Do you allow people to just drop by your home at anytime??

@bjc66bjc (6745)
United States
February 5, 2012 12:25pm CST
I personally have about 3-5 people who can drop by at anytime during the day and 3 that can drop by anytime day or night. I think other that the fact that you have that understanding, it is so very rude to just drop in on people without notice.. I can see some people really being courteous to you and praying for you to leave when you have showm up without notice.. Its just not right as far as I am concern.. How do you feel about that???
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21 responses
• United States
5 Feb 12
Well, my mom wouldn't mind it. She always said to be ready for company. You know, have the house tidied up, get dressed in the morning and always have cake or cookies on hand. My dad worked 2 jobs and my mom worked at night and slept in the day. Still she believed in being ready for company. I'm not that way. I'm never ready for unexpected company and while I might smile and be courteous I might be secretly annoyed. I think in today's time people have busy lives and don't want to be intruded upon. I think it can be rude but I wouldnt say it always is.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
5 Feb 12
I hear you PointlessQuestion...thanks for respondind, but I thibk the only time its ok is when they are your very best REAL friends. that way its not and intrusion...what you see is what you get.. That always be ready for company sounds good but even when the house is tidy and there are cookies or cake, I still don't want people stopping by whenever they are ready or just feel like it...and I still thank its just darn rude and unacceptable to me.. I wish I could drop by your moms house....LOL...especially 2 hours after she arrives home from work...
@Genericbe (1378)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
I also personally do not agree or allow other people to just drop by my home at anytime. Well, my home is the only privacy I got.. I think that some people do feel happy or allow people to just drop by their home maybe because that is their chosen nature, lifestyle either work related or for needing that much social interaction for themselves. Most commonly are those of politicians in nature or those engaged in social network activities. For me, i believe that the reason why there is a separation of work related activities like business establishments and home. Is because, the manner of privacy will be at stake if combined in one place or location.. IT is best not to mixed any so that the separation of roles will be designated in its proper place. Though it is a nice feeling when some people do drop by your home if you are visited and appreciated them for that..Still, there will come to point that somehow you will think of your own privacy especially when those people are used to come by your home without notice or permission from you at anytime. I guess you will be having a hard time for such preparations or if instances you have other appointments that must be attended..
• United States
7 Feb 12
No, no, no, no and no. lol! I never do that to any of my friends, and in the same token I do not allow that. Nothing hard about making a phone call, unless a person just cannot muster up enough physical strength in their fingers to dial my number and inform me of their coming over. The worst thing that could happen is for someone to stop by while I'm in the middle of getting changed. _
@dodo19 (33990)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 Feb 12
There are some people that I wouldn't really mind if they simply dropped by unannounced, but I do prefer it if people call first. I can then have some time to prepare for them.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
6 Feb 12
I have a couple of very close friends that I would be absolutely ok with them stopping by any time at all with or without notice. We are close enough that if I were busy, they'd understand...not be offended. Of course in an emergency...any of my friends know it is ok to call me or drop in. Ironically, the ones that I am the most ok with having stop by without warning are the very ones that almost never do. I think in all the years that I've known those friends, they've stopped by unexpectedly maybe once or twice...in the neighborhood...wanted to surprise me. I don't visit my friends either without first calling. It depends on the friendship of course but for the most part...it's rude.
• India
6 Feb 12
During college time it was different, my friends and I would come at each others place without any notice. Since I am unwell I don't like anyone dropping at my place without a call. It is difficult for me to attend them at any random hour of the day. There is one friend who always comes without any call and really it is so inconvenient to attend her, but in spite of telling her so many times she still continues to do the same. This habit of hers irritate me a lot, but I can't help it. I know she is never going to change.
@flower21 (766)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
no, usually it rarely happen to me and it happen sometimes when a neighbor need to borrow something, n case of stranger i only encounter few in the past and i am really wary of their intention. usually, never entertain them longer when i am busy and just have a short talk so they would usually notice i am not interested and they usually go away.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
6 Feb 12
Bjc, usually i prefer people to give me a call earlier before they are to drop by my home. At least, i won't be panic and able to prepare some food to welcome them. Even myself prefer to give an advance call to that person, in case i want to visit them. I felt it is rude to drop by my friend or relatives home without announcement. That's why, i always remind my friends and relatives to give me a call, in case they want to visit me.
• United States
6 Feb 12
I have a few that do this an yes i think its rude...im always involved in something then i gotta stop in the middle of the mess to socialize an make coffee while im thinking why did i need to scrub my cabinets today now my house is a mess...are they thinking...gross..? i think its unfair. but they all know not to stop if my mans home lol...he can b rude about it
@SIMPLYD (84751)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
I don't like surprises, specially coming into my house, without telling me you are coming. Of course, it would be a different case if that friend is a close one because i am always prepared to be seen in my house dress, and she needs not be entertained. But for others, excuse me - you can text me if you are coming please.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
6 Feb 12
There was a time it was normal. This was called: hospitality. In the past years it's not normal anymore. People are busy, want their privacy, so even family has to call first. I don't care if they do (most won't and I also don't know many people who do) but it's also a risk since I might not be home.
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
thats really not good to just drop by on someone's house without tellng them..it's a rude manner for me..maybe you can tell them personally for them not to go in to your house without telling you.
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
no. When people ask me if they can hang out in my place, i say no hahaha.. I don know how to accommodate people, i dont know how to entertain visitors. Plus i have room mates, i don wanna disturb them. I only allow if its really needed.
@Porcospino (18617)
• Denmark
6 Feb 12
It is depends who it is. There are some people who are welcome to drop by anytime. They are my close friends and they are always welcome here. One of my close friends usually calls me before he visits me, because he lives in the another part of the country and he doesn't want to drive all the way to my town if I am not there. If he showed up at my door without calling me first it wouldn't bother me at all, he is always welcome, but it would be a waste of time and gas to drive from his home to my island if I am not there, so I understand why he always calls me first. In some cases (if I don't have a close relationship to the people who visit me) I prefer that people call me or text me before they show up.
@jkct02 (2859)
• Malaysia
6 Feb 12
In this age of easy tele-communication, there is no way that anyone can go to any people's house without calling to arrange that ahead. It will be rude and inconvenient. I will call ahead to make sure my visit is appropriate and welcomed. I will expect the same from my visitors.
@celticeagle (120478)
• Boise, Idaho
6 Feb 12
I don't like people to come by unannounced. I don't care to do that to other people and I certainly don't like them to do that to me. I call ahead and find an appropriate time. It is rude to just drop by and shows a lack of consideration. I definitely feel the same way you do. When my daughter isn't here i go to my room and lock the doors. Anyone that knocks is there to see my daughter and I figure they can come back at another time.
• United States
6 Feb 12
I guess I have mixed feelings about that. There are some who I wouldn't mind at all popping up without a warning, but there are more than that number who I would rather never show up without letting me know first. I guess I need to give that more thought, because every now and then I do show up on others without calling first, but I guess it's ok, because I would probably think it over and decide whether or not I would think the person would mine. I may be wrong tho.
@maezee (33940)
• United States
6 Feb 12
I live with my dad, and his friends tend to just drop by whenever. But that's OK because they don't bug me. I have 2-3 friends that tend to drop by unannounced, which is really irritating to me. Because they just assume I'm going to be home and want to hang out with them. 1 of these people actually came over my place once when I wasn't even home - and he had the nerve to call me and say "Where are you?! I'm at your house!!" UGH! I've expressed how annoying this is and so lately they haven't done it. I don't really like that sense of entitlement, and also how they assume I don't have plans and can just hang out whenever. UGH!
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Feb 12
I would never go to someone's house without being invited. However, when I had my own place and my husband was working all the time I would secretly pray someone would come by and see me, anyone really... So, I wouldn't do it to someone else but I would have LOVED some company and surprise company at that time was okay with me. =) I was so lonely.
@Shellyann36 (11269)
• United States
5 Feb 12
I would allow my close family, parents & sisters and one friend that I do not mind if they drop over anytime at all. They all live at least 30 minutes away and they don't normally drop by without calling to make sure I am home first. I think it is very rude of someone to just show up on your doorstep (unless it is some sort of emergency & they could not help it). I would never do that to any of my family or friends. If someone happens to drop by unannounced I have the option to let them in or not. It normally does not happen so I don't have to worry about it often.