Teaching my daughter disciplines

Malaysia
February 23, 2012 8:31am CST
Im learning to be a mother with my first daughter. i think there will be so many thing to learn to be better. My problem is im having 6 years old daughter. And she is so grumpy. How do i change this, i even try to teach her a lesson everytime she acted like that with writings punishment like 20-50 line each time. She will finish the punishment so i wont be angry and she will repeat again. I also always hear her scolding her toys. Its funny at beginning but it seems it could lead to bad behaviour, i have tried my best to show example by talking nicely with everyone so she wud follow but she is not. She was born on late april whc make her a Taurus, who always come with this kind of character. but can i still get rid of it?
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11 responses
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Just keep working with her like you are. I'm sure that you are doing a great job. Be consistent with her discipline and she will learn what she is expected to do, and what is not appropriate for her to do or act. Most kids have that stage where they try to push boundaries. Just keep setting a good example and showing her love and discipline.
• Malaysia
2 Mar 12
Thanks dominuque, the thing is when we start becoming parents and have to show good role to the kids, we obviously has to start with ourself... Its a big reason why most people change for better when they start to have kids...
• United States
7 Mar 12
I agree that it is very important for us to be good role models for our children.It's not always easy but it can be done. We have to work on ourselves so that they will be proud of us and see that we do what we say as well. I hope that your daughter will continue to improve in her behavior for you.
• Australia
24 Feb 12
My daughter will be 5 on April 26 - the same star sign as your daughter...when my daughter plays up, I send her to her room for 5 to 10 mins for quiet time then when she comes out, we discuss why she did what she did & the reasons why it's naughter & why she got into trouble.
• Malaysia
24 Feb 12
i did that previously, and she will spend her time crying.. i really dont like to see her cry, so i asked her will she agree if she get punish for each mistake she do with writings, now every time she's being grumpy, i will remind her that she just repeat what she was not suppose to act, and she immediately will replied ok , i will complete my punishment mama! It seems she's enjoying my writings punishment..erghhh.. this kid is tricky!!!!
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
I anm also a mother.My kids have no problem for they are okey.they are responsible already esp. my daughter....
• United States
1 Mar 12
Hello thelma If your kids have no ptoblems then your comment does not add anything to the discussion, as I add in my previews comment you share your experience and possibly may help someone looking for and advise. I understand these site people just right to make money but make more interesting. remember that kids are the future and all we can do to make it better will posibly result in a nicer future for them.
• Philippines
23 Feb 12
Hi! I'm a first time mom and I'd like to say that it is really hard for me to discipline my son especially that he is so hard-headed. My son is so grumpy too. He is used in the way I nag him. Writing as a punishment is not that good. There is another way to discipline your daughter. Make sure you'll not punish her through writing. She might get tired of learning.
• Malaysia
24 Feb 12
But she agreed that she will be punish everytime when she make a mistake. i thought she will start to behave when the number of lines she have to write increase. So i dont have to scream at her cause screaming doesnt work.. any suggestion of other punishment suitable for kids age 6 so they will not repeat the same mistake again and again?
• Ireland
23 Feb 12
I am not yet a mother either, but I do get plenty of practice with child minding and family members' children. It does seem like she is (a) acting up for some reason, most likely boredom and lack of structured activity and (b) copying your behaviour. With regards to activity, some have already been mentioned. Children need structure i.e. a set bed time, a set time for meals etc. They also need structured discipline. The same punishment each time something occurs. I hate to quote a TV show, but Jo Frost's Supernanny is a great example with the 'Time Out' technique. Study it, learn about it and if used correctly it can be very helpful. I have used it successfully with one of my nephews who has been acting out recently. It's never easy, but other than the time out, try not to be too angry with your child too often. They will pick up on that behaviour. How a person shows their angers is learned from a young age and it is best to teach her by example how to handle anger now, rather than having to deal with more serious issues such as getting physical when she's older. Best of luck with your daughter and don't rely on her star sign to judge her character, I know plenty of well behaved and level headed Taurus'.
• Malaysia
24 Feb 12
isnt that too bad when we cant provide better environment for positive growing especially things that really hard for us to change or avoid like family thingy.. but i believe we can try other alternatives, options and efforts to overcome the issue.. i gotta find answers for every obstacle, didnt i, atleast with mylot, no need to refer from so many books!
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@yanzalong (9925)
• Indonesia
23 Feb 12
I think your kid is showing creativity but this creativity does not indicate that she will be doing the same when she grows up. My kid at 6 loved singin a lot. Now, she' grown up and she doesn't sing as many as she used to do when she was 6.
• Malaysia
24 Feb 12
hopefully, it was my friend who asked me to try with punishing her by writings, when i asked how did she manage to make her kids all so disciplined. so i maybe there are other advise i could try..
@kheydia (883)
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
I don't know if it will work but why don't you ask her why she is doing it, and tell her how you feel evrytime she will repeat what shes done wrong and how you feel when giving her punishment,get to know her personally by asking what where her feelings al the time and appreciate those things she did well, or recognize a day when she's not grumpy, have a bonding moment with her, or treat her as a reward for doing good..
• United States
24 Feb 12
I have a daughter the same age, I thing all kids ares in some way the same. What is most important is make sure you are in charge they allways will try to challenge you and if they can get away the first time they got you. The usual thing is to try to take away something they like since at this age they undertand completely but dont let loose otherwise they take advantage. When I was little there was a saing that on one hand the punishment and on the other one the loving. So you implement discipline and love at the same time. Dont worry about the time she was born all kids are mosty the same. The ones that are more quiet might have prblems groing up.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
23 Feb 12
My two brother are both born April and Taurus. Our mother says, the older one is kind of grumpy when he is young. but now he is the good child among us (hehehe) Honestly, yes, my brothers are good ones, esp the one who is grumpy when he's young. He never raise a voice to his kids and very loving father as well. I swear, both of my brother are loving fathers. I witness how they take care of their kids and their kids are even closer to my brothers than to their moms. I am sure your daughter will change. She's still young, but then you need to be patient to teach her good things and manners. Kids do change as they grow up, just keep on.
@alberello (4756)
• Italy
23 Feb 12
I introduce this comment by saying that I, as your daughter, born May 20 are under the astrological sign of Taurus. This however is not inherent to your question, it is just a "footnote". I still do not shall be father, no children and therefore I can not give you the proper guidelines on how to educate your daughter know. Second, however, by the way I see it is right to teach children to behave properly, even though sometimes it can be annoying, in my opinion is just give small penalties. The early childhood education is important, because according to this, the child will grow with a certain type of character and behavior, rather than with another. That's what I wrote, is however only my opinion.
• United States
23 Feb 12
I'm not a mother, but I did work in daycare for several years. There are a couple possibilities. She's learning this behavior from someone else (say at school or tv). She's unhappy or stressed about something. Often I would see children change to this type of behavior when something was changing in their lives, like starting school for the first time, or trying to make new friends. You really need to try and find the route of the problem, which won't be super easy. In the meantime you could try playing with her and showing her how to play nice or see if she can have a friend come over and play with her. This way you can also see if she scolds her friends too. There's one other thing that could cause her bad behavior. Rarely there were children that were chemically imbalanced due to certain foods they're eating (kind of like an allergic reaction) Hope this helps.