38am CST
For those in marriage or in a relationship... in a party how do you interact with your husband's friends? I have been in a party where it was the guy's birthday. We were there and were singing the birthday song, right infront of the buffet...and the party was starting. I noticed ( am i too observant? lol) that the wife was not on his side... nor was in the kitchen. I just saw her sitting - well she was pregnant..but still it was weird. The guy was the one doing the interacting and the guy's parents. But if it was my hubby's i would have been interacting and making sure guests were well served and are happy with the food. or i am just too pushy? lol Or she is just different? What is your take on this? people are just different i guess.
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
26 Jan 12
Hi Jazel, It does sound a little odd for sure. You said she was pregnant so maybe she wasn't feeling well? I would say that usually the wife would be there interacting with the guests and celebrating her husbands birthday too. Since she was just sitting on the sidelines, I'm guessing there must have been a reason for it. I would have gone over and talked to her to make sure she was alright.
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@GardenGerty (95779)
• Marion, Kansas
26 Jan 12
This is probably what I would have done at some point in the evening. I even do that with co workers. Your culture and habits may be different than what I am used to, though.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
true, some people are just different i guess..maybe she just does not like socializing at all....and i never really thought of approaching her.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
27 Jan 12
See...we are all different. I would not have considered NOT approaching her. Depending on how well I knew her, I'd probably have just made small talk with her and asked about her pregnancy, etc.
@dpk262006 (56094)
• Delhi, India
26 Jan 12
Hi! Your observations are correct. Even his wife was carrying she should have come forward to welcome the guests and to show her presence. By sitting on one side she conveyed a wrong massage to the guest as seemingly she was not interested either in the party or in attending the guests.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
26 Jan 12
yes it was a bit off of her to do that... or i guess she wasn't really the sociable type? but still she could have just approach the people and give handshakes.. or just say hi and then go back to her hiding..but she didn't. she was non existent lol
@dpk262006 (56094)
• Delhi, India
27 Jan 12
Yes, you are right that she did not have etiquette and she was not seemingly social. She could have greeted the guests and then would have disappeared, if she was uncomfortable among the guests.
@GardenGerty (95779)
• Marion, Kansas
26 Jan 12
I have not gone to many parties in homes with my husband. I mean parties that go beyond the family. Since the wife in question is pregnant, she may have been put on light duty or may not have been feeling well at all.I have been to gatherings with my husband, in a location a long way from our current home. It is usually in a public place, and I get ignored. I do not know the people as they are people from when he was much younger. If a party is in my home, though, it is true, I would be trying to make sure all had a good time.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
yes..she didn't do any though it was at their home.
• Philippines
26 Jan 12
It has been said that a wife should be and will always be on the side of her husband, but based on the situation that you had given, maybe there is a problem why the wife is not with him at that time. Maybe she is having a problem with her pregnancy.
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
well.. as far as i know she is healthily pregnant.. oh well to each his own lol but i do agree not the wives are not at all times at the side of the husband... but then, as a wife, i feel and like most of the time i want to be there for him so i do help him with stuff like this.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
26 Jan 12
you are right in saying that people are different. we cannot insist on finding our traits on others, we cannot expect them to behave the way we do. i think it has something to do with her pregnancy. maybe it is a delicate one and she's forbidden to walk around or move a lot. we have to be thankful that we have the capability to understand and support our partners. some others are not blessed with partners that goes with him through thick and thin. we just let them be. it's probably the way they want it and i believe they have their own reasons.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
to each his own right? Well i guess maybe she isn't allowed to walk a lot...
@yanzalong (10147)
• Indonesia
27 Jan 12
She was probably not feeling well at that moment, which was why she was just sitting there. We can not judge people from that angle and from one situation. I maybe wrong, too. Lol. As you said different people different ways of doing things.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
yes, i better stop observing too much too lol
@yanzalong (10147)
• Indonesia
27 Jan 12
But being observant is good, too. Lol.
@tatzkie23 (773)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
Maybe the wife was not on the mood or something, since she is pregnant. But as you said, It's still weird, Maybe they have some family issues or something. Well, anyways, i think that, if my husband will have a party, i'll make sure that everything's ok with the food, the drinks and everything. And for sure, i will entertain all his guest specially his relatives.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
well not all wives are alike i guess..we do have the same thinking too.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
26 Jan 12
Uhmnn...yes dear, you just too observant (hehehe) Of course that's too obvious when she's just sitting in one corner while her hubby and the rest of the family is having fun. Maybe she's not feeling well. But,if she's not feeling well- she better stay inside the room (she's pregnant too) or..maybe she's just different -doesn't like mingling with too many people (a snob maybe) Too many maybe's (hehehee) Leave her my dear..did you enjoy the party then?
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
i will leaver her then. lol. a snob? its a possibility lol! Did i enjoy? yes the food was create especially the lechon lol
@bunnybon7 (34988)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Jan 12
You are right. she should have done something. at least sit near where he was and explain she wasnt feeling well because of the baby or something. the way she was acting sounds like either she dont much like her husband or maybe abuse is going on? someone has been nasty to someone in that relationship. or maybe she wasnt taught manners? who knows.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
i honestly don't know...but maybe the most rational explanation i could say is that she does not like socializing. lol. or maybe she is tired. abuse? i don't think so, i kinda know the guy more than her...
• United States
26 Jan 12
Maybe the two got into an argument right before the party started and she didn't feel excited about the party any more because the argument was still on her mind. I know sometimes I do the same thing if I get into an argument right before we are suppose to do something it makes me not want to do what we had planned any more. Maybe she was sick, wasn't feeling good, there could be plenty of excuses. Also yes people are different, there are billions of people every where who learn different things and have different upbringings in behavior, maybe that is how her parents were.