Do you get drunk to find the courage to speak out?

@enelym001 (8333)
Philippines
February 4, 2012 11:33pm CST
I remember a friend before who came to my house with roses and reveal his feelings for me. Told me that it was him who sent roses twice before. He was with two other friends and it took sometime before he finally says that he likes me… He got drunk I think to find that courage to speak out his feelings for me. Another friend last night, dragged me out to a bar for a few bottles of beer. She was in a confused state of mind these days. She was talking about her very personal problems. She got drunk and puked twice. Good thing she felt alright as we drove her home. But when she gets drunk she becomes emotional, cry and talk about her problems. I guess being drunk is her way to find the courage to talk about her problems too. Do you also find the courage to talk about your personal sorrows when you got drunk or you think it is better to talk about such things when you’re sober? I talk about mine when I am not drunk.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
en When will you invite me for a drinking session dear :p I need to find out what problem can I share once I am drunk (hahaha) I haven't tried drinking any alco more than one shot
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@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
5 Feb 12
I Love Shots... and also my dear di
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@phillyguy (3008)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
oh jai then we won't have a drinking session if there will be a second Philippine mylotters reunion
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
coffee flavored vodka? Okay,lemme try next time
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@beenice2 (2482)
• Canada
5 Feb 12
I never got drunk because I find that first of all I'm a person that like to face life without the liquor. If both of those that you are talking about are not able to talk to you without having to be drunk they have a problem,I would change friends, you can't be sure that they going to remember what they have talked to you the night before,I don't like somebody like that.
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi beenice2, Not that she is a drunkard, she also talks about some of her problem when she isn't drunk. But I guess when we went out to have a drink she finds this a good opportunity to talk about her feelings and her problems. So I don't think it is fair to change friends.
• Mexico
5 Feb 12
Hi enelym: I know some people have to do this but that's not my case. Even if I am a shy person I don't think this would be a good idea. In fact I do my best not to drink because I usually get angry when I have drunk so much and the feeling the day after is terrible. I prefer to stay sober and do things by my heart. ALVARO
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
HI Alvaro, Like you I prefer to be sober, and if I wanted to talk about my problems it should be when I am sober too. Talking about issues while I am drunk will make me feel really bad the next day.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
No, I can easily share my feelings even with strangers, LOL. I don't need to drink to make me express myself.
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi Cutie, That's good for you. You don't need to keep something in yourself and finds it really easy to share something personal even with strangers.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
none, never did t and maybe someday would do it if i have big problem that i need to utter t for everyone to know. since i am a shy and silent person and most of the time i learn to kept my worry exclusively to myself and not share it with other. i find it embarrassing just like what your friend experience, it could lead to become the talk of the town. for myself it safe to tell t to close friend any problem i may had rather than getting drunk.
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi flower21, The good thing with her is that she only tell her problem to people who are really really close to her... only two friends - me and another one, knows about her problem. She is good at keeping secrets and even I known about it too late already.
@shibham (17022)
• India
5 Feb 12
Hahahahaha.... I drank daily till months ago (started from few years) and now a days i have lessened it. you are right, people find the courage when they get drunk at least from my experience. I have done several activities which were able to do only after get drunk but now a days, i never get intoxicated to that limit when i can speak out all enough coz as i have mentioned, i have lessened and really feeling relaxed and lively. have a nice time.
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
I also lessened my drinking habits - when I was in college me and my friends used to drink every week. But I really hate puking and hangover so I stopped and tried to avoid drinking. These days it was only with her now that I was drinking because she was really having a big problem and maybe she can't really pour out her emotions when she's sober. Hopefully things will turn out right for her. Good thing for you that you have lessened it as you know drinking isn't really a good habit.
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@NailTech (6890)
• United States
10 Feb 12
I don't get drunk, I'm still able to reveal most feelings though when I'm sober too. I know there are some people who feel the need to get drunk to share their feelings and that shouldn't have to be the case. To bottle everything inside until you can get something to make you drunk doesn't seem very healthy to me, maybe your friends should get some counselling to see why they have to drink to share feelings.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
10 Feb 12
Hi NailTech, Yeah I guess she needs some counseling or at least be told to try to control her emotions when there is something bothering her. I am just happy that she is not a drunkard and that she is telling me most of her problems now unlike before. I was kinda surprised when she got drunk and cry for even the small things.
@chum24 (569)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
hi enelym001 i have some friend(boys) they used to drunk to expressed their feeling because they think that they don't have any tense and they can say what is their true feelings. some of saying it is better to get drunk and tell your feelings than to become stupid. some girls also believe that if boys got drunk they usually tell the truth.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Hi chum24, I also heard about that. They say that when people are drunk, even the most deepest secret might be revealed. Some really get courage from drinking so they're ready to hear whatever news they'll hear - good or bad.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 12
I can understand him..it is not easy to let you know what hisfeelings En... Especially if you dont have the same feelings just like him the denial statement of yours w oul d make him down maybe that is why he loose his courage but that is show how chicken he is he dont deserve to have u
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Hi ifa, chicken! Yeah I think some guys can be weak when it comes to revealing his feelings towards a girl especially if he is not really sure whether he'll be rejected or not.
@yanzalong (10171)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 12
When one gets drunk, one has no feeling of fear. So, what's on his mind just flows out like a breeze. The side effect of being drunk is that you will lose self confidence. You are not brave in your real life. And to be brave you have to rely on gettind drunk, and finally you'll get hooked on it, and can't live without it.