So hard to love someone who loves someone else.

Philippines
January 29, 2012 6:02am CST
Loving someone who loves someone else is just so hard. Knowing that you've done everything and anything that you can just to make them happy but still its not working. I was hurt before and i thought i already learn my mistakes but i made the same mistakes again.
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26 responses
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
Oh i know the feeling. Its not easy coz you are sometimes begging some attentions and time. And its painful seeing and knowing he cares more to that someone than you. But whatelse can you do since you love the person so much but only to cry out in the dark yelling how much you like this person. I guess this is what we call "stupid love"
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• Indonesia
1 Feb 12
yeah. it is stupid. .
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
yeah it is really called "stupid love" but i cant help it. every time i try to forget her , she always try to take me back. i don't understand her anymore.
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
29 Jan 12
That would be really hard. Fortunately I haven't experienced this. But I can imagine how difficult it would feel. It would be so aweful. Because you care about that person deeply but they love someone else. I'm sorry that this has happened to you more than once. Don't give up on yourself keep trying to find love and I think you will be able to meet a wonderful person.
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
yeah if the time comes that you can experienced like this maybe you would understand me deeply..
@beamer88 (4267)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
I guess we really cannot control "love." It just hits us. I don't think it's a mistake on your part to have fallen in love with someone who doesn't share the same feelings as yours. It would be a mistake however if you cling on to it. It is painful but the sooner you let go, the faster you'll heal from the pain.
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@ardoy0731 (6865)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
It is really hard to love a person who loves someone else.That no matter how you try to make the person love you,yet the person could not love you back and just can offer friendship.It hard to give up easily cause still hoping that one day the person you love will love you back but how long is the wait? I guess we should love ourselves first before loving somebody else.Love is a like journey that we never knew what to expect and what's gonna happen.
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• Philippines
29 Jan 12
Sorry to hear that. It is really hard to love someone who doesn't love you back. I think you should stop to love others first. Learn to love yourself and do the things that can make you happy.
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
i really need to find myself again. im so lost when i lost her.
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
You can find yourself if you will try to stop thinking about her. Try to go on a vacation all by yourself.
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
It really hurts to see the one you love being happy with someone else. One thing is for sure though, you will never walk this journey of your life alone, someone is there to accompany you. Someone who is created just for you.
@stringer321 (3690)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
15 Feb 12
I also love some girl. She likes me only as a friend and she keeps looking for others. This discussion reminded me about her and we talked on the phone. I sometimes recall her at night and I feel a little sad for not having her in my arms or even when we hug , we lay on the bed and hug as friends , it feels sad for it is not a real love :(. It's just an illusion.
@zaahro (749)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 12
hello...:) It is not only hard, but also wasting your time. Stop torturing yourself, I know when love speak, it's hard to resist. But try to help yourself out from this condition. Give your love to other that deserve it :).
@Tulipa (17)
• China
2 Feb 12
To feel, to digest. Love from one-side really hurts people a lot. Even though this will never stop human being from looking for it.
• United States
2 Feb 12
Don't waste your life chasing a dream. If the person you fell in love with is in love with another than you need to move on or your life will be filled is misery. If it was meant to be the two of you would be together. Something wasn't in the cards for the two of you. They moved on and it is your turn to do the same. You can't live this way...depression can set in and you will be the only one who suffers. There is someone out there for you. You may find him/her soon or it may take a while. Let fate be your guide and try to live a healthy and happy life till that special person comes your way. Keep you chin up!
@kyrararen (601)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 12
oh my God, I feel the same as you do now. I have been trying the best I could to make him happy. always there when he needed me and literally say I pour him down with my love. but it;s not enough to make him really fully think about me, to be focus in me, when he was with me. I feel jealousy sometimes blinded me. and other negative thought also ravaged me. but then when I think about his happiness, there;s nothing I can do but letting him go.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
30 Jan 12
My son fell in love with a woman who only loves herself. She put on a good act and even came over to the house and just seemed lovely! Now, a year later, she shows her "true colors". She waited that long to tell him she want's someone wealthy to give her money and plenty of material things.
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
30 Jan 12
What was the mistake?
• China
30 Jan 12
Yes, it is really difficult to do so. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, he or she just refused to give you even a little chance. I have also experienced such kind of painful experience when I was young. During that period, I fell in love with a boy. I did everything I could to make him happy, but he still didn't accept me. It really disappointed me at that moment and I kept crying for quite a while. Howver, there is a strong voice from my mind. I need to stand up or I'll be knocked down by such feeling. You see, love is the feeling from the bottom of our heart and we can not force someone to love us if they don't. Just as the old saying goes, time cures everything. So come on. You can make it!
• China
30 Jan 12
I know this kind of feeling very much . cos i have experienced it before. But fortunatelly ,i just let it go .Just calm down.Our life is not Tv series,we can still live happily without someone we really love for a certain period. I think time can change many things. and love is also sth about timing. you love someone who love someone else cos you meet at the wrong time. if you really feel very unhappy ,keep distance with them. try to not to pay much attention to them.time and distance work.no one can hurt you except yourself . you can do many things to fortify yourself. wish you a happy life:
@zetkie (9)
30 Jan 12
i felt the same when im in middle high.. but not the same as you, so ill set them free when i realize that im doing such a wrong thing :)
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
30 Jan 12
That is so hard. I think there is no other way but to move on. Eventually, the paid will subside and you will find someone who will love you back. When that time comes, you will look back on your previous love and be glad that you are over that person.
@umabharti (3976)
• India
30 Jan 12
When some thing which your heart likes or u like is not yours own then why should you worry for that.It is some one else property so they have that right and you dont have just you have to feel your self strong enough to face such situations.
• Philippines
30 Jan 12
loving someone who loves someone else is truly difficult most difficult when you see them together in a picture and knowing that they already engage.it happens to me and until now im still loving him.they say the truth hurts and its true that the truth is you love him but he cannot love you.
• Kenya
29 Jan 12
Happened to me. We broke up with my girlfriend, then after a while, we got back together. However, things were not the same because she was already with someone else.