Do you ever feel like giving up on your relationship?

United States
February 6, 2012 6:09am CST
Sometimes problems in a relationship can be really bad. Do you ever feel like giving up. Just stopping all that you are doing because it just seems like it isn't worth it. Whether you feel the problems are just to big or that you are just tired in every sense of the word of trying to make things better to no avail. What have you done when you felt like that? Did you stay or did you go? And how have things worked out for you?
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@diillu (5128)
6 Feb 12
Relationship are never really easy. You should really think carefully before throwing it all away because once you do it, things are never going to be same again even if you tried to get back together. So, before making a final decision I think you should think hard. Seems like you have already given a lot in your relationship and I think if the relation ends its going to hurt you a lot. If you have already tried this much then I think trying little more doesn't hurt if it improves your relationship with your partner. I think communication is the best thing that solves problem between partner. The best thing you can do now is take your parker somewhere nice where you guys can be together by yourself. Then you can sit down, spend quality time and then talk, talk about everything. The things that you have been keeping to yourself. Your partner might have the same dissatisfaction as yourself and he/she must be also suffering at her end. Communication helps solve a lot of problems , believe me!
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• United States
6 Feb 12
I used to always feel like giving up on my last relationship...And I eventually did. It was the best decision I have ever made. When you feel like constantly giving up, maybe there is a reason why...Maybe you have already emotionally given up and your mind is just waiting for you to leave. I'd make a pros and cons list and pay close attention to what's going on, because if you feel like giving up, there could be a reason why. What is holding you back from not giving up? That's the question that needs to be answered!
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@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Yes many times, because I had a very complicated situation wherein his family is involve. And I've been sacrificing a lot for him all through the years we've been together. His family doesn't like me or does not welcome me to be part of their home because I am not as professional as they were. They had a better life than us and I belong to a lower class family. This is a very difficult situation for us ,specially in my case. We've been together for ten years and it seems like nothing was changing from his side! We're not yet married, because I was giving him the choice and decision to make for me. Sometimes I feel helpless and feels like I wanna give up everything even though I love him that much!
• Jacksonville, Florida
6 Feb 12
I have felt like that in the past. Many years ago. We were going through so much financially like we are now and things got to the point of being really bad. We both felt it and it was tough. We did not give up though, we knew if we stuck together we could make it through anything to come in the future. We prayed together and asked God to make us stronger and make our love stronger so we could make it through any hardships life brought our way. We did make it through and we are still together and going strong. I am so glad we did not give up and walk away. We have fought for our marriage together and it has made us so much closer... I have learned when things get tough I cannot just throw everything away and go because that would be taking the easy way out. I don't ever want to take the easy route. Now I can say we have been through H*ll and back and it has made better and a stronger couple. We feel like nothing that gets thrown at us will tear up apart because we have beat the odds.
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@yahnee (1250)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
I have not reached the decision whether to end the relationship or fight for my love. I have already invested a lot of love in the relationship; however, I am still deciding if it is worth all the pain and heartache that I am suffering right now. I am giving myself time to think things over. I hope everything works out for the best but sometimes I feel so disheartened by the situation. Why do some people ignore that they are hurting the person they profess to love? Does it mean that the relationship is over? A one-sided relationship is the worst situation.
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@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi! I have experience this for a lot of times in my 7 year relationship with my boyfriend especially when we have a very big problem but we still manage to go through it. I think when you are in a long term relationship, theres really a period that you feel that way. But if both of you are strong and have a good foundation, nothing can separate you.:)
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@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
I've been in a similar situation when I was younger. I felt that my relationship had become stagnant and couldn't see any hope that it would get better. It's just that the longer we knew each other, the more we realized our incompatibilities. We started quarreling a lot and stuff. I did try to save the relationship but as hard as I try, it just kept getting worse. I gave up, and she did too. I guess we had fallen out of love.
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@prinzcy (5058)
• Malaysia
10 Feb 12
I felt that a couple of times. Mostly after an argument, disagreement and dissapointed when something happen. Then I just cool my head off and things went back to normal again after a day or two. Sometimes even a week. If I were still a teen and not in a serious relationship, then I would probably just break up. But things are not the same anymore and it's no longer something that you go on and off because you feel like it.
• United States
7 Apr 12
I agree that we usually feel this way after some type of disagreement. It is definitely more serious as a person gets older. Perhaps couples are married or have been in a serious relationship for awhile. It is a good idea for us to rationalize the importance of our relationship with the person we are with.
@barkah69 (96)
• Indonesia
6 Feb 12
I think almost poeple ever feeL like that. I think if we get this problem we go to our best friend to get best advising. We need truth friend when we down. We need friend to give spirit to wake up. Because ussually we are falling down condition ans feel weakness. It is important to choose a good friend not careless friend. Good luck