He has changed after I got married.

Vietnam
February 23, 2012 12:33am CST
He is my close friend from we were children. He always besides me anytime. He share with me everything. He even comforted me when I met sad story in love. He also helped me about finance. I know that he's good with me. So, I treat to him well, too. But everything has been changed after I got married. He almost change whole his behavior with me. He don't care me such as before. He proved very fair to me, and even to my husband. I still love him as he's my close friend. But I'm very sad about this.
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13 responses
• Indonesia
23 Feb 12
I think it cause he didnt want to bother ur new life with ur husband.he want make separate with you.He care of ur husband feel,what ur husband feel if u more closely with ur close friend?.You must can accept it if you have husband now and you have your new life.So you can talk with your close friend from phone i think.But not always.Good luck.I hope you enjoy your day.
• Vietnam
29 Feb 12
Maybe you're right. I shouldn't be sad about him. Right?
• Indonesia
29 Feb 12
Yes u no need to be sad.Just see ur future with smile.U must happy coz u have a man that ur husband always care of u and always can make u happy.Good luck.Keep smiling.
• United States
13 Mar 12
thats how they usally become but talk to im maybe that will help
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 12
i can said from my perspective as man.. sometimes our friend change because our new situation or their new situation we can`t force that our best friend will threat us like several days or several years ago there are many factors why they now threat us very different but before accusing them with ugly reason or silly reason, we must thanks to them (in our heart) that they had become our best friend before we or them get the new situation..
@spazz435 (323)
• United States
24 Feb 12
Sometimes when a man is close to you, it is because he loves you. And not the friendly kind of love. Not saying that this is the way he felt for you, but by the way you are explaining his feelings and actions towards you before and after, it sounds like this. He may have loved you and hoped somehow you would fall for him instead. When you got married, he knew you didn't feel for him the way he does for you, he is moving on now. He knows he has no chance with you and he is going to look for new love elsewhere. And about the stopping communication, it's maybe because it bothers him to talk to you now that you're married.
@GemmaR (8527)
23 Feb 12
I think a lot of people make the mistake of thinking that they don't have to put any effort in when they're married, because they don't think that their partner will be able to leave them as easily as they might have been able to before they'd got married. However, this is very sad, because it means that you're basically breaking the very vows that you made when you chose to marry them in the first place. I would always like to think that my partner would treat me in the same way after we were married because he loves me and respects me because of that.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
23 Feb 12
Maybe he is jealous because your being married. He maybe have crush on you before that is why he change after you married... Talk to your friend and find out the reason behind his attitude. Ask him why he is acting like that, since you didn't do anything to make him uncomfortable with you.
@vt689586 (585)
• India
23 Feb 12
i think he was in love with you that why he was so humble with you cared you lot.but he was unable to express his feeling with you.but your marriage may hurt him that is why he is ignoring him. but there is one more possibility that before your marriage he cared you lot but after your marriage he thinks that if he is familiar with you in the same way ,this may create misunderstanding between you and your husband.
• Philippines
23 Feb 12
Change is the constant thing on earth. Your friend changed because you are married now. It would be so intriguing that a married woman is close with a guy. You have to adapt in your new situation now.
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
23 Feb 12
I don't think you should be sad about this. Your life is different now, so most of your old relationships will change. He may have good reasons for treating you different. Maybe he has had a crush on you all of these years, or maybe he just doesn't want your husband to get jealous. Whatever his reason, I'm sure he still cares for you, but is adjusting to the changes in your life. Maybe you should talk to him about it and tell him you feel things are different.
• Philippines
23 Feb 12
maybe he's trying to distance himself. no matter how hard you try to keep your friendship the same as it was your priorities might change now that you're married. maybe he doesn't want to bother you as often as he used out of respect for your husband.
23 Feb 12
i think that's the reality..every man change, their attitudes and characters when they got married just changed! but that doesnt mean that their feelings have changed, only because you are living together and you see all the things that you still dont know about him. but i think and im sure that the love you have when you were just sweethearts is still the same and still there
• India
23 Feb 12
i think that you should be very practical,now as u said that u have been married ,he must thnking about husbands feel.he might helped in everything from ur childhood,but after u got married u should not expect anything from him.
• China
23 Feb 12
Wow, you are childhood sweetheart! He may think that you are married, and his care is superfluous, because you have your own family now. Or maybe he loves you for a long time, and never say it out to you. So he does't want to feel embarassed or guilty.