I Am Worried About Him...

I am hoping for the best for both of you.When Hubby is sitting at the table for dinner or right before you two go to sleep, just tell him he didn't fail you and he has Never failed you. A true failure would have just walked away, given up. As long as he is with you , he a success. Money comes and goes but true love Never does. I know it must be hard to let him be alone , but he Needs this time. But he Will come back and be with you. hang in there.

I remember when my hubby lost his previous job in May 2008 (not that long after we got married) and it hit us both like a train as neither of us was expecting it. He'd been in that job for 21 years and it was a family firm that had been in existence for over 200 years. Then it all went t*ts up to be blunt. It took John 4 months to get the job he has now. Obviously, he is grateful that he is able to work as he is the only provider. Fortunately, we do not have children (only the cat) but it's the general bills that get him down sometimes, especially when they keep going up and his wages aren't! I think the biggest concern was the rise in petrol prices. In his previous job he was working locally but now he has to travel a fair way in his car and it takes its toll, fuel-wise, plus the fact the car isn't exactly the most efficient in the world. To compensate for this he drives slower, therefore the fuel lasts longer. This is not uncommon now as everyone is feeling the pinch, fuel-wise. As for your husband, he says he needs to be on his own "to think things through" but DON'T LET HIM. Don't let him out of your sight because, believe me, he will be at his most vulnerable right now. If he's not really one to open up then you need to watch him even more. I don't want to worry you but even if you just sit with him and not say anything that's better than leaving him on his own. That's my opinion anyway. You're both in my thoughts.

Of course I will pray for him, and for you, too. You've had a tough time of it, but God is still there for you.

I would be happy to pray for your family. I know that when the main worker loses their job for any reason it can take a huge toll on there ego. And the worry they feel is real. Try to get him to put a little more positive energy into this. The sad and worry will only weigh him down. When my hubby lost his job he felt really bad and was down for a little over a year. He was so depressed and then one day he wanted to try truck driving. He was afraid to try, but I told him he will never know unless he tries. He did it and felt so much better. You need to allow him to feel what he is feeling and then let it go. Help him gain a better look out in his life. All The Best, ~C~

I will pray for you both and I also want to say something. You said he is more stressed out than you, that is because men are given the role of a leader and he is probably starting to feel inadequate. Will he talk to you? Or does he have a friend he can talk to to encourage him?

Dear Loving, Absolutely. He probably feels badly because he is unable to work. You and your family are in my prayers.

You can count on me!

Will do you can count on all of us to say a prayer that things turn out okay...hopefully the workers comp will come through soon...that would take a load off everyone's mind!

Men often take not being able to work a lot harder than women do. Most have been trained that the man is supposed to be the provider within the family. Even though things have changed within this society, there is still often that underlying message that the man is supposed to be the one taking care of the family financially. Hopefully, things will work out for your husband.

Have the kids make Daddy some cards with happy faces or smiles on them with a happy picture showing that they love him, it hopefully will help lift his spirits. I will keep your husband, you and the children in our prayers that you hear something real soon about that workman's comp that it goes through.

Keeping you and yours in my prayers. I pray that the Lord will touch your lives and help you both through this tough time. I know He will carry you through.

I don't pray but I'll gather all my positive energy thinking about you and your family. You have such a good and caring husband and you deserve him with all you have done for your family. Don't discourage and try to suggest him to not give up. If you don't lose hope, things finally will be OK for you.

Wow your both been going through alot. :-( I hope the money come in fast. I can understand his pain. A man is suppose to surpport their family but he isnt able to that so he is sad. I think the best you can do is continue reasuring him that he has not fail his family.

i hope that thgey may soon get well and start to get in the job perfectively as it is very hard to be hurt and work for family.......1!!1

Hi LovingMyBabies oh yes indeed I will send some prayers right now that he gets his workmans comp. and that everything is going to smooth out . I will also pray his hand gets better and better too so his spirits can be uplifted. Its harder on men I think than us women when something like this happens to a man. He gets the feeling hes let everyonet down when its just not so at all.I went through this s everal times with my own husband when he had colon cancer and after surgery was in pain and could not wo rk. He was moping and blue cause I went back to work. He failed he had failed us and of course I did not feel that at all. I loved my job at the library and did not feel ill treated. I think in the long run Loving it will all come out right in the wash as my hubby used to say. good luck and God bless.

It is very hard when something like this happens but, it is a time to regroup and hopefully he won't be in a position to take another job without workmen's comp. Now days medical expenses are so high that you really have to have insurance. I mentioned in another discussion that perhaps you could get some help with transportation for a time. Perhaps that would help.

Well, I don't pray because I am not religious. But I will keep him in my mind. Always. I believe deep down everything will be fine. I know the feeling. It's the wait and the stress and the not knowing that drives you crazy. I assume he does contracting work and he works with his hands. Now, he could do one of two things, bite the bullet and wait for the comp, or bite the bullet and go back to work with his hand. Maybe they could give him light duty because of his injuries. As far as the gas, maybe he could have one of his co-workers pick him up. I am just trying to give some quick solutions.

all you can do is be there for him. when we get down and withdrawn, sometimes no one and nothing can pull us out of it.. however i do find, that although no one can pull me out of it, when i'm completely left to my own devices i can tend to go into self destruct mode. so whilst he will need his own space, just make sure you don't leave him on his own for too long. whistle and sing round the house, and make positive little remarks out of the blue.. my partner doing that really helps me :)

That's so sad! I never want him to feel that way! I wish there was something we could do to help! We will get yall out of the house next week & maybe that will help! I'll be praying!

Hi, I am new but wanted to extend my prayers for you and your hubby due to the problems you are going through right now. I have had so many issues with insurance and medical stuff in the past and still have no insurance. It has made me literally want to die. I'm a female and I can't cope with that kind of thing with job loss so I can just imagine what he is going through. I hope by some kind of miracle things will turn around for the better, it is so frustrating when one thing hinders another when you just want to get back on track with your life the way it was before, I know what you mean.