being possessive is kind of sweet...

Philippines
February 12, 2012 6:01pm CST
They say when your partner is being possessive to you it means you are loved by your partner. Possessive? sweet? I think not... I had a relationship with one when i was in my high school years. He was a bit older than me but we were in the same class. At first we started out nicely, we dated, we undergone courting (dont blame me, it was in the 90's). We had those stolen kiss on the chick moment sort of things. We dated at the back of our school and ate snacks or lunch together at the cafeteria. We had laughs with our friends and with my sister. It actually lasted a year. The next school year we were not on the same class. He then started to be too nosy. He would check on me even i was just on my post doing my daily school duties. He would text me anytime and if i cant reply (busy bee) on time he would get mad. The worst thing is, he would get jealous of my best-friends though we are all together having fun. Is that annoying enough? I finally broke up with him, i got a bit tired of the arguing.
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cher913
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
13 Feb 12
possessiveness is never sweet. it can be down right dangerous in fact. unfortunately, most never find out about the excessive possessiveness until its too late.
airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
good day daniel_chang, with reference to your main topic, well, being possessive is not that good as it somehow pertains to domineering. aside from that, it sounds like being overprotective which is not really good. so in effect, you feel tired and annoyed that resulted to your separation. however, there are some instance that being at this height of feeling is fine especially if you are just asking for some especial attention or some sort of much especial type of loved. hence in this way, it is somehow healthy and good in a relationship.
UmiNoor
@UmiNoor (4483)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 12
Someone who is possessive is showing signs of someone who will be abusive. It shows that he doesn't have any confidence in the relationship and shows that he's insecure. Love is not owning a person. Love is trust and being possessive is not love. That is selfishness.
nyang1984
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
being possessive makes a relationship unhealthy... i had a friend before she stopped hanging out with us because of his boyfriend being so possessive.. and his boyfriend is so annoying he's acting like a husband... lol
myg2012
@myg2012 (28)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
People who are in love are usually possessive with their sweetheart. It seem sweet because it felt like your so important to him/her but are months goes on it doesn't feel sweeter at all. It looks like your sweetheart doesn't trust you. To make a relationship last it needs trust, being too possessive will usually end up being alone.
jenn88
@jenn88 (57)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
i dont know., i find it sweet, being possessive and all, and dont forget, you where young then and naive, i might add. you both dont know yet that when you are in a relationship, trust is the essence of keeping it stronger. so i think he just did what his primal instinct as a man should do. but then again, those where the 90s and now, being in a relationship means you are able to cope with time apart and time lost, and being able to stand the test of hardship and all.... i dont know its a bitter, sweet topic for me.. :D
lilaclady
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
13 Feb 12
possessiveness is not good, it could very well be that they love so much but it could be just that they want complete ownership, people should be able to love with out feeling they need to possess but it could also just be lack of self esteem on the part og the possesser...
Marty
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
13 Feb 12
I believe that many of those people actually have low self-esteem. Being controlling builds up their feelings. If you really love a person, you should want them to be happy and if hanging around friends makes them happy then you should have no problem. I'm glad you got rid od him because those people uswually don't change.
luisadannointed
@luisadannointed (4171)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
I think bein Possessive i being selfish! Love must learn how to trust... Being possessive is hindering someone to grow on his own. True Love gives freedom for someone to grow. Being Sweet is being Romantic... expressive in little ways... and respectful! :) God bless Happy Love Month!
bjc66bjc
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
13 Feb 12
Hi daniel-chang, to each his own...but I would never want anyone to be possessive of me or any of my family members.. To me possessive means:desirous of possessing, excessively. Is that an emotion for us to have about another human....NO, Possessive can be very scary...it leads to people doing things and making decisions what are not always the best ... I think to be possessive of another person in no way is kind or sweet...