It's not a shame when men show their feelings. (Men are ALWAYS right? - 2)

@MissPiggy (1751)
Indonesia
January 28, 2012 9:56am CST
Ok, so here's the progress. Everytime I text my close friend, he always replied "I'm busy". But when I asked him "are u still angry with me?", he didn't reply. What is going on exactly??? I have been friends with this person called a man for a year and I still don't get it. Whenever he cools off, and we talk about it, he seems to forget about what have happened (moreover when he's wrong), but when I'm angry with him again, he'll be angry again. Ok, he's not always like this. I mean, there was one time when he promised to meet me but something came up and endanger our meeting. I was like "wth?" and got mad. He felt guilty and tried his best to cool me down, and finally managed the time to meet me. We had a great time, and he was sooooo understanding. But this is a very rare occasion. :( Lol. Dang, is he still angry with me now? Or he actually knows that he's wrong but he just doesn't want to show it that he also feels bad? God this creature is making me mad!!
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@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
misspigy..i don`t think it`s not only as "sahabat"..but never mind..lets talk about the core problem i`ll tell the opinion from my side as man.. and iam sure every man had another opinion which maybe it`s different one man and another man.. my suggestion are : 1. why you did not his much time for asking him self , whats going on??? 2. maybe you seems ignore him..just pretend and see what is his reaction maybe.. who is the first always send message?? you or him? if you always send message to him, why you don`t try to be a "busy woman" too so he maybe feel thats you had changed to him..maybe i think it`s hardly if he is really angry with you 100 percent..because he still reply your message even his answer always make you dissapointed...
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
Adhyz, I don't have to ask him what's going on as we both know what's the problem. In this kind of problem, I can't just pretend to ignore him. He and I have the same character, so at least I know that if I ignore him, he'll become angrier. :( When he's angry, of course I should be the one who sends the message first. But when we're fine, he also sends the message first sometimes, when I don't "disturb" him with any text he'll send me first asking why I haven't texted him the whole day. :) And believe it or not, we're friends. :D
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
if you say that he and you had same character, so you can understand how to convince your self can be same like you must convince him too..right?? the problem if you must push your self , he will ignore you why you don`t try to be quiet and pretent ignore him??it`s just pretend..not seriously of course complicated situation...i mean this is so simple why i feel that maybe he likes you?? am i wrong??
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
Wow, I'm flattered if he does like me. :) Do u think so? :) Maybe it's simple for u as u're not in the situation. I mean, because u don't know the real situation. But my best friend also says the same, that he might start to like me. I don't mind that, lol. But I don't want to just go dating with him. I think dating is even more complicated. :O
• United States
29 Apr 12
A real man shows his feelings. A Real man can accept he made a mistake But no real man is going to say he was wrong Just to appease a person. I don't know what you are fighting about but if he Still thinks he is right And this makes you more angry , then it is time to say goodbye and find another friend. If any friend male or female doesn't acknowledge when they hurt your feelings , then they are not a real friend.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 12
I know what you mean, Sarahruthbeth, but we are very close. I know we're only friends, which I think is better as if we're in a relationship I'd surely break up with him. So I can't just leave friends, you know. But at least now he realizes that his life is incomplete without me.
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• United States
30 Apr 12
Then I'm glad it is working out.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
1 May 12
Thank you.
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• Mexico
29 Jan 12
Hi Miss Piggy: For some men it's more difficult to express their feelings. I think it depends on the education and culture. Some people taught that the guys should be rude and hard as a rock, but we are humans, we have the right to feel hurt, to have emotions and this doesn't make men less. Some girls don't understand this either but some other, I think like you, value that their boys don't feel afraid to share their emotions. Actually when you don't have secrets for your partner, your relationship could grow deeper. ALVARO
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
Yes, I value his emotions. And we don't have secrets. So I hope we could grow deeper. I think he actually knows that he also hurt me, but just like what u said, he might have been taught to be hard as a rock. So in my opinion, I should be the one who becomes the water. Am I correct? :)
@sheliaj (39)
• United States
28 Jan 12
i dont know but it doesnt seem like a good friendship if someone says these kind of things to you. i mean, it does not seem like a true friend would say something and not do it or keep telling you that he is busy. im sorry but for myself i would not like having this kind of friend or boyfriend if that is the case. if he doesnt want to see you or even talk with you because he is "busy" i would be offended and just let things go. let nature take its own course, i would not keep trying to talk to this guy if he will not respond to me or do anything with me. hope everything works out for you, i feel for you and i hope i wasnt too offending to anyone. happy mylotting!
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
Lol, at least u didn't offend me, Sheila. :D Mm..I think it's because we're from different gender? What do u think? I mean, we're close friends but he's a "he" and I'm a "she". And we're actually closer than that. Lol. Anyway, I don't making the first move, but he's also made me sad. I have told him about that so that's the reply. That's what he always does when he's angry, just to show me that he's not that angry but he needs a space for a while. Maybe he needs to think about everything. I just don't want him to give up on both of us. He has mentioned that once but I said he won't solve any problems that way. So he does it. I just feel tired.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
28 Jan 12
Hi there miss piggy for me what he is doing is wrong and he should stop it, for me i guess you should tell him what the issue is and that you dont like it, so that he will know and react on it, i hope this gets sorted out, it would be sad if you give up on what the both of you have.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 12
Yes, thank u for understanding. And I have told him that he also made me sad. And I think as he's still replying (although only "busy"), he also knew that he has made me sad. I don't need him to say sorry, but I just hope that he would stop being angry. And yes again, after all this year, I won't give up on him and what we've had. Thank u so much. :)
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 12
misspigy..i don`t think it`s not only as "sahabat"..but never mind..lets talk about the core problem i`ll tell the opinion from my side as man.. and iam sure every man had another opinion which maybe it`s different one man and another man.. my suggestion are : 1. why you did not his much time for asking him self , whats going on??? 2. maybe you seems ignore him..just pretend and see what is his reaction maybe.. who is the first always send message?? you or him? if you always send message to him, why you don`t try to be a "busy woman" too so he maybe feel thats you had changed to him..maybe i think it`s hardly if he is really angry with you 100 percent..because he still reply your message even his answer always make you dissapointed...