the prince charming syndrome

United States
February 6, 2012 6:48am CST
Ok so after watching episde after episode of daytime talk shows im wondering if women are being taught to only look for prince charming? I realize that according to dr phil my husband would be Border line abusive. I will tell u what hes not. hes surely not warm an fuzzy..he doesnt like to cuddle or have public displays of affection. hes not oogling over me everyday tellin me how awsome i am. an hes not chippin in with housework or cooking dinner. my husband is ruff around the edges...a manly man. He surely has his flaws life an circumstances has been tough on him. what what he does do makes him a real man in my eyes. i never go without.. im well provided for an if i need something he works extra to get it. when our kids were born he took a second job so i could stay home. when we were hard up he sold his favorite gun. an most of all hes loyal an honest. When he screws up i no im gona get a honest answer even if i dont want to know the truth. i dont worry when he leaves in the middle of the night that hes cheating. are u tired of this talk too? Prince charming doesnt exsist...maybe this is why divorce is so high. ive had girl friends get rid of good men over dumb stuff. do i long for love an affection? Sure...when i miss it i get him good an drunk an i will hear all night how wonderful i am.....lol
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@Orson_Kart (3881)
• United Kingdom
9 Feb 12
Blame the women libbers. They want equality and with equality out goes chivalry. I like to treat a woman like a woman in the old fashioned sense, but most feel offended by it. "Prince Charming, Prince Charming, ridicule is nothing to be scared of"!
• United States
10 Feb 12
Lmao i know women everywere is gona scream...but... i love the barefoot an pregnant theory...lol i only have 1 child... but we live like the old ways kinda My man works an i stay home take care of the kid thing an house. i do make some extra cash cleanin houses but my home is my main job. my husband feels like the man by earning the income an taking care of me. he feels that's his job. call me lazy but i love it too...im in no way offended....lol i take care of myslf so i always look nice for him...make sure rverything is taken care of an try to make sure im well rested so im not cranky. Women are suppost to b the soft spot to land...howany women are that way today
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• United Kingdom
10 Feb 12
"Barefoot and pregnant?" That certainly doesn't turn me on. Well, not unless you had really cute feet and you weren't just about to go into labour, then I could just about imagine a scenario. All in all, I think your man is a very lucky chap.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
13 Feb 12
I loved reading your post.Sure we women sometimes lose valuable relationships based on suspicion and doubt which should not be the case at all.We should learn to trust our partners.That can reduce the rate of divorces.We should be patient,understanding and kind to the men since they too are working hard.We should give some respect to them too.Thanks for sharing your personal experience.
• United States
14 Feb 12
I tell everyone trust till u cant....an i mean solid proof...an when u cant b trusted i wont b with u anymore....trust is so important an i realize this comes from being burned before...an i get that...but its not fair to punish the new man.
@marguicha (78147)
• Chile
13 Feb 12
I read your post and it seems that your husband is prince charming for you. You like his good points and don´t mind at all his flaws. I think that there´s no one kind of prince charming. My husband cooked one dish and fortunatly did it every 2 or 3 years because after that I would have to do mayor cleaning to the kitchen. But he had LOTS of good points so I did not mind the fact that he could not cook or did not distinguish a nice plant from a weed. I think there are many ways to show affection. One of them is taking up two jobs so that you could stay at home and aise your family.
• United States
14 Feb 12
Hes a great man...an there are things that drive me crazy! Lol... but like u said i csn deal with those things because what he does do far out weighs those bad things. One thing ive never been able to deal with the mess he makes in the bathroom in the morning...toothpaste everywere...hair from shavin in the sink...etc makes me crazy scince i dont c why its so hard to rinse all that down but after 17 yrs i know it aint changing so my solution just get ready after my boys....lol i still compain a little but atleast hes goin towork wich is more than alot of men around here are....lol i will deal with the mess vs havin a bumb thats always outta work...lol
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
I blame Disney for creating cartoons about Prince and Princesses. I used to fantasize that one day my prince will come. I'm not sure if this is true or not. But I do believe that someone is meant for every one of us.
• United States
14 Feb 12
I agree i did he same thing an bein daddys little girl didnt help. but as ibecame a teenager mymom an gram stepped in an made it all clear...i believe there is someone for everyone...sometimes more than one. an prince charming is out there as long as you realize that hes as flawed as the rest of us...lol
• United States
6 Feb 12
I think girls get too caught up in finding their idea of a perfect man, which really would be nearly impossible to find. But when you find someone and you truly love them, you see them as being perfect for you despite whatever flaws they may have. I highly doubt that there's a guy that is 100% nice to his girl 24/7 and always gives her gifts, etc. Guys are human, just like women, and we all have our good and bad days. I'm sure parents just want what's best for their daughters and that's probably where girls get the idea of finding a prince Charming. But really, when you meet someone and fall in love, they'll be perfect to you. Yes they'll have their flaws, but who doesn't? Women aren't perfect all the time in a relationship either and so it's ok to cut guys a little slack.
• United States
6 Feb 12
Guys are getting the bad wrap with what we teach our girls. for example this couple i know he was wonderful helped her equally with the kids housework cooking...etc noe she begged to b a stay home mom sn he let her. money got tight an he had s great job offer. she could have evrything she needed then some. she talked him into it. the down fall was he had to be gone thru the week. all week he couldnt wait to come home to his girls. this Was good for about a year till he cought her cheating. in the end she blammed him for being lonely an left him for that guy. how wrong is that....ladies sometimes we can't have it all..its give an take. he gave her everything an she tells everyone how awful her marriage was he was tryin to be a good man this is why there arent that many good men left
• Jacksonville, Florida
6 Feb 12
I absolutely think people believe there is a prince charming somewhere out there for them who will sweep them off their feet and all problems will go away. It doesn't help when people who are impressionable watch these shows and think they are actually reality. I think that is a reason why there is a high divorce rate. I really hate letting my children even watch fairy tales because of this reason but I will explain to them when they are older that it is NOT real. Marriage is tough, you need to work for it every single day and compromise. Things some people fail to understand when they see these shows. No one is perfect so no marriage is perfect. People need to take off the rose colored glasses before they get married and realize it is kind of a job to keep a good relationship going. When I was younger and used to watch the Bachelor I thought wow that is what I want. That would be so great and they get to do such romantic things all the time, that looks amazing. Then I grew up and realized wow, marriage is nothing like that! Lol. I'm not saying marriage is all bad because it is not, I love my husband so very much. Is it tough sometimes? Absolutely. We have been through really hard times and we have been together for 8 years and still going strong. If you really work at a marriage you CAN make it work, and my husband and I worked our butts off to keep ours. =)
• United States
6 Feb 12
I agree....i used to have friends that used to be like why do u deal with that...or that is wrong. but ya know i really Dont think there is anything wrong with a man not wanting his wife in a bar all the time. nor do i want him to. or i get beat up alot over why friends an calls are not excepted when hes home. why? Because im home all day u could call or stop then. an yes hes pissy when u stop or call cause this is his time with me. an hes worked 14 hrs today an dont wana deal with my annoying friends the last 2 hrs hes up for the day...lol Yes i love my friends too...but they are all very loud which I love he hates...lol
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
6 Feb 12
lol. Yes the prince charming that most people are looking for is usually there when the dating first starts. There are a limited number of people who have those types of husband but they are few and far in between. And it takes effort for a person to do things like that and not all husbands are motivated to do it. Unfortunately the media, movies,etc blows way out of porportion what life is suppose to be like with a couple in love. After all we are all imperfect and as wives we aren't perhaps doing all the things that they would like us to do,etc. So yeah I do agree with what you are saying.
• United States
6 Feb 12
I think thats my complaint that media makes relationships should be all warm an wonderful. gives young girls unreasonable expectations. what they dont tell u when u get married is how hard things do become. Other than being a mom its the hardest thing I've Done...but so rewarding in the end...we all have baggage an are far from perfect. why do women expect perfection in thier men?
@lampar (7597)
• United States
14 Apr 12
DR Phil is trying to sell his fantasy to all these women followers, there is no such man known as 'prince charming' existed in our present world. He is a daytime talk show host, not a dating expert or professional matchmaker.
• Pamplona, Spain
14 Apr 12
Hiya cash4, Wish that he could exist though. I was watching something like that over here and had the same impression. Very handsome Guy, very nice personality but when it got to the end of it he was dating two of the Girls in the Program at the same time and going after a third. He was doing it to get on the other Programs that are related to it you know to talk for hours about who said what on the Program and who did what ans so on. So most definitely not my idea of Prince Charming either. Okay he said to the first Girl that it was over. Then he carried on with the second and did the same that way he did not break any rules and then he broke up with the second and then went on to the third in record time but then he started picking up the thread of the first relationship but only to get talked about so he could deny it on all those other programs and get paid for it. There were other guys on there that seemed more legal than him but they did not get much of a chance sometimes the best Prince Charming is not the most handsome of them all. Your Husband is much like mine as well in a way not altogether but similar to that. The few times he has been drunk that is all I ever hear too. Its not very often he does that but when he does he goes to Town and he sings to me all night lol. We have to be willing to learn to cope with the other person´s failings too not just run off at the first thing that goes wrong.xxx
@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
I don't know, but i think prince charming is a boring guy. The one they show in fairy tales anyway. But i consider that we each have our own version of prince charming. Who doesn't crave a perfect man anyway? I mean, as much as possible, a lady would want the perfect man, right? the one who treats her right, shows her affection and provides her needs. Loyal and true for always. It's okay to dream about prince charming, just as long as women don't let this dream affect their judgment and expectations in real life. 'cause if they have high expectations, they certainly will be disappointed. At least when they find a man, they should learn to love him along with all his flaws, given that those flaws doesn't harm the woman or the kids in any way.