Do you need Valintine's Day to express your love?

United States
February 5, 2012 3:26pm CST
Are you one of those who looks forward to Feb 14th like a toddler looks forward to Christmas? Is it the Only day your love expresses how much they love you? For me for the longest time Feb 14th was just a date on the calendar. And now that I have a love, it is still just a date? Why? I feel his love Every day of the year! I don't have to wait for him to express it by buying candy or flowers once a year.Is this rare? Your thoughts.
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@inertia4 (27688)
• United States
8 Feb 12
I find Valentine's day as just another holiday created by the corporations to make big bucks. Who needs Valentine's day anyway. I love T and she loves me. Thats all that counts. Now I do buy something for my kids on Valentine's day. But I will buy T some candy, because I know she loves Godiva. And I will take her to dinner as well. She would appreciate that very much.
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• United States
9 Feb 12
I wonder how many men who love a woman like me. I Hate receiving flowers and I don't eat That much candy. A box of chocolates would be a waste of money! To me Feb 14th is the anniversary of the best mob hit! I rather celebrate that. Before I met my guy That is all it was about. And now? I think it will stay that way. I asked my guy point blank, is he into celebrating Valentine's Day and he said no. Does he miss sending me flowers? No. But each day I feel I'm loved , wanted and needed. To me that is so much better than any bouquet of flowers!
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@inertia4 (27688)
• United States
13 Feb 12
I agree with you 100 percent. The only thing that T wants is to go out for dinner. So, I will be doing that with her. She wants to go to this restaurant that she has never been to. So, I will be taking her there. Other then that, it means nothing to her. It is just another day period. I love the St. Valentines day Massacre.
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• United States
13 Feb 12
I have a documentary And the movie on tape Just in case no channel airs them on feb 14th. The History Channel will be airing the documentary at 4pm EST.
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@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
6 Feb 12
I agree with you Sarah.. It is not actually important for the people who are already with someone... However, yesterday, someone told me that if I am in love with someone then I could propose her on 14th this month, because that day no one thinks bad of it... I am not sure... What do you think, is it a good day for those who are yet to propose???
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• United States
6 Feb 12
It depends on the woman you are with. If she is super romantic.If she speaks of Valentine's like it is the most romantic day of the year? Then it would be perfect . But if you meet a woman like me, who sees Feb 14th like a regular day, proposing on Feb 14 isn't necessary.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
7 Feb 12
That is perfect analysis... :) Thanks a lot Sarah.. I, unfortunately, don't have anyone to propose to... :( LOL... I just kick myself on 14th Feb that I couldn't even find a life partner... Shame on me!!! Take care...
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• United States
8 Feb 12
take those words back! There is no shame in not finding your love yet. and Please do not feel depressed on Feb 14th. Promise me you will do something fun on Feb 14th.
@mpsingh08 (102)
• India
6 Feb 12
i think that every day is valentine day so dont need to wait 14feb,,,,, enjoy ur lifes every moment with ur partner,,dont wait or loose...
• United States
6 Feb 12
I agree. Every moment with my guy is precious.
• India
8 Feb 12
hmmmmm,,,,,ur guy frnd or ur lyf partner?
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• United States
12 Feb 12
He is my other half, my heart , my hope.
@ShyBear88 (17538)
• United States
6 Feb 12
I don't sit around counting down the days till Valentines day. But when it comes around like any other holiday where you can give someone a gift besides there birthday. I kind of look forward to it. Its a day to be really creative and not give darn what others might think and how corny you might be to give something. Yeah any day can be Valentines and I do have those days where its not Valentines day and we get to do something sweet and kind for each other. But hey I have a kid there isn't too much time for romantics any more so any excuses we can get to just be the two of us we certainly want to take it. I know it might sound wrong but what can I say I like to have alone time outside of the house if I can. We also try to do something special for the little ones since little kids get really into making someone smile outside of the family.
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• United States
6 Feb 12
Having Date night with Hubby Without Sugar is one of the best ideas! That way you Remain lovers to each other and not just Sugar's Mommy and Daddy.
@ShyBear88 (17538)
• United States
7 Feb 12
Well we are hoping to get out this weekend alone and celebrate Valentines day early but we might have to spend it with Sugar anyways which is okay cause as soon as family gets into town we plan to go out on our own for a night and leave her for the night with family that can handle her if they can fallow directions for once.
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• United States
8 Feb 12
I hear you!
• Marikina, Philippines
8 Feb 12
I am not one of those people who are looking forward to February 14th besides who invented “valentines’ day” huh? It is just like Christmas day. People share and give love every Christmas day and after that event, they are going back to the old ways. People become friendly with their enemies and after that event, they have already forgotten what they did during Christmas. Ha ha. We could give love every day to the people even if without those events like Christmas and Velentines. I think Catholic church invented those events in the society.
• United States
8 Feb 12
The Catholics didn't event the festival of Christmas, they stole it from the pagans. Back in the day when Christianity was the new religion , they needed more members so they moved Jesus' birthday to winter and " Borrowed" a popular winter festival. In fact the Puritans didn't celebrate Christmas and if they had their way , us Americans wouldn't either. But Valentine's? I have no idea.
• Marikina, Philippines
9 Feb 12
Aahh. Pagan. I remember that they said, a Roman Catholic invented valentines’ day but I am not sure if it is true. Still I do not know where it came from, but I have a feeling that it came from Catholic.
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@sivaeinfo (220)
• India
6 Feb 12
Hi., Valentine's Day is necessary for lovers for celebrating their love with each other, But not for expressing their love. Every relationship has particular day to celebrate like mothers day, children day etc. In Same way the lovers need one day to celebrate their love and lovable memory. It will improve better relationship with each other. I think that we need Valentine's Day to celebrate our love.
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• India
6 Feb 12
Do you want to celebrate your love.
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• United States
6 Feb 12
No I don't. What is the difference between expressing love and celebrating love? To me Having to hold Everything in So I celebrate On the correct day makes no sense. So I am suppose to Never say I love you Until The Government deems the correct day to say so? I say no! My guy says no! every day we are together we express our love. I don't see Valentine's day as a necessary day. Never will.
@fantabulus (4005)
• India
13 Feb 12
No I not need any day for express my love for my hubby. I always told him I love you and some time I got replied I too. I think now new generations express their fake love in 14th Feb. and after some days break up also. Few boys and girls are in the world those really love to each other.
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• United States
13 Feb 12
It is all about status. " Look what my boyfriend gave me!" It is so sad. They may never know what real love is!
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
8 Feb 12
I'm with you on this one sarah! Expressing love should be an everyday thing. We don't need a single date to symbolize this. In fact, I've always thought that greeting card companies just made this day up. If buying cards, candies, or floweers were spread out through out the year, it would be less stressful for guys!
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@bagarad (12304)
• Paso Robles, California
7 Feb 12
Hubby and I celebrate Valentine's Day very casually, normally by going out to eat. We have never exchanged gifts or cards for any occasions, since his family never did. This could be because they were unable to because of the political situation in their country. I doubt if they even celebrated Valentine's Day in Serbia, so it would not have been a part of his culture. Although my family always made a big fuss over holidays, I've learned to accept the fact that it's not important to him, and he would really just be going through the motions to humor me. But he frequently says he loves me and shows it in many ways daily. It's not about presents and cards, after all. A lot of people send presents and cards when love isn't really in the picture.
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• United States
7 Feb 12
Hi stranger! Glad to hear from you! I agree I think the more romantic gifts , the less love he truly has.But that's me. The typical Valentine's gifts I could care less about. I hate the idea of receiving flowers. To me they represent a false apology. And Candy? I would only eat two choice pieces of a box of chocolates. So G-d help the guy who thinks flowers and candies is a romantic gesture. Thankfully my guy No Flowers or candy needed!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
7 Feb 12
I think that it's a wonderful thing to feel cared for and loved everyday versus once a year. I can see why it is a special day for those that have only that..so maybe it is a rare and great thing..but I am one that knows life is short and a year can be a long time to feel cared for.
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• United States
7 Feb 12
If I didn't feel loved all year , by the time Feb 14th came around I would have a hard time believing he loved me.
@veejay19 (3592)
• India
6 Feb 12
Such days are new things that never existed in my younger days.It just shows how the world has changed and how fast paced our life has become that we have even forgotten to include love in our daily routine and that we have to be reminded of it on a particular date and day. No, for me such days and there are many of them today like Mothers and fathers day etc, are just dates in the calendar.We should incorporate these days everyday in our lives and make them a regular part and parcel of our lives.Once we do it then we need not have to fix a particular date.
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• United States
6 Feb 12
I agree. If you show your love in some way Every day , All these holidays are unnecessary.
@GreenMoo (11842)
6 Feb 12
I have a bloke who wouldn't remember Valentine's Day even if I tattooed it on his forehead. Thankfully, that's no problem for me. I know he loves me, and I hope he realises I love him.
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• United States
6 Feb 12
I asked my guy point blank does he celebrate Valentine's Day and he said no and I was relieved. To me Feb 14th is the anniversary of one of the best Mob hits!Besides I'm not into roses or candy!
5 Feb 12
I think it's shocking to hear about couples who only ever express their love for one another in abundance on this particular day alone. Surprisingly, there are quite a few relationships like that and it's kind of upsetting. I like what you have said as well. When you are very much in love with someone, there is a constant need to let them know it every single day, every single minute even if you're that type of person. I know I am that way, as is my fiance. We let each other know how we feel all the time, not just on Valentines Day. It's just nice to celebrate it I think :)
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• United States
6 Feb 12
I'm glad to know you are your fiance express the love you have for each other each day.My best wishes on your wedding and marriage.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
5 Feb 12
I live in Australia so we don't really celebrate it but some young people like to get involved with it, I guess it is a nice feeling when someone does send you something but I am a deep thinker so I would rather someone give me something just because he wants to rather than because he feels he has to.
• United States
6 Feb 12
Being down under you are so lucky. Over here, there is pressure to celebrate Valentine's Day . It is implied if a guy gets the wrong type of gift , he doesn't love you enough. Or G-d forbid, he forgets the day altogether , he doesn't really love you at all.It is so sad.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
6 Feb 12
no because my hubby and i have been sending each other free ecards every week day just to let each other we are thinking of them. we have been doing this for years. there are not too many days we miss. it is good because it is free and easy.
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@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi! I don't look forward much for that day.It is a pagan practice. We can really show our love for our loved ones any time. We must not waste time but we must show it everyday. I have a funny experience on valentines day though and up to now we still laugh about it.:)
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@Rick1950 (1565)
• Lima, Peru
6 Feb 12
No, I don't. I think love should be expressed all the time. But Feb 14th is a day that celebrates love and also friendship. However it were wrong if you only at this day show your feelings of love. Always it is nice if one brings some flowers for his girlfriend.
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@maezee (32552)
• United States
6 Feb 12
You're right. I think that Valentine's Day is sort of a hallmark holiday. A guy might buy his gal roses on Valentine's Day, but I think it would be more meaningful if he just bought them for her on any random day, just to say "I love you". Seems a little more romantic than doing it on a day where everyone is supposedly celebrating their relationships...
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• United States
5 Feb 12
I agree w/ your thoughts on this one hundred percent. This is exactly how we all should feel. Why take one day out of the year to express how we feel about each other? What do we do when the holiday is over? Go back to hating each one another or fighting about stupid meaningless things? No. I think if you love someone you should tell that person every day of their lives. If you want to express your love for them, great do it. Don't wait for a holiday that only comes around once a year because who knows what that following year will bring. As my Mom used to say "here today, gone tomorrow." Tell them now how you feel. Don't wait for tomorrow because anything could happen by tomorrow & you might not get another chance to tell that person just how much you love them.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
We view the same thing with that. Valentine's Day is just a day made to give special love and attention to people. But, you don't need to wait for that day to express how much you love that special person in your heart. Everyday should be like a Valentine's Day for the both of you.
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