I said "I am Dying, I have Cancer" suddenly everyone loves me :p

@jaiho2009 (39019)
Philippines
February 15, 2012 12:49am CST
Oh yes! Suddenly everyone loves me. Everyone called and said they love me. Everyone ask sorry for whatever mistakes they've done (I don't even know what mistake) Suddenly friends came visiting,inviting for dinner,stroll and gifts are flooding. Wow! so,what are these? I am dying so I must enjoy the time left huh? Why can't we show love to our loved ones before they die? Do you think all these concerns will prolong my life or you are just adding more pain. I know it's not too late. But the truth is "I am dying" and time is not enough. Note: Show love to everyone who loves you every time you have the chance to make them feel. Never took them for granted for regret won't make any sense once you lost someone. Have a great day everyone jaiho®- I am not dying guys, just reminding us all 2-15-2012 2:48pm PT Wednesday
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@Sreekala (22957)
• India
15 Feb 12
Sister, Do you think it is the real love? I don't think dear, it may be sympathy when knowing somebody is going to die. Definitely I won't do anything you mentioned like in that case. In fact I don't have the courage to do such things to a dying person for sure. If it a close one, I will do something to increase the 'will power' in that person which definitely helps in a positive way. However, I agree, most often we fail to show the real love and care to everyone one who love us.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
dear sree, Whether it is sympathy or love- the person who is dying won't be bother to think the real meaning of those. I don't know but,I always feel guilty when someone I love is dying. As if,I haven't done enough showing my love. I just want to express my emotion here-one of love one is in dying bed
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@Sreekala (22957)
• India
15 Feb 12
Dear sister (I could not post when adding emoticons earlier, when tried with plain it got posted. So here I cam compensating.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
and where is mine too?
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@shibham (17025)
• India
15 Feb 12
Hi didi.. I admit that its an odd way to show our concern or love to a sick person . Offering some foods, gifts never lessen his/her pain rather it increase the pain and sickness and remind him that s/he has a few time to live. Actually, most often we express our feelings and gratitude by awkward attitudes. Have a nice time.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
shiby, So, you must show your love to your didi before I die
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@shibham (17025)
• India
15 Feb 12
101%.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
I cannot see it
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
15 Feb 12
Hi di gifts are flooding. What Gifts? Horlicks? Complan? Great! I would sell them and make some money to pay the bills of the doctors Those who really love us always stand by us.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
15 Feb 12
Can you make them sit for a while If they sit, they occupy more space... small rooms here... cannot accommodate all if they all sit... and also, we dont have that many chairs... so they can stand (if they can adjust, no worries, they can sit too) Flowers are flooding... eekss! we just lost a good opportunity - we could have minted good money yesterday chocolates Tempting... How many friends do have visited you till now
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
suny praaji, At least I know they are always there and friends never want to miss my dying days. Forget fatty foods, I will eat whatever I want and do whatever I want to do. I am about to die and those things won't be there at my final destination
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
sids, Honestly, my kids wants to throw all chairs (lols) They want to buy those jelly beans pillow seat. I think my kids are practicing yoga that they want to sit on floors. (hahaha) Chocolates start arriving days before the valentines- so let me check my fridge if there's still a bite left for you
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
perfect! cause life is so short and we never know when it'll be our time. Have a wonderful day! :) God is good
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
hello nyang, Yes, life is too short and we never knew what tomorrow may brings, or if tomorrow ever comes Have a great day
• Canada
15 Feb 12
I have never understood why people wait til something tragic happens before they realize and acknowledge the good that someone had in them. Its like they are afraid to embrace the hear and now with the person they care about. Although we all use whatever means to get our point across. One thing is for sure, I agree in that making each day be the best we can, is the best way to remind everyone to live in the moment!
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
Sassy, Yes, everyday, every time we had the chance to make them feel they are important- we must show our love. It's not expensive, and we don't need to pay for showing our love :)
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@swirlz (3138)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Jaiho, you scared me!
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
hello swirlz, Sorry to scare you But this is reality. Some people only realize the value of a thing or a person once they've lost. thanks and have a good day
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
Lets hope for the best. I am also waiting for the result of jazel's tests. I know Jazel won't feel that way. Mylot is really a good place to express our feelings. I remember how she argue with her husband about mylot. But she never give up mylotting because this is one place where she can find peace and comfort
@free_man (7337)
• United States
15 Feb 12
I think we should all live each and everyday as if it was our last day on this earth. We need to tell those we care about how much we love and appreciate them daily.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
hello freeman, If only everyone of us can do that "living each day as if it is the last day" I am sure there would be no wars, no crimes but all are loving each other :) Thanks and have a good day
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@free_man (7337)
• United States
15 Feb 12
Hi Jaiho. No there would still be evil and will always be evil till God comes back to reclaim HIS kingdom. This earth. I wish there was more love in this world but there is not many that would respect everyone much less anyone. Have a good day my friend!
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
Yes,there is evil whenever there is good, until the right time comes, that justice above will rule the earth. Have a good day again
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@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
15 Feb 12
omg!!!!jailho, isn't that a sad situtation what happened to you that all of a sudden you are getting more love than ever.. The world would be a much better place to live if that love, was shown through the year, everyday...Why must difficult issue come upon us to bring us together... when I had cancer I just left my job and no one was told but my immediate manager...there were a few people that I called and told them what was going on and asked them to keep it quiet because I really didn't want a lot of phoney people contacting me... But I am sure this happens more often than we realize.... Very nice post
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
hello bjc, I hope you are fine now. One of my family relative is battling with cancer and this scene is what I saw almost everyday.. People coming to visit- with gifts, flowers and everything. Saying kind words,comforting words- but who can tell who is sincere and who's just pretending.:x I wish you all the best esp with your health. Have a good day
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
@ Hatley, I also want the same ma'm. I want those flowers while I can appreciate the beauty and smell :)
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
they asking for your sorry not to prolong your life,but maybe because they realize what your worth/importance for them..For me it's kinda irritating because some of them are just show off,not sincere or maybe they're scared that when you die,your soul will visit them.,LOL!
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
hello emdjay, You make sense my dear Yah, they might be scared that my ghost will come to haunt them (hahahaha) I like your response, you made me smile. :) Have a good day
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@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
hahaha you're very welcome jaiho..
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
keep mylotting
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@inertia4 (27674)
• United States
17 Feb 12
I kind of gotten that fact they you're not dying. I understand what you're saying. It does seem like people all of a sudden say their sorry when they hear news like that. Or they all want to be closer to you. It is sad that it takes negative to make a positive. But I do not believe that people go around wondering if their friends are dying or not. And if you actually did that as a joke and they found out it was not true, then they would not want to be your friend. Strange.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
hello inertia, Well,nothing to worry. I never send any message containing like this to any of my friends. I am just citing one sad truth about life. Why people only realize the value of a person once they've lost, or when someone is dying. Why can't they show their love when that someone can still appreciate and enjoy the love and affection- and not on it's dying days. Have a great weekend
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@inertia4 (27674)
• United States
21 Feb 12
I totally agree and understand what you're saying. It does seem kind of funny that people want to be close to someone when they are dying. And all of a sudden they want to be nice to them and help them. You're right, people should be more attentive to people more often when things are fine.
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@ceazr23 (50)
17 Feb 12
oooohhh... you gave me a great idea... i will also announce that i will be dying... hehehehehe... i missed the feeling of being loved... :D...
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
hello ceazr, Oh no, hahahaha. Please I never do this to my friends and loved ones. I just posted it here- but send any messages to anyone. I am just citing reality about life. How people come and visit when they've come to know someone is dying and suffering. Have a good day and welcome to mylot
18 Feb 12
hehehehehe... of course its easily said than done... the after effect is very frightening.... heheheh..
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@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
It happens, we only appreciate someone when we know we are loosing them... or most often we see their value when they are gone.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
dear jazel I want to take this opportunity to know your condition. And I am hoping for a good result
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
I am good jai but i have to papsmear results yet as i am on medication and i will have the papsmear by monday.. it is taking a bit slow since all lab tests are done in Manila.. :(
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
15 Feb 12
Hi sweetie. Something serious and extreme always have to happen before we really start to appreciate those who are close to us. A human flaw, i think.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
dear saphy Yes sweetheart. Sometimes we showed our love too late. Why can't we just love and keep on loving :x No vodka this time please
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
16 Feb 12
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@veejay19 (3592)
• India
15 Feb 12
hello funny girl,you die permanently only once but you die every night and wake up alive every morning.So live every moment as though its your last and forget the past and also the future because in the present both do not exist.Lots of hugs and love.your dear anna.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
dear veejay
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@hestylim (1211)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 12
I am totally agree with Veejay19. We die permanently once but the truth is we die and live again everyday. We die while we sleep at night and come back to live in the morning. That's the reason why, we shouldn't keep regrets, grudge or whatever in the past. We should let it go. So is for the future, we don't have to worry about the future too much. What matter is this moment.
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15 Feb 12
this is the correct way to make others to make us love,buddy u r 100% correct on this matter.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
hello shobianand, Yes, sometimes we need to be tricky, but make sure it works Welcome to mylot and thanks for kicking in my disc
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• Morocco
16 Feb 12
I think that all people we know love us just when we are doing good to them. The will forget us when we are ill and dying.
@atleya (947)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 12
This is really a good discussion. Right. It is also become my questions, why people only care when we are almost die.. Why love arrive just in such situation. This is bad, I think. How beautiful this life, if everyone could love the others in all situation. Best wishes,
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@jhuddith (222)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
I once read a quote saying "The secret of life is not just to live, but to have something worthwhile to live for, for we only live once, but if we live right, once would be enough". So, it's really great to spend quality time with our family and friends as if it will be our last day. We can do this by being grateful and appreciating everything that we have and by cherishing and spending quality time with our family and friends.. Life is too short..
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
hello jhuddith, It's not how long we live but how How people and our loved ones will remember us once we die. So,we must live according to what we wanted to be remembered. Like how bad people remembered for their wrongdoings and how good people remembered for their noble acts. Life is indeed short,loving and caring for our loved ones should not be taken for granted. For we never knew what tomorrow may brings or if tomorrow ever comes. thanks and have a good day
@myzhian (586)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
hello jaiho2009, good to know you're fine! Yes you are right that people will only show us care and love in times when we are in a dying situation. We feel the pain of being given attention only when we are at our last minuets, but this pain bring sort of happiness where in people regrets and ask forgiveness to us and to god as well, in this case you are god's instruments and your life makes it precious. Time may not be enough for some matters but for god you have done enough for him! You're a wonderful person why so many people loves you! God bless my friend!
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
hello myzhian, I am fine. I usually posted topic that sounds/looks confusing to other members who are not used to my style of posting topic (hehehe) But,I posted this topic because I witnessed true incident like this. When someone is dying, many people are there coming to visit and show sympathy. It's even hard to determine who are sincere and who are just there out of curiosity. But,it doesn't matter anymore. The dying person doesn't care whether it is sincere or not- it gives him/her happiness to see people coming to visit and convey their sympathy,love and care. Thanks for your response and have a good day
• Mexico
18 Feb 12
Hi jaiho: I completely understand what you mean but unfortunately that's the way humans act. We take people for granted and it's not until we realize that we may lose someone that we start caring and we show the love that we have. We should this with every person we love and not just because we fear that he/ she may die. But for most of them, their feelings are real so you should feel happy for that. ALVARO
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
hello Alvaro, Yes, we sometimes neglect our loved ones because we thought they will understand. We often neglect to show our loved ones because we think they are with us always and seeing them everyday is enough. Until we realize their value once we lost them. To show our love and care is not because we fear of losing them- but to make them feel they are important. To make them feel we want and need them in our lives not because they are our family,loved ones or friends- but because they are a part of us and they made our life complete. Thanks and have a good day always dear
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
16 Feb 12
People love the dramatics! When they see or learn that someone is dying, they can't help themselves but be within the drama. Thus, they say their hasty goodbyes, and express their unspoken care or love for the person. Yes, expressing these feelings should be an everyday thing. If we just learn this, then the world would be such a better place.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
hello bounce, Yes, dramatic is one of the right word to describe. Since we do not know who really shows real care and love or just plain sympathy. If we only knew how to show our love everyday and if everyone knows how. I agree this world would be a better place to live in. thanks for your comment and have a good day
@Java09 (3085)
• United States
16 Feb 12
People should show others they care ,before anything was to happen to them.Most wait til they hear bad news and all of a sudden they were best friends.People need to be more apreciative of people in their lives now,before anything did happen to them.
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