willingly unemployed

@jazzyrae (1747)
United States
February 16, 2012 8:45am CST
well i am uficially unemployed and i do not know what to do about it. it is by choice that i am unemployed. My boyfriend was going to go get a a diffrent job in a diffrent town and that did not turn out as well as we had hoped. They made it sound like he got the job so i turned in my two weeks. I was going ot take bck my two weeks but my boyfriend said that he did not want me two. He told me that i should take this time to go back to school. He is so sweet but of course i am worried about how we will pay for everything. I told him the second he starts struggleing i am going back to work:) So we will have to see how it all works out wish me luck
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11 responses
@Ernnesto (180)
• Slovak Republic
16 Feb 12
There are still some dilemas what to do when you are unemployed. I would recommend you, if it is possible, make a combination. Probably you want to attend a university, or your boyfriend want you to attend it. It is really good step for someone improvement but there are also some problems, like money and time. But at least you should try it. and you will see, how it will be later. Maybe situation will get better.
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Thank you insure hope do. Like I said of we start going under I am getting right back to my job. It is weirded not working because I have worked since 14
@Ernnesto (180)
• Slovak Republic
16 Feb 12
I know what you mean. Without money no one can survive, and not everyone can efford a study without working. Take care. I hope that situation will change to be better foryou.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Hi Jazzyrae, Hope it all works out for you! He sounds like a sweet guy and it's true that if you can afford to stop working and further your education, you will probably be better off in the long run. I'm very independent too and so I know how you might be struggling with this. Take it a day at a time as they say. Nothing is set in stone, right? If it isn't working for you or your wallet then you can always look for work again.
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
It's only been a day and it's killing me l but he is deffinatly a sweet guy
@sjvg1976 (18386)
• Delhi, India
16 Feb 12
Hello Jazzy, Its true we need money to survive in this world so your boyfriend need to work and if he is capable of paying your school fees then you must complete your school first as then you would be able to get better job.You can always try for a part time job along with your school if you find your BF can't fulfill your financial needs otherwise concentrate on your studies.
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
I know I puls be focusing on school but I have worked since 14 and I feel like I am useless not working. I just don't feel like I am doing my part. You know? He said if I just cool and pick up the house an get a degree then that's all I new to do. A big part of why he hated my job is that I worked 3pm to 11pm so he never got to see me. He thinks it will be easier this way
@tipay26 (873)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
Hi there jazzyrae I think you and your boyfriend should have a heart to heart talk about things.You can ask for permission to get back for work because you want to help him to pay all your expenses and payables.It's not that your boyfriend can't find a job to raise both of you but instead to help him pay all your bills right.You can do it just believe in yourself :)
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Haha have tries but he insists. I think it is because at my job I was working the 3pm to 11pm shift do he never saw me but that is the only one the company would give me. I feel bad letting him pay for everything. I have worked since 14 and always been very independant
• United States
16 Feb 12
Thats going to be hard because in life you have to have money to succedd and to live a life or normal. Its going to be hard and i hope you all have some money saved up for expenses. If he gets a job i hope he can support you and help you go back to school. Of course scool is important and you can always look for a better job once you have some schooling of course. Well if you have to go back to work at least you seem confident that you can get a job again.
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Well actually he sill has his old job. So he has enough to pays for everything I just feel like I am taking advantage of him if inlet him pay for everything
@dodo19 (32873)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Feb 12
Hopefully, things will work out for you guys. I certainly know how it feels when neither one of you is working. It can be very stressful. Hopefully, things will get better, and will all work out.
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
I hope Si and thank you but actually he still has his old job. So he can pay for everything. But thank you
@flowerchilde (12518)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Best of luck.. if you get your degree, of course, or further degree, you will be able to make more money! and work at something you may like doing..
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Thanks I just hope it all works out
@MandaLee (3726)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Dear Jazzy, I wish you all the best.
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Well thank you
@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
If your boyfriend's gonna be working to pay for your school fees, then I guess the best thing for you to do now is finish your studies. Although it would be a financial challenge for the both of you, I'm sure you'll be able to work things through. There might be some odd jobs you could take that would not interfere with your studies if you want to help out or you could supplement it with a few earnings on the net.
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
That would deffinatly be nice if I could and I am going to try. I just hope it all works out
• United States
16 Feb 12
I would hope it works out because with both of you not working how will you manage.. I think he will be there for you when he gets his job as well.
@jazzyrae (1747)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Oh he still has his old job. I am just really independent and I feel bad letting him do all of this.
@aghiuta (526)
• Canada
17 Feb 12
I wish you good luck,and tell you to Go for it.Also appreciate your boyfriend,he seems really nice.|Think about it!You might make some sacrifices for a while,but once your schooling is done,you can get a better paying job,and start living a better life.