Do you like surprises?

United States
February 16, 2012 7:13am CST
I like surprises, but if I found out ahead of time that I have a surprise coming, I can't stand it. I always have to try to find out what the surprise is. I end up ruining my surprise because I won't let it rest until I know what the surprise is. Last week my husband told me he was planning something for Valentine's day, but wouldn't tell me what it was. I eventually forced him to tell me that he was planning a romantic dinner at home, so I told him not to do that. So then he started coming up with other ideas. He called me on Saturday and told me not to look at our online bank account for a few days or else I might ruin another surprise. So of course I couldn't let it be. I kept telling him to tell me what it was, and told him I'd get mad if he didn't. Eventually he broke down and told me that he arranged to have flowers delivered to me at work. When the flowers arrived at work I wished he hadn't told me. They were very nice.. a dozen red roses in a red vase. But of course I'd been expecting them and waiting for them. It would have been so much nicer if I hadn't known, and I told him that. But I can't help myself. I don't like waiting to find out what my surprises are. If I know about it, I want to know what it is. I told him it's partly his fault too. He should have found another way to pay for them so he wouldn't have to tell me not to look at our bank account. Then I never would have known he was planning something and it would have been a surprise. Do you like surprises. If someone tells you they're going to surprise you, do you want to know right away what the surprise is or can you wait?
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
20 Feb 12
It drives me nuts when someone tells me they have a surprise for me and won't let me in on it. I lose sleep over it..I only nag or beg once or twice then let it alone then go about trying to figure it out. I am thinking he was feeling you out on the ideas so it would be something you approved of cause maybe he wasn't sure about what he wanted to do. This Year my husband let me get what I wanted..that worked out well..lol
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• United States
21 Feb 12
I like being surprised, but it's not much of a surprise when I know something is coming, just don't know what it is. That makes me crazy!
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
22 Feb 12
Giggles..It is a better surprise though when you don't know nothing about the surprise at all. So if someone had a surprise I'd rather not know.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
16 Feb 12
I can wait....my kids did something like you did one Christmas and they told me it was the worst Christmas of their lives.....they unwrapped and rewrapped all their gifts so they knew what they were getting....totally spoiled it for themselves...
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• United States
18 Feb 12
Yeah, it would have been better if it stayed a surprise. Maybe I'll know better for next time.
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
16 Feb 12
I love surprises but it is not a surprise if you know something is going to happen. Mostly I love to surprise people, but sneaking up behind them, pinching their side lightly and yelling BOOO If someone told me to not do something, I don't do it. Simple as that, the people that tell me things such as that, usually do so for a good reason. Any time curiosity gets the better of me I think of the Old Testament in 1 Samuel, how King Saul lost his right to rule the people of Israel. Sincerely and With Appreciation.
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• United States
16 Feb 12
I don't like those kinds of surprises!
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@GardenGerty (101592)
• United States
16 Feb 12
I am a good waiter, and very patient. I do not get surprises often. When my husband wants to have a surprise, he cannot wait to tell me about it. He does not wait to give me surprises. They usually are small.
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• United States
16 Feb 12
I used to be like your husband, but am getting better. I have very little patience though.
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
16 Feb 12
It depends on the surprise. But then again, I don't really get any surprises... If it was something good I would rather them keep it to themselves and not let me know that a surprise is coming, otherwise I might be like you an pester the person about it until they told me. LOL I'd really hate to ruin it for them and for me, especially if they put a lot of thought and effort into it, although at the same time I'd probably be too excited to care! After all, it's been years since I've gotten a surprise like that! LOL Happy mylotting!
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• United States
16 Feb 12
I have no self control! I wanted to know, even if it ruined it. He kept telling me he was proud of it and wanted me to wait, but I couldn't. As soon as I told him I'd be mad if he didn't tell me, he gave in! I would have liked it better if he hadn't said anything at all and it stayed a surprise. Maybe I'll learn and try to do better.... and maybe he'll learn too! LOL.
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
16 Feb 12
I just received a nice surprise as my sister(not the alcofrolic one sent me two beautiful summer tops to wear. My favourite colout too. Turquoise. One was a mixture of turquoise and black and the other turquoise. They were in different styles and I am so happy to receive them as they are dressy and no, because of the son, I am invited out more often, so have something new to wear The only surprises that I do not like are bad financial surprises and surprise birthday parties. As I have a big birthday coming up in May I have already asked the children NOT to give me a surprise birthday party. Happy to just have family around. I would have to know about a surprise birthday party first so I could plan what to wear and get my hair done
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• United States
16 Feb 12
That sounds like a nice surprise! I don't like bad surprises either!
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@KrauseHome (35533)
• United States
18 Feb 12
I Love Surprises. Many times I also feel better if I can be surprised then having a hint thrown at me letting me know something is coming. If I know that and it is not something I know about I always want details. But you receiving a Dozen roses, that was really nice and thoughtful of your husband. Maybe somehow next time he should just set aside some money without you knowing about it, and do this so it can be a Surprise?
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@wertk1 (19)
17 Feb 12
I pretty love them , but i'm a little nervous because a surprise is not always a positive one. But i love them, i love them very much when the surprise is from a lovely person, like my girlfriend or my family !
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@Hatley (164534)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Feb 12
hi katsmeow I love surprises specially since I seldom get any so when I do I feel really special.I am widowed for a long time and my son is a dear but hes very logical not into surprises so when I get a rare nice surprise I really really love it.
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• China
17 Feb 12
Sometimes I receive surprises from my wife. It's really a wonderful moment. I enjoy it. But if she tells me there will be a surprise to me tomorrow, I will wonder what it will be.I won't ask her but I will have a nervous day until she shows it to me. I welcome a true surprise.
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@dodo19 (33323)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Feb 12
I don't really mind surprises. I think that they're nice to have once in a while. I don't necessarily want to have a lot of them, but once in a while, they're nice to receive.
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@bunnybon7 (37169)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Feb 12
funny thing. when i was a kid i was like that. then when i had kids myself, i could wait for surprises and to open gifts, etc. it would drive my kids crazy. i dont know why i got like this. i dont like some surprises, like if my son is planning an over night stay away or something because of my daughters bf is still here. that i can do without. hes better now so far, but i just dont trust him to be have.
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@loonys (418)
16 Feb 12
If the surprise its nice yes I would like it. Lately I just had very boring or to much annoying surprises.
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@Ernnesto (180)
• Slovak Republic
16 Feb 12
hello katsmeow, I like suprises very much too, and I understand that sometimes it is hard to stand. But as you realized it is better to do not know what the suprise is for a moment of suprise. If you broke it, it is not so enjoyable, but still it is nice. That is the reason why I still let other suprise me and never ask for what the suprise is. It is better, and the moment of suprise after is hard to discribe. It is amazing.
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@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
I better wait for it. But I want a GOOD surprises, not horrible 1. Life is full of surprises like what happened to me lately. :( Well, nwayz Thank you God.
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@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
I love suprises but i think that it is the thrill of finding out what the suprise is that makes me really love suprises. I never look at it like ruining the suprise i look at it like i am winning. I know that is kind of lame but that is my thrill finding out what the suprise is. I can never ever wait but i am glad that you had a nice valentines day
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@megamatt (14327)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Surprises can come in many different forms. There can be some good kinds of surprises but there can be many surprises where I really was taken off guard and was really taken for a loop. There are times where a surprise can be pleasant or it can be like a slap to the face like a metal glove. And then there are people who get a bit too ambitious with their surprises. The thought is there, but the results are often not satisfactory. There are just going to be times where I get surprised and its quite the nasty shock. I'm sure the person surprising me had the best intentions in mind but it is was not going to be something that truthfully worked out. In the end, there are times where I'd like some forewarning.
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@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
I love to be surprised! This kind of surprise which only them knows and I don't have any idea about it. It is much better if they keep it as a secret from me. Anyway, if I have already the idea that they will going to surprise me, I think I will still be surprise because I don't know what their surprise will be. I would rather wait than beg them to tell me what are those.
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• United States
16 Feb 12
I never liked them all my life. After being with adrian for a ear I learned to love them. When he gave me the car for Christmas it made me love them so much more. He loves to get me stuff he thinks or knows i like. so,now I just get all excited and live with it. I would love rosetta stone so I can learn spanish and would really like if he would get it for me..
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@AmbiePam (49864)
• United States
18 Feb 12
You sound incredibly hard to please! lol You want to know, you don't want to know...You were pretty hyped up when you got your husband that grill, weren't you. If I remember right you were pretty excited about that surprise for him. I guess it's harder when it's a surprise for you personally. : ) I like surprises for the most part.
• United States
18 Feb 12
Yeah, maybe I'll learn my lesson after this!