Is the "First Love" the strongest one of your whole life?

Italy
February 1, 2012 1:55pm CST
I heard this more than once, you will never forget your first true love. And the first one is always the hardest to get over. I have fallen in love when I was 16, I had other girlfriends before but I have never been deeply in love like when I was 16, I had a 5 years relationship with this person and I still feel deeply in love with her, I feel she is special and I don't want to change her with anyone else. WE had some rough moments and just the though of her not being my partner but just a friend didn't make me happy at all. I am a very independent person, so why is it so hard to move on and just find another one.?
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12 responses
@Hazelrose (2185)
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
Love at 16?I can say that it was only an infatuation or crush not really love.we can only feel real love maybe at exact time.love for me is at our present relationship and we must have time to treasure it.may be our first boy or girl friend is hard to forget because they belongs to our past,and also a part of life.good day!
• United States
2 Feb 12
I don't know if I'd agree with this. I said I was in love at the age of sixteen, and I'm still with the same person now, and I'm still in love with her. I think that love is different for each person as to when, where, and with who it happens. Don't be so fast to dismiss others just because of age.
@Hazelrose (2185)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
I'm happy for you that until now you are still in love with the same person.For me i found it very rare especially now a days.Any way,each one of us has choices and it depends on how you feel.have a nice day!
• Italy
4 Feb 12
Why do you think it is not possible to call it love at 16? I fell in love at 16 and I still am after 5 years at the age of 21 with the same person. That is enough proof to me that I was and still am in love since that young age. WHo are we to tell when somebody is in love or not?
@ShyBear88 (18618)
• United States
1 Feb 12
It was very easy for me to move on from my first love. I choice the guy wasn't for me and went on to the next guy that is my husband. I would have a extremely hard time getting over him if we broke up. Some relationships are easier to move on from then others no matter who much you love that person or not.
• Italy
1 Feb 12
I agree with what you said, but was your first love, real love?
@ShyBear88 (18618)
• United States
3 Feb 12
A first love doesn't mean they are your true live. All live is real there is just different types of. I loved him just not in the way I love my husband the father of my daughter. My husband is the man I was meant to be with. The guy before that was for me to learn what I wanted in the man and what type of love was meant for me.
@anncherry (406)
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
For me, yes it was. ^^ But I'm still waiting for the one love that is stronger than that, and I believe God will eventually give it to me at the right time. :)
• Italy
4 Feb 12
Good luck, I hope you will find someone you will love more than your first love, but do not wait for God to send you your angel, go out and look for him/her...just my advice
@dianluzi (48)
• China
1 Feb 12
Love is one of the greatest things in world.I haven't met that person who is the first one in my life.I believe the true love.The first true love is one of the most happiness things to everybody.I think the first one isn't the strongest one of my whole life,but the first one must be the unforgettable one of my whole life.
• Italy
2 Feb 12
Well good luck with your search of love then!
@neersha (250)
• Delhi, India
23 Nov 16
yes this is right no one can forget the moment of life to which they are engaged by heart. its memories are flash back every time whenever you stay alone and think with your mind and conclude it by heart. My first love is my passion for doing my software job.
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
actually it depends on you if it's strong or not well the fact that being with her for 4 years is really hard
2 Feb 12
It really not easy to move on when you already fall in love BUT try to start one step a baby step, try to avoid yourself not to be with her,try to go out with friends and delete everything that would remind you of her. You never say she's committed so i would say why not pursue her?
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
First love, first experience in the field of love. There are firsts in our life that's hard to forget. First love is one of it. But, it doesn't mean we can never forget the person whom we fall in love the first time. We might not forget that person- but the feeling is not the same. The same feeling will be gone (unless you married the same person) So,it's all the memory that's left to remember- no more feelings, but happy moments.
• United States
2 Feb 12
I don't think you found it hard to move on just because she was your first love. The point is that you were with her 5 years. That basically says that you two had something that you could not find in your previous relationships. Also you got used to her and that is why, you were not ready to let go of her.
• United States
2 Feb 12
I'm still with my first love, but we had a few breaks after the first year. I was always wondering what other relationships would be like, so I explored them, as did she later on, but we both discovered that it's just better with each other. We've been together for seven years now, and, while it hasn't been easy or perfect by any means, it's definitely been worth it all in the end. I think that people are scared they won't feel the same way about somebody again if they leave their first love, or if their first love leaves them. They just want that feeling to be sustained throughout a long period of time, or else they think they'll never get it again. At least, that's my theory, and I think it's a good one because if I haven't been with somebody for a while, I usually feel pretty sad and lonely.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
first love is your first time to love that is its memorable. it's when you may have experienced all your firsts in loving. imagine for the first, you have cared for another person you are not related to? but i guess, it depends upon how deeply you are in love with that person. why its hard to find one? maybe because you want to find someone like your first love. or you keep on comparing her with your current girlfriends. if you think you still love her, go and find her and ask her to be your girlfriend again. it's not fair to go in a relationship with someone you are not deeply inlove with.
• Philippines
1 Feb 12
N, it was not the strongest one, but it was one of the most unforgettable one. The main reason why first love is valuable is the thought that it won't gonna happen again. That is the magic of our first love. We thought that our first love would last forever.