public reputation destroyed through online!
By Irenefm
@Irenefm (25)
Philippines
January 31, 2012 10:35pm CST
I know a colleague of mine with reputation destroyed on one of a social network. The story started when she begun dating a guy after her recent break-up with her ex-boyfriend. For 3 months dating she got to know the guy and fell inlove definitely. Just recently the guy proposed to her but had a condition that he still have to clear something before everything else. Well then she started wondering about what could be that something. Later she knew that the guy is married with 3 kids. Eventually, the family of the guy's wife knew about the relationship. we don't know really what happened then, but BOOM an account made on a social network with her picture on with the guy, telling that she is a mistress, and calling her names as such. That account made by unknown person started inviting friends which he/she knew related to my colleague-starting from the school she graduated, up to the place where she work. The news spread like a virus misleading people of bad impression of her.
I don't judge her of what happened between her and the guy. She didn't know really of if the guy is already married. Maybe her fault was just she fell inlove with someone with a very short period of time without knowing the guy. For the one who made an account, I can't blame him/her I too will be so angry that I can maybe do such thing as that. However, I wish that account is not made, since we can't say the extent of the damage to the person affected especially for those who are innocent.
10 responses
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
That's really one of the negative sides of the Web. One's reputation can be tarnished with a single article, picture or video. Worse is that we can't do anything about it at present since cyber laws and courts aren't that yet in place, especially for those being slandered online.We can just hope that more laws are enacted and implemented to prevent these kinds of things. But social network sites should also monitor these things and not allow accusations without facts to be posted.
@Irenefm (25)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
Our institution was also affected by the scandal made by this account since the institution name was also posted. And because of morality issue some people are questioning the morality of the employees in our institution. That is why the administration are trying to stop or removed the account. but I don't know how they can do that..
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
Hi! That's really a sad story. The lesson is to know somebody really better before committing. Dig deeper and ask more about his background, go our with his friend of family member. Some people take fro granted dating, the stage on getting to know each other and jumping on love right then. I can't blame the wife, as for the guy he will really have karma for deceiving those women.
@naija4real (1291)
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2 Feb 12
I think one should be very careful when it comes to posting personal information online. The internet is becoming a place where all kind of character congregate to do all kind of things.
@Annrose21 (161)
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1 Feb 12
That was really and embarrassing situation for her. I am engaging to social network sites, so I can imagine what it was like to be destroyed and humiliated publicly. I felt sorry for you friends being accused to be mistress. Good thing that she had given some time to know the guy better before hurrying up to marriage. Actually, I also had a friend who were being humiliated in a social network site. But that was the other way around, when she tried to get her friend's boyfriend and how she flirty tried to win the guy. That was so embarrassing making almost all the people know about what you did. But as time passes by, most of them will forget about what had happened, leaving the lesson they have learned from the experience. Lesson was the most important thing you get from experience.
@Irenefm (25)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
I know that the issue will just fade and eventually will be forgotten by people however we do not know the damage that was done in somebody's life. How long she will take this in her life and the people although they will forget about it but it will surely stain that the fact she was called a mistress..
@mich06141990 (10)
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1 Feb 12
Bad to that girl..But still it was not her fault,she was just deceived by that guy..
@angelako (280)
• Italy
1 Feb 12
Thats is some of the disadvantage of social network when too much personal things will be included there.Its hard to trust someone you only know online,trusting them without knowing the real him could sometimes lead us to a bad situation.A lot of cases in the philippines like same as that.
@beenice2 (2967)
• Sackville, New Brunswick
1 Feb 12
If she still an account online I would delete it and wait for a long while before to think to have another account. I do not trust anything online of the sort,because it is to easy to have problems coming out of your ears. To big of a population online, you can't always tell who you are dealing with, they are " Strangers",and you security can be in danger,so be on the safe side.
@julhas555 (48)
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1 Feb 12
public reputation destory and build up thats really depend on user.For destroy online is not responsible.
