Divorce because the home is too far from the workplace.
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6280)
Vietnam
February 20, 2012 12:35am CST
They married when they are still poor. After that, they saved money and bought a house in the suburbs. They think that buy houses in the suburbs would be cheaper and more comfortable life.
Since they have lived in the new house, a couple must get up early to go to work. Because the workplace is far away from their home 1 hour to 1 hour 30 minutes by car.
The husband began to sleep at company when he must do more work or at meetings. When he got home, he was very tired, so he just shower and go to bed instead of talking or caring his wife and children.
Two years later, they divorced because they can not endure such a life. The wife wonder if two years ago they did not buy a new house in the suburbs, now they have not divorced?
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11 responses
@lovelysofie (294)
• Indonesia
20 Feb 12
Oh my god tkonlinevn this story is same with me.I feel sad if i remember about my past.im telling the truth,its same with my story.Am divorce 1 year ago with my husband coz we move to new home and my husband must back to home every week.But at least he never back to home again.He leave me without reason and my daugther too.He never ask about his daughter,never care.So thats why i care my daughter by my own.Now i didnt know where he is.i hope u enjoy ur day.
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@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
21 Feb 12
@Lovelysofie : I'm sorry to hear about your story. You must be very effort to care your daughter and living. Wish you the best wishes. I think that everyone can have more experience about family life.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
20 Feb 12
hi lovelysofie,
how are you very sad for your story, but when you will like to engage with better one, as you said that me too aged and will merry with some better man. what badness in me?
@lovelysofie (294)
• Indonesia
21 Feb 12
@Tkonlinevn Thanks for your support.I hope i can care my daughter by my own.I didnt want it can be happend to me in second time in future.Nice to meet you here.
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@Mashnn (4501)
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20 Feb 12
This is the modern marriage which is based on convinience of each individual and once the comfort level is affected, the best way to handle such a situation is to walk out of the marriage. It is very sad that most people takes marriages for granted.
@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
21 Feb 12
I have not understood your means yet :( I think that if they know the reasons which make their life become badly, they will solve it and they won't devorce.
@Mashnn (4501)
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22 Feb 12
Any married couples who decide to divorce usually know what is the causing the problem in their marriage but most of them are not willing to work towards making their marriage better. I do not get it when the couple say they are divorcing just because of a new house or transport probles. This is just an excuse for a failing marriage and both of them are not willing to salvage it.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
20 Feb 12
this story is really heart breaking and hard to believe for me at the same time... there are other solutions that this couple can take before deciding to divorce... they can just rent a house first closer to the workplace rather than force themselves to buy a house which cause so many issues after that... take care and have a nice day...
@youless (112100)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Feb 12
Perhaps the problem is not they have a house in the suburbs. Actually one hour or one and a half hour by car is not a very far distant in my opinion. And this is not an excuse to divorce because the house is far from the company. Many familes have this problem since today the house is much more expensive in the city. They have to try to solve it. You have to understand that here not many people can afford to have a car. And they have to depend on the public traffic and it takes longer time and it is not so comfortable. But they still have a happy home.
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@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
21 Feb 12
Right. Maybe there were too many problems which occurred to them. Not only because the new house. However, they said that the new house was the first reason of their sad story.
@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
21 Feb 12
Yes, I think that they didn't solve their problem well. The result is too bad because they don't find out the problem ealier.
@kharlav (1669)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
Hmm.. I don't really blame their change of home to be the problem. It might just be one of the factors that caused the divorce but I don't believe that just one factor could cause a divorce. They might have some other problems aside from that. And I also believe that if they really wanted their relationship to work then they would find a way. I do believe in the saying, "If there's a will, there's a way."
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@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
21 Feb 12
I believe that the change of home is one of their problems. This causes too many bad things between them. So, they cause a bad result for them.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
21 Feb 12
It's hard to know in these cases. There are so many things that can cause a couple to grow together or to grow apart.
My dad's work was an hour to an hour and a half commute each way. He still came home each night. Some days after school I would have to drive out and do some work, which should have made his day go faster but instead just meant he could help more customers, so we would both get home late.
Maybe it was easier for my parents because my sisters and I were older when my dad had this long commute.
@sharay (2769)
• India
20 Feb 12
i wonder how mere 1-hour distance travel created a very long distance in that couple's life...i dont think that should have been the only cause for their divorce and that too in a matter of two years, why didnt they try to sort it out like renting out this house and in turn they rent in a house nearby the hubby's workplace, there is always a solution to any problem, hope they created the distance wantedly because of some other reason
@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
21 Feb 12
I like your idea that "there is always a solution for any problem". However, that couple didn't realize their problem soon. It's sorry for them.
@dodo19 (47038)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
20 Feb 12
It does seem kind of strange to me that they decided to get divorced, simply because he didn't have much to time for his family. I would have thought that it would have been much easier to sell the house they had, and buy another close to work.
@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
21 Feb 12
Yes, you're right. But they didn't do that. I don't know why. The husband blame for the house and his works. He said that he was too tired after a long distance and a hard working day. The wife was too. So, they couldn't have enough time for others.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
20 Feb 12
It sounds like they drifted apart. That could have happened if they had stayed where they were also. There might have been other factors that contributed to the divorce. If they had stayed in the city, there probably would have been another set of problems. It doesn't matter where you live there are always problems, and a healthy and happy marriage should have been able to deal with them.
@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
21 Feb 12
As me, we should think carefully if we want to choose a place to live long time. Because the house is very important in our life.
If they choose a new house which is near their workplace or they change their workplace, I think the bad result was not occur.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Dec 12
I think now couple is finds the reason of divorce when they feel now we cant leave each other then start the searching the reasons. This is meaning less reason divorce because home is too far from office.
