my husband said i am fat

@SIMPLYD (78094)
Philippines
February 18, 2012 4:40am CST
Accidentally, when I chatted with my husband’s staff at their branch where our office is near, she told me that maybe I am getting fat because of the foods I always buy, because she saw the groceries I bought. And she said that her boss, my husband also said that I am getting fat because I keep on eating well. Oh my, I didn’t know that my husband is seeing me as fat already. He isn’t telling me so and when I asked him about it, he redirected the topic. I must accept that from 120 lbs. i am now 123 lbs. and i am getting rounder. Well, I think I am going to start getting thinner now
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15 responses
• China
19 Feb 12
I reckon the reason why your husband does not tell you that you have put on weight to your face is that he thinks your weight is not such as to lose weight.I don't know about you,Over here,we know the standard weight= height-1.05m *2 (kg).
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
To that i agree my friend. Perhaps the staff maybe just exaggerated , because she saw my groceries of food and thought that i would again be eating them all and afraid that i might really get fat. No, i will not allow myself to be fat, so i do ways to trim down already.
• China
21 Feb 12
Oh! a typo,standard weight must be height-1.05m (kg.)You are right! you do know how to take care of yourself.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
• India
19 Feb 12
Dina You have added just 3 pounds, certainly not much, guess it is not due to the food either, as women and men too age gracefully, the add weight, Kalyani was like a stick when i married her in 1966, and now almost doubled lol. Best of luck. Professor
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Yes, professor it's just 3 pounds, but i have now been doing some rice reduction intake and have been taking my additional assignment seriously. My additional assignment is to go up and down the stairs of second to third floor where my boss decided to have her office. I embraced it so happily because i get to go up and down the stairs a lot of times in a day, to have some concerns discussed with my boss and to have her sign and approve them also. Since, Jan. 24 when it started my stomach has lost some fats and have at least lost the small bulge (stored fat). It's really the Christmas holidays that made me have those added pounds.
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Good thing your husband told you so. There are other who gets fat and then their husband left them because of that without saying the reason. Which I find selfish and stupid. You didn't gain much I guess, but its good you are aware. :) Good luck!
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Well, i am glad that at least i came to know of his opinion about me. Though, if i haven't chanced upon her staff, i wouldn't know it because he isn't telling me. Though, there are times when he saw me eating so well, he would joke that i might grow so big! Well, now i am at least losing those fats around my tummy already, because it's where those fats went. I cut on rice and does a lot of going up and down the stairs because of my additional assignment from my boss.
@syoti20 (5295)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Walking or doing some exercise it good to reshape again.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Yes, syoti , having lots of movement such as walking is a sure way to re-shape again. In fact, my additional assignment at work , requires me to go up and down the stairs, so it was to my benefit. Thus, i now have a leaner stomach, because the added poundage seem to go to my stomach.
• United States
19 Feb 12
I don't care how tall you are, 123 lbs is NOT fat. I am 5'4" & currently weigh 130 lbs. I have been training for a marathon for 3 months, my longest distance so far being 18 miles, & I have only lost 10 lbs. It was rude of your husband's staff to tell you that you are getting fat & why...everyone's perfect weight is not the same & you should try to ignore rude comments like that.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
I don't actually get offended by her remark, because she's a close friend to us. And i took it as just a warning for me to stop eating so much, so i won't get fat. And i really took the warning seriously, because i started dieting and having more movements after that. Now i am slowly losing the fats that seem to make my stomach bulge.
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
No,don't deprive yourself to eat foods,you weight is normal for your age i guess..But if you want to get thinner,Do it in a healthy way..set your goals,you just have to discipline yourself like eating healthy foods,avoid junk foods,exercise,less carb..or try water therapy,before you eat your meal,drink a lot of water so you will feel full and you can eat less..hope this will help!
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Well, to be honest, i don't have a problem, losing some pounds, because my body seem to be so responsive of how i do in order to lose weight. I cut on my rice and have more movements. At work, i am happy that my new assignment makes me go up and down the stairs of second floor, where i am at my boss' office and to her other office on the third floor, to discuss some concerns , bring documents for her signature and approval. Actually, my body seems like a yoyo that can easily grow fat and grow thin. And my husband should not worry, because i myself don't want to be bigger or fat.
@yanzalong (10151)
• Indonesia
18 Feb 12
Your husband wanted to you to stay slim. That's it. He didn't say it directly to you that he doesn't like you being that fat. you have to quickly respond to this by starting to walk a long distance to reduce your fat. One way I know is to do water fasting at least once a week.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
I know even from when we were just newly married that he doesn't like fat women. He would even joke that if i grew to be so big, he would leave me. So i maintained my being on the lean side. It's just that rich foods are abundant during the Christmas holidays, so i added some pounds and they seem to gather around my stomach. So i know, he's meaning that, but just can't say it to me. Anyway, because of that i really did some dieting. In addition, it's a blessing in disguise that the additional assignment given to me by my boss, requires me to go up and down the stairs , for documents intended for her will be discussed by us , signed and approved. Hence, i had my needed movements. At least now, i have lost some pounds and my stomach isn't bulgy anymore.
• Japan
18 Feb 12
hahaha I'm glad you didn't give a fist to your hubby joke My hubby don't tell me i'm getting fat even though I can widely see my self in the mirror he kieep insisting me i'm not fat ggrrrrr I am from 118 lbs and now 135 lbs see that big a** difference and he keep telling me I am not fat and that's making me mad I am junk food lover too and I am trying to lose some pounds right now
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Our husbands really don't want to hurt our feelings, so they won't say to us directly that we are already fat. But sometimes through their jokes, you will know that they already see us as fat. And from there we can take the cue, that it's time to start dieting.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
Ha, ha. Your husband probably does not want to offend you. So maybe there is now good reason to start dieting.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Yes, i know that. He really doesn't want to offend me so he just kept silent about it. Though, there are times that he would joke me like " go on eat and eat or else you will be like a whale". And i took the cue about me being "fat", because i started moving a lot at work and eating lesser rice after that. Now, i am slowly shedding the unwanted fats on my tummy.
@Ernnesto (180)
• Slovak Republic
18 Feb 12
I understand that such statesment of your husband and colegues can bother you. It is normal reaction but do not take it to much. Being on diet, when you really need it is not bad decision but not to overtake it. Just paying attention about stuff what you eat and when you eat it is good step to reduct weight. And do not miss movement, going for a walk or running outside may help more.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Well, their statement didn't bother me much. I know for myself that i am not that "fat". It's just a little trimming that i will have to do and in fact, i have shed some already, since it was brought up by her staff. I took it as constructive criticism. It motivated me to move a lot so i will shed those additional poundage.
@airamtheb (370)
18 Feb 12
How of harsh of her to use the term fat.She could have said like you just gained some weight because you have those groceries which are the contributing factor. Anyway, your husband really cared for you because he was careful not to hurt you by simply evading your query if you are that fat. I also understand he just love to see you to be careful of yourself and prefer that you would have the same sexy body when he married you for health reasons.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Actually, i wasn't hurt at all when her staff told me that. Maybe she just wanted to emphasize that i did gained a lot of weight from my former self, that's why she used the term fat. And maybe that's what my husband is also trying to imply to her, but not necessarily fat. Because if my husband finds me fat, he really would prevent me from eating so much already. He would even tell me to eat, whenever i say that i am still hungry after dinner. But yes, i am now trying to lose some fats particularly in my tummy area. Other than that, i must say i am not yet "fat".
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
Well, you're just 3 lbs heavier. I think your husband find it hard to tell you directly because he is afraid to hurt your feelings. It is good that they had told you that you are getting bigger as early as now, Now you knew about it, You need an action for it.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Yes, i know that he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by telling me directly. And i appreciate him for considering my feelings. However, i find it nicer if he could have told me directly, even in a jesting manner. Well, that's a wake up call for me, because now i am bent in losing those added poundage.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
That depends on your height. I guess 120 lbs is not really fat. Or maybe you are that sexy before that is why they are now seeing you like you are fat. It's still nice of your husband, he wouldn't want to hurt your feelings that is why may be he just don't want to tell you that you have already gained weight.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Actually, i am just a bit rounded on my trunk, but my extremities are not. That's why, i look taller than my actual 5'3.5 height and over all still look on a bit lean side. Though, i guess my husband can say that, because i was formerly really on the slim side when we started being married. I don't really get hurt by him saying that, but was just surprised that he finds me fat already. But i take it as a constructive criticism, so i am more or less dieting & walking more to lose some fat. It's a good thing that my additional assignment now, requires me to go up and down the stairs of the second floor to the third floor , where my boss now always stays, for documents to be discussed , signed and approved by her.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
18 Feb 12
Well, firstly, tell your husband that there's a woman in MyLot who said "you are not fat!". I'm even fatter than you (160 lbs)! :P And I don't mind with that! My ex-boyfriends told me that they didn't mind I'm fat. One of them even interrogated me when I lost weights. He's worried that I didn't eat at all so I lose my weights. Lol. My friend (who is a guy) says honestly that yes, I'm fat, so what? I'm still cute (- this is what he says, heheheh). I love food, and I love eating. My friends know that, but still they accept me as me. If your husband protest you about gaining a little weights, then you should question whether he really loves you as you or not. :P So once again darling, to me, you're skinny.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Actually, for me i am not fat. Just a little heavier from my former skinny self of 100 pounds. And i like the added flesh making me voluptuous. I know my husband finds me fat, because i was formerly skinny. But it doesn't mean i don't look good anymore to him, because i always see his admiring looks whenever i am dressed for the office or to go out or even in my house wear of shorts and sleeveless shirts. But when he wouldn't even glance at me anymore , then i know that i am already indeed fat. And yes, my friend, i am skinny compared to your 160 lbs.
@lilaclady (28245)
• Australia
18 Feb 12
I think it happens to most of us, I think it is very rude of the staff menber to have said that to you, , people should have more manners...Just eat in moderation and don't stress about it.
@SIMPLYD (78094)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
Well, i wasn't stressed about it actually, because i know i have added some poundage indeed. I was so skinny when i was still single and when i gave birth i started gaining poundage and people keep saying i am sexy. My husband must have said that because he saw me from beinng skinny to being voluptuous. But , i guess i really have to make myself a bit thinner now.