because of borrowed money she never show up anymore....

@asliah (11149)
Philippines
February 11, 2012 9:37pm CST
greetings to all mylot user and friends here,have you encounter that your close friend or special friend borrow money with you but that person never ever show up anymore to you?what would be your reaction if that will happen to you?what could you say to your close/special friend?why?
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16 responses
• United States
13 Feb 12
I personally do not like to mix business with friendship. I don't like "lending" to people because some people are not trustworthy and if it's a friend it could very well damage a friendship, when that friend is not able to pay you back. I would rather help out a friend by giving them some money or buying them things that they need. I honestly don't know what I would say because I've never been in this situation and wouldn't know how I would approach the subject if a friend owed me money.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 12
sometimes in our life, we need some help from anyone else ayu.. sometimes we can help someone especially our friend..so why we did not help them if we can do it?
• United States
13 Feb 12
I did not say that we should not help them but I will not "LEND" money to my friends if they need it. If my friends need the money and I have it then I will "GIVE" it to them. There is a difference between "Lending" and "giving" money or anything else to someone. If you lend money you are expecting that money to be given back, but if you are just giving them money you don't expect them to give it back. I stick to what I said, I will not LEND a friend money, but I will give it to them if they need it.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 12
i see.. now i understand...
• Canada
13 Feb 12
This is the reason I avoid giving money to friends or family so I can avoid a situation like this. I have had this happen to me once when a friend borrowed money from and didn't give it to me on the promised time and started to avoid me. I didn't say anything to them for a while and thought they will give it to me eventually but they never did. So, I had to ask them saying I was in need of this money and would appreciate getting my own money back. The friend eventually gave me the money but hasn't been in very good terms with me since then which I find to be in very bad taste since I only asked him to return my own money to me. So, whenever someone asks to borrow money I politely refuse since it is better than to alter your relation in the long run
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 12
so how about if only you is their hope for getting money?? and they really beg to your kindness?/it can`t change your decision too?
@inertia4 (27384)
• United States
15 Feb 12
That is a no brainer. If a friend of mine borrowed money and never came back around or if I could not get in touch with them, that means that I would write them off. Never again will I ever give money to anyone. Never make that mistake. Once you do, you will always be asked to lend money.
• United States
14 Feb 12
I was very nice to let people borrow money but they were not nice and did not return my money. So I lost a lot of money that way. So now I only lend money to family members that need it. I think people only use my knidness for weakness.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
13 Feb 12
It would hurt very much,,,But I would just realize that I am not getting my money back and say I just purchased a friend for that amount of money... I don't know why people do that...there are so many unethical people in this world...it really a shame if its really some one that you know....
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 12
i always get the person like that when they need money, they always send us message but after we lent the money and near the payment date (return back time), sometimes their cellphone is not active..whats going on with them
@Ernnesto (180)
• Slovak Republic
12 Feb 12
I have one experience with a so called "friend" who borrowed money from me. I asked him many times for giving it to me back, but no response from him. He is speaking to me like nothing happens, with even a bit of shame. That is ridiculous such people can be like that.
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
One of my closest friend borrowed money two years ago, until today he haven't paid it. I can't blame him for that, I do believe that he doesn't have any money as of these moments and we were not able to see each other. I'll just consider that as an investment, I know one day he will pay me multiplied by the amount that he borrowed. We can never tell how life works.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
12 Feb 12
I borrowed money ( a lot of money), my car, my laptop etc etc to many people for years. They never payed me back, damaged my stuff I take care of very well and use for years. And yes they all disappeared as soon as they could not pay me back or drove my car under a truck. And if you dear to ask how or what you will be scolded. I never made a friend by borrowing money. Nobody will say you are such a great friend, they just see you as the stupid idiot where you can always get money or just need to manipulate. So don't ever borrow anyone money. It wil destroy every friendship.
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
That's happen. Maybe because they don't have money to pay you, or they don't want to pay. Or they don't have the face to face you LOL. Try to confront her, and talk what's the problem :)
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
12 Feb 12
That just happen to me not long ago, a friend of mine, who is Hispanic, called me on a long distance from his home country, needed to borrow $200 more dollars for an airplane ticket, and promised me to pay me back that money. When he came back, and he never in attempt to contact me, and I couldn't reach him either. Later, I announced that he defaulted to pay me back that money he borrow from me, then he called me up, and apologized for his financial problem. Later, I never heard from him ever again. I guess that he tried to avoid his responsibility. I will never let anyone borrow money from me again.
@sjvg1976 (18039)
• Delhi, India
12 Feb 12
Hello Asliah, I don't borrow or lend money to/from friends the reason is pretty known money is the cause of all evils.I have seen lot of friends being enemies due to money. I know it looks bad when something like this happens with anyone and the only thing you can do is to find out the contact of that friend or find someone close to him/her who can send your message to him/her.
@tessa9 (1086)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
I have experienced similar things. This is why I don't like lending to a loved one or anyone in general. I also feel awkward when it is time to collect their debt. I feel like I am the one asking a favor even though I am totally entitled to get my money back.
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
i could say that that person is not a real friend.he could have told you if he couldn't pay on the said date you agreed upon.but if the person don't show up anymore then then it's our lost,what can we do.but for sure that person can't borrow from me anymore even if it's a small amount.
• Malaysia
12 Feb 12
i never encounter this type of problem. if let say my best friend borrow money from me and never show up anymore, i think i will firstly consider how much i borrow to he or she first. if in a big amount, i think i will use whatever method to find he or she out. if is just a small amount, then just let it and take it as a lesson to me, next time not to borrow money to other easily.
@Mashnn (4503)
12 Feb 12
I know they are friends or borrowers who do like that. I would not remind him or her that she borrowed money from me and I just wait and see whether she will give it back to me. If she does not give me back or give me any reason for not paying my money back then that would definitely affect my relationship with him or her.