Am i Crazy or Just Paranoid?

Quilt - How much more the bigger the quilt should be?
Is it small?
@Bamboee (645)
United Arab Emirates
January 29, 2012 9:00am CST
All my life I have lived in dreams, and wished that those dreams would some day come true. I pictured the perfect house, the perfect husband, the perfect family.. NOW I AM JUST GOING INSANE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well me and my husband have a tug of war every night! WHY? Because the quilt we sleep is considerably small in size. My husband literally wants to take it all over him cover himself like a child and sleep!! Honestly, the Quilt is very huge but some how my husband DOES NOT SHARE!..I purposed that we shall buy even a bigger quilt so we would not snatch and fight in the night! He purposed that we sleep in two SEPARATE quilts. WHAT WHAT WHAT! Is he serious? Separating quilts, then one day he will say beds, then rooms, then home? Am I getting paranoid or going mentally crazy! BE HONEST MyFamily of Lotters! P.S= Look at the picture of the Quilt, does it seem small?
11 responses
@kedves (728)
30 Jan 12
I think your husband has made a reasonable request to help YOU .. don't read too much into ok .. its just a thought from him to resolve it ... sometimes our paranoia takes over and that is when problems start .. so my advice smile and say ok baby lets try it :) after all unless there is more to your problem than you say what's the harm ?
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jan 12
Hello Kedves, Thank you so much for your kind advice, I shall try this and see what is his reaction. Maybe he will melt with my words and go like lets just share this quilt for now :D If that works, then hats off to you. Because I find HIGH difficulty in understanding my husband, I just cant understand what his head things.. its always confusing me. Thank you so much. Cheers.
@kedves (728)
30 Jan 12
ok with men the best thing for you to do is NOT over think a situation. we are usually simple in our thoughts and answers. I'm positive your husband still wants you so just go with the flow accept his comment as JUST a comment and do not waste your time being worried or upset :)
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jan 12
Really that is how it works? Gosh thanks ! I am always over thinking about anything and everything related to my husband! Great, so I dont have to be worried at all anymore. Its a relief. Because I know with the state I was going in, I would surely end up in a mental hospital for thinking so much. Thanks for saving me !
@eunife (165)
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
if you've been doing that since your wedding night or since you started sharing a bed together, don't be alarmed so much because it may just be him that you have to accept. The thing is, if you started sweet, sharing a small quilt, small bed, cuddled together that you can fit sleeping together in a sofa, then suddenly here comes the separation of quilt proposal, that would really mean something. that would be a valid reason for you to get paranoid. good luck!
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jan 12
Hello Eunife, Well starting of the wedding it was perfectly fine, and we have a huge quilt and a huge bed. when I got married I bought the largest size I could find, it was quiet hilarious but then I thought of his comfort so i got the largest size.. anyways now he seems to be having problems all of a sudden.. I am sniffing around to find out the truth. Thanks 4ur response!
@eunife (165)
• Philippines
30 Jan 12
I pray for the best for you. i hope for positive resolution of your paranoia. god bless!
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jan 12
Thank you so much, I wish the same too :D God Bless u.
@ramonah (213)
• Romania
30 Jan 12
I don't want to seem against you.. but really.. you're a little paranoid.. Me and my hubs were together for 10 years before we got married. Lived 8 of those years together.. Been married for one year. We share almost everything, but some things we don't share. Among them is the covers. We never shared only one cover. We both love wrapping up in the covers entirely. No matter how big a cover is you can't fit 2 people in it if at least one, and especially if both want to wrap up in it. I have my hand made quilt that me and my mother worked on. I love it. It's huge. It could cover both of us but I wrap up in it and tuck the rest under my head. I like sleeping without a pillow for that matter. He has his own covers that he wraps up in. It's just how we like to sleep. Sometimes we just cuddle together and throw both our covers on us. It's not like he does it intentionally.. He just likes that. If you keep denying it to him he'll just get angry and frustrated.. Try and get a second cover.. That has nothing to do with a second bed, second room, or home.. you're going too far with this.. It's just the simple pleasure of wrapping up in a cover.
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jan 12
Hello Romonah, Your response has really put some sense into my crazy brain. Thank you so much for such a long response and explaining me that it might be just about the pleasure in sleeping in a separate quilt rather than something else. I am just on a rough edge with my husband and I am afraid to loose him and each and everything he says, it seems he wants to go away from me. Well you are right, I should give him the chance of enjoying the pleasure of sleeping. Maybe he will love me for that even more and become more closer to me. I shall talk to him tonight of buying a separate quilt for him so that he can sleep peacefully. Hopefully its just exactly as you said and we will be together, as long as you are with your husband. God bless you both and that your relationship always stays as strong. Cheers.
• United States
30 Jan 12
that is a real beautiful quilt and its very big that's crazy that he hogs all the cover well my husband does the same thing he hogs all the cover he said that since he was little he always had a cover to himself and that is the only way he would fall asleep so we both got are separate covers but i'm ok with it i just like that he hugs me to sleep .
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jan 12
Hello Pebblez, Thank you, its a very beautiful quilt. A gift from my parents on our marriage... Well if things are good with you with 2 quilts then I hope so if we do end up on 2, they are just as cute and as lovely as your relationship.. I just dont want to end up being far apart from him. Thanks for your response. Cheers dear.
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
30 Jan 12
hey there bamboee, I have a questions is it really cold at night, do you still love make, or has the flame gone out any changes in his moods thus he tend to liking the aloness, if not dont worry your selfe too much if it is happening try to talk to him what is going on.
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jan 12
Hello david, Well being winter it is very cold in the night, and even if its not cold we sleep in central A.C which does make the room very cold. But the quilt is so big and warm and you dont need to have two on the bed!! Well from before he does like to be alone by himself when he sleeps, no cuddling or such!! .. I hope its not more than that...or I will definitely go crazy. :)!! Thanks for being considerate.
@Shellyann36 (9616)
• United States
29 Jan 12
I don't think you are crazy or paranoid. I do think that men and women see things totally differently. He does not realize it upsets you. Of course men can be dense to what women feel a majority of the time. Just take the time to explain it to him.
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jan 12
Hello shelly, Well he never realizes what upsets me. No matter how small or the big thing is, he never understands it. Even if I do try to make him understand it still doesnt enter his head! I wonder why do I consider so much for his feelings!!... But anyways I will talk to him and still try my luck. THank u so much dear!
@jkct02 (2859)
• Malaysia
29 Jan 12
Do I see 7 pillows? Well, it is a quilt. Just a quilt. Don't let it be anything more than it is. If you would feel something out of it, that something is definitely more than what you see in a quilt. Go to the source of the problem and solve it. Ever came to your mind that maybe, just maybe, that you are the problem? Perhaps you are just being overly sensitive? Perfection in life is non-existent unless you can specify it in details. I am sure your expectations will be changing by the day and you will be tormented needlessly for the want of something impossible. Your husband was just being playful. Nothing serious.
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jan 12
Hello my friend, 7 Pillows are always going to be there!!!... Thanks for your comforting and kind response, well its nice of you for not trying to make me worried about it. Yes, maybe I am the problem here, thinking too much about it. Already I am tensed about alot of things and just a little conversation could really make me go crazy because then I start thinking from all sorts of angles. I am going to have good discussion with him about this topic, I just need to find the perfect moment where he is all jolly and happy to figure out if he was really being playful or serious! Hopefully its exactly what you have said, and I will work on my emotions of being too over sensitive!! Just that life has thrown me into this mode, otherwise I am not such a person to think in too much detail. Cheers my friend.
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• Kenya
29 Jan 12
Honestly, fighting over a quilt is just insane. If you cuddled up more you wouldn't be fighting over it.
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
29 Jan 12
Well that is what i want my friend.. But that is now what he wants.. So i wonder what his real thoughts are..
@BLTLife (337)
• United States
29 Jan 12
It is his sleep habits. I'm sure it is something he has done since he was a kid and it's hard to control yourself when you're tired and cold. Don't turn this into something more than it is or it will become more than it is. Separate blankets isn't the end of a relationship. But if you still feel like it is, just get a bigger quilt.
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
29 Jan 12
Hello Life, thanks for your mature response, I agree some sleep habits are hard to separate. But this isnt his sleep habit. He would barely sleep in a quilt or blanket. My quilt is very big but I am ready to get bigger but not be separated. But you are right, i will give a thought and not make a big issue. I am just afraid to loose him. Thanks alot, God Bless u.
• Philippines
29 Jan 12
its nice and yes its not big enough to accomodate 2 people as if its my bed then its only good for me coz i used to move around a lot when i sleep, we had a family size bed before and he told me that his not even moving coz his afraid he will fall coz he only have small space and he was not able to sleep at night because of it then we planned of changing it to queen size bed to be much bigger then we broke up so it didnt happened but then if ever then why not change it to queen size for more space you can sell that one and just add some for new bed. and sometimes if we are angry or not in the mood we sometimes say bad words that we really dont mean to say and for the guys they just ignore it coz they are not emotional unlike women so dont worry its just one of the problem that normally occurs so it will just go.
@Bamboee (645)
• United Arab Emirates
29 Jan 12
Hello Home, Thanks for your comforting response. Well the bed is a queen size, its really huge. Well that is the picture of my quilt which came with the box. So the bed is not what it looks in picture. The bed is as huge as the Quilt - still he wants the whole of the quilt himself. I always thought of being close to the one I am going to spend my life with. Share everything, I never thought of 2 things, for me it always has to be one! I feel that we grow more closer to together that way. But I am really afraid of this idea, because It feels like he wants to distance himself away from me and then we will finally not be together. I am sorry to hear about your story, I hope that your doing okay on that. I have to come up to a solution or go purchase a bigger quilt before he goes buy's one for himself - that will be too painful to handle. Cheers. God bless u.
@bonding2 (219)
• South Africa
12 Apr 12
there is love in sharing ,there is no end in separating i think you are right there, but stop dreaming and become realistic