Wife Allowing Hubby to Fool Around???

Philippines
February 18, 2012 10:19pm CST
Friends... I am soooooooo curious... If for example, you are married and your hubby works outside your country, would you allow your hubby to fool around with other women or even have girlfriends oustide your marital relationship with a reason that you can understand the loneliness of men when they are far from family and that they too have physical needs that geographically is not possible for the couple?
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14 responses
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
i won't allow such a thing.there are many ways now to satisfy that need than having relationships outside marital status.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
very very true
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
I don't think that a wife with the right mind would allow that to happen. Although, we know that it is possible. But I'd rather not know about it coz it will only make me crazy thinking about my husband in bed with another woman!
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
I will never permit my partner to fool around with other woman just because we're far from each other. We know to ourselves that we did not enter in to this relationship with geographic or physical limitations. We are couples and will stay couple no matter how far the distance is. And we should stick in paying out our respects for our relationship. We always tell to each other that before you do something that you are in doubt of, always place yourself in the shoes of the other party.
@jureathome (5363)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
Noooo freakin' way, would I allow my husband to fool around. There is just no excuse for a married man to engage in extramarital affairs. While it may be rather possible for a man to do it anyway, but its crazy for the wife to push their husband to such an act. Its not just the husband who's sacrificing being alone outside the country, but the wife is missing a husband too. So, both should sacrifice and take care of their marriage.
@SassyBrat (463)
• Canada
19 Feb 12
Here's the thing, the topic says "Wife allowing hubby to fool around". So to me that means she and her husband/partner have obviously made agreements for the fact that he is out of town on business. Now because we aren't in their relationship, we don't know what their rules are. I know friends who do this, and it works for them. There is more honesty, more communication, and a lot of love. Why you may be asking.... because there is no judgments no betrayals, it has all been stripped. Now I know people are going to shake their head, mutter profanities that I am going against what "their Higher Power" has taught them and for you, it probably is. But to me, as I am a confident person when it comes to my relationship, I would allow my partner to see other women because I know I am a priority to him, and he me.
• United States
19 Feb 12
That's not a justifiable reason to fool around. However, if a man wants to be unfaithful he will be unfaithful and he doesn't need your permission to do so. You might also ask the husband if he would permit his wife to fool around since she has needs too? I bet he wouldn't like that too much! If a man marries a woman he should commit to her and keep his body only unto her. He has a hand if he gets an itch... he can scratch it himself.. he doesn't need to cheat with another woman.
• India
19 Feb 12
thats the difference between animal and human. Animals are allowed to meet their requirement with anyone. but than god gave human a thing called brain....otherwise what is the difference between animal and human?
19 Feb 12
Would the husband allow the wife to do the same ??? I can bet any jerk asking such a permission from his wife would never permit her to fool around behind his back.
19 Feb 12
Firstly, a simple enough answer: no. Not permissible. If you can't trust someone on the other side of the world, you can't trust them in the same room as you. Secondly, I'm horrified by the incredibly low opinion the vast majority of women have of men. So much lack of trust. Ye gods, how do you expect your man to be faithful when you have such an appalling view of the entire gender?! Personally, I would trust my lady on the other side of the world in a room full of naked Brad Pitts. And she would trust me no matter what. That's probably the main reason we're still together: there's simply no question of being unfaithful... and if there were, we'd talk about it and figure out why.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
I wouldn't want to marry a guy who would have to work so far away from me. But if ever I were in that situation, I certainly wouldn't want him to fool around with other women. Saying that he is lonely is just an excuse for him to cheat. I'd punch him so hard he'll reach the moon if I ever caught him cheating on me. I would either go mad hot or mad cold. Mad hot, i would be cursing him and beat up his other girl. Mad cold, I wouldn't speak to him ever again. I'd make his life miserable, better yet, I'll find a better guy.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Men will just do it. They won't even ask their wife to allow them to have another women in their life. They were outside the country anyway, so they feel they are free and that their wife won't know it. When the wife comes to know about them being cheated, the guys usually deny it.
• United States
19 Feb 12
I have been cheated on in the past and would not take a chance that this could happen again. I would just have to break it off with him.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Feb 12
That would absolutely not be okay with me at all. If someone cannot be faithful they should not be in a committed relationship. Period. Cheating is cheating is cheating. It's wrong however you look at it. If they are far away and need it they can use their hand...just saying. Lol. Plenty of military men that deploy use their hands and deal with it. So it can be done...
• United States
19 Feb 12
NIne times out of ten the man does not need permission from the wife. he will do it anyway because he has the nasty in his bones. I would not give permission for this but,I would leave him and wish him well. I believe we only get one life. I would never permit myself to be in a long distance relationship of any kind. it is hard and someone will get hurt. I can't forgive a cheater so I would set him free if we could not share one state..