Haters... Is hating really that satisfying???

Philippines
February 4, 2012 6:37pm CST
I just couldn't figure out why these people waste their time just to spread negative vibes. If anyone here knows, please tell me. Awhile ago, there's been another hater on YouTube who commented on two of my videos, and left a comment on my channel page, too. He said he unsubscribed and disliked all of my videos and he's hatin' on me because I haven't replied to him for a long time. What?! It's my first time logging in for weeks/months, and I absolutely have no obligation whatsoever to reply to him, I haven't even been able to reply to my dearest closest friends there, I couldn't even remember him sending a message, so how in the world could I... I just don't get it. If he hates me so much, then comment about how bad I sing or play the piano or something rather than me not replying to you. Or just don't come to my channel altogether. Don't get me wrong, I've already gotten hate comments before. "Sorry, you're not good" or "I don't like your singing" are more acceptable comments than "You suck because you don't reply to me." Totally unrelated. I mean, hello, it's a video. You watch. Then comment if you want to. Then it's up to the uploader if she wants to comment back. Being on YouTube for a long time now, haven't people already gotten that? Ok, enough of the rant. I just want to know your thoughts on the different reasons why people hate on other people (on sites such as YouTube). And these haters, when you try to visit their channel, haven't even tried posting their own videos. And most of the time, they say ridiculous, close-to-random things like this one. Do they do it just to attract attention? Is it because they're bored with their lives? Is it because they really hate you? Are they really bad people? Do they do that to purposely hurt you? ('Cause if you really disliked what you saw/heard, you are a much better person if you just close that browser tab and not comment at all, or comment responsibly, with constructive criticism and some diplomacy. I do just that. And I've never hit the thumbs down button, ever. 'Cause I know how degrading it is for the person in the video.) So please tell me, what do you think is the reason for these people to do such things?
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• United States
8 Feb 12
A fact of life is that haters are people who have some thing missing in their lives. And, they may see something in your life that is void in theirs'. I have a couple people in my life that just stress me out cause it seems like everyone they bring up, they have something negative to say. Just gets on my nerves so bad. I have someone out of the bloodline in my family who just makes my stomach hurt cause she won't shut up.
@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
8 Feb 12
I think that we all have people like that in our lives, chrystaltears. I try to avoid those people and pray for them to find something that will bring some joy into their lives so that they might stop feeling the need to make others miserable like they are. Life is stressful enough without allowing people cause more stress and grief.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 12
*like!* I totally like Deedee's positive approach and outlook in life. It's really the right thing to do. They'd surely stop pestering you if you just ignore them, chrystaltears, if they can't stop spreading negativity, that is. :)
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@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
8 Feb 12
I think that if you put yourself out on the world wide web, then you kind of set yourself up for some criticism and should be willing to accept it. However, when it comes to someone just being vicious and mean, that is different. It is ok to say I didn't like your video, and maybe include some reason why, if you think it will help the other person. Be constructive with your criticism, not destructive! There is no reason for hatefulness.
• Philippines
8 Feb 12
That's exactly what I wanted to say. You post something, not to accumulate praises, but to get constructive criticism to help you get better. Commenting based on pure hate is just senseless.
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@deedee328 (1127)
• United States
8 Feb 12
thank you anncherry. All hatred is senseless. It takes too much valuable time away from things that really matter for me to sit around posting (or saying, or doing) hateful, destructive things to people.
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• Philippines
5 Feb 12
for me ,hating is not much satisfied me.i want to give some more words more than hate , to make me satisfy....
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• Philippines
5 Feb 12
as they say ...to hate is to love and to love is to hate....
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• Philippines
8 Feb 12
Ahaha! So in truth, the hater loves me? XD
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• Philippines
5 Feb 12
I made a discussion here in myLot about Haters. Those Haters hates themselves not you, It's because they wanted to be like you. They hate you because you are a reflection to themselves. Don't waste your time thinking of those haters because they are just insecure in what you do have.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 12
Right, "They hate you because you are a reflection of themselves." Being insecure and unsatisfied (and posting nasty comments just to get short-lived satisfaction) is a sad way to live indeed.
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@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
for sometimes since there are people who get bored easily and like to test new water. this what i mean they like to experience something aside from being good and try to invent new personality such as creating fake names and then getting to join a forum sites or you tube and make some nasty comments. they get to enjoy annoying other people but f you do not feed them like a trolls they would get bored and stop for good.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 12
Oh yah, I heard that some people do that. On online video competitions, there are those people who create dummy accounts just to dislike as much entry videos as possible and leave nasty comments to discourage the contestants. They are the lowest. ~.~
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@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
Terrible, those haters. They are multiplying all over the world. I, myself, want to know what's going on in those spaces inside their heads. They clearly don't have the common sense to just ignore things they don't like. They serve no purpose in the world and they definitely haven't done any good to other people. To them, it might just be entertainment and some use hating as some sort of defense mechanism. A lame one, if you ask me. Ignore him altogether, that will frustrate him. If you reply back to this person, he would like it and keep hating more. There's no reasoning with these type of creatures.
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• Philippines
5 Feb 12
Oh yeah, it's like they seed from all the hate, whether it be coming from them or from you. _
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• United States
5 Feb 12
It is best to not even listen to haters. All they try to do is spread negativity because they are feeling down about them selfs. So they are trying to make others feel the way they are. I usually just ignore them. That is one way of really getting to them. I also let my haters be my motivators. I let their hate motivate me to do better so I can really show them a thing or two.
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• Philippines
5 Feb 12
Yes, that's right. They try to make you feel the way they are feeling. And also the part where you use them as motivation to do better, yep. :)
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• United States
5 Feb 12
people hate because they are jealous lonely insecure the same reason they lie and cause trouble for others it would be so nice if people would just stay out of other people business and be nice to each other what agreat place this world could be
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
I agree. :)
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• United States
5 Feb 12
I really don't understand why is it that people hate so much on others. These are people that have too much time on their hands and need someone to just reach across the internet and smack them. I've read some of the hateful comments that people leave on youtube videos and there is always someone that leaves the nastiest comments and I am just in shock at the things that are said. I started uploading videos of my adorable dog just doing stuff but I haven't had any haters yet because I don't have any subscribers or too many views but I would just ignore them if I were you. There will always be haters and there's nothing you can do aside from ignoring them. These are people that are probably jealous; actually I take that back, they ARE jealous!
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
I agree. Ignoring them is the best way to handle it. Then block them! ;P And yeah, it's sad that with the views coming in, there are always haters coming in with them. I used to say to one of my friends there, "When someone hates on you, be thankful 'cause they're making you famous!" Because, hey, by commenting, they're giving you 1 view on your video, and you win. Then you ignore him. Another win. ;P
• United States
5 Feb 12
Exactly! They are just giving you exactly what you need which is more views which is a benefit to you. Good luck!
@Hatley (154941)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Feb 12
hi anncherry oh my g theres enough negativity in this world already so why spread hatred too? I do not understand people like that.I once got this response to my discussion on the tern cotton picking. she wrote"Oh for God's sakes."that was her response.I commented back"If you disliked my discussion that much why not just bypass it? your response does not add anything helpful". She had her response deleted by mylot for not adding anything to my discussion. of course I lost my comment as it was on her response.So hatred to me is a cowards way of ducking making a responsible comment. I think there are a number of reasons but most of them are people being too cowardly to actually say what they We honestly feel. if someone gives me constructive criticism I will read it and take it to heart if necessary.We all can always do better but we do not need haters trying to degrade us.that does not help,it only makes us feel bad.
• Philippines
10 Feb 12
Oh yah, that's another good point. All the more reason that they shouldn't let them affect us, because they're actually cowards when it comes to what they actually feel.
@Bhadine (144)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
Don't mind him. Ignore his messages or delete them if possible. Hating is like an acid which can do more harm on the container in which it is stored that in the object in which it is poured. if you will keep on thinking about that person who means nothing to you, your body will produce substances that will harm you so beware.
• Philippines
8 Feb 12
After I rant here, I'm okay right after. I just want to know the many opinions of myLotters why some people do such things. :)
• United States
5 Feb 12
I don't know why people spread negativity like that either. Especially on sites like YouTube. You find comments on there that you can tell the person just opened that video to be negative. I was reading through the comments on one of my favorite band's videos and really no one had anything to say about the music or even the video. All they could find to talk about was they wear too much make up (it's five men, all in their mid-late 20's at the time the video was made) and they dress weird. So, honestly, if all they can find to complain about is that you failed to respond a couple of times (or my band's make up and clothes), then I say life is good in your world and they need to find a hobby. I really think that kind of behavior stems from being largely unhappy in their own lives and have to share their misery with others.
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
Hmm, that's a good point. I think they are really unhappy with their lives the way they want to spread such misery in their words. It doesn't reflect on the person they're commenting on, more like, it reflects on themselves. If they are unhappy about others, they are actually unhappy about themselves.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
5 Feb 12
I don't believe in spreading negativity, if you don't like a clip on the net then you should just move on and don't say anything, only give praise where it is deserved, negativity is a waste of time and a waste of energy as I see it opinions are just a matter of taste and not everone is going to like every clip but there would be some people who would like it so everyone should just respect everyones right to an their opinion...
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
I agree 100%! Negativity is just a waste of time and energy.
• United States
30 Apr 12
Me and my fiance have a saying, if you have haters you must be doing something right. Because that's normally how it goes people just hate when others are better off then they are.