Selfishness and Self-love

@boylopez (382)
Philippines
February 25, 2012 7:10am CST
Greeting to all my co-mylotters. We have discussion in our office the difference between selfishness and self-love. Others say it is just the same. For you, it is just the same? Can you differentiate it? Have a nice day to all.
2 people like this
6 responses
@Micmac (9028)
28 Feb 12
It doesn't mean the same in my opinion. It's way opposite like sock and shoe. Self love is okay within the normal boundaries like respecting yourself as a human being but when you display self-love in the manner of being superior to others and place too much importance on yourself inclusive of other's rights then it is flaunting egotism. Selfishness is thinking of 'me-first' arrogant attitude when you see yourself above everyone else. It can be greediness and excessive flattery of oneself or one's achievement like saying 'I'm better than you are' or having a 'chip on ones' shoulder' attitude.
@Micmac (9028)
29 Feb 12
sorry dear, spelling error, I meant- "exclusive"
@maezee (32570)
• United States
25 Feb 12
I think there is a line between loving yourself and being selfish. Self love is totally important; we all should love and respect ourselves and have confidence in ourselves. That doesn't mean we need to be obsessed with ourselves though - that no one else in life matters. I think once we start thinking ONLY about ourselves is where we get into some trouble.
@vandana7 (66160)
• India
25 Feb 12
Interesting response..especially the last line. :) So..if I boasted about my achievements in life, or tried to get the best seat in the flight when traveling with a group of friends deliberately denying another person, I would not be selfish, right? To an extent, I agree with you. Without self-love life is ridiculous. But when it is perceptible it becomes selfishness may be.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
29 Feb 12
There's not much difference between the two and yet there's really a difference. I don't know how to put it in words but self love and selfishness has their respective meanings. IT's a kind of feelings felt only by that person. Unless one has that same character or experience, only then they would be able to describe it. I believe anyone of us has some kind of self love and selfishness in us, until someone ask us about it, we won't know.
• Philippines
25 Feb 12
Loving oneself is not selfishness. People may say that it is selfishness but for me, it's not. The least that we can do for ourselves is to love it. No one can love us more than others. Others can love us but sometimes it is not enough. It's okay to love ourselves, but make sure that we can learn how to control how we love it. Selfishness comes in when we always think of ourselves. We never share what we had.
@vandana7 (66160)
• India
25 Feb 12
I too had a different interpretation of selfishness. I thought selfishness is unwillingness to part with something that another person needs that I dont need as bad. And that selfishness is ignoring others in their problems, and so on and so forth. But I too learnt that self-love is a form of selfishness. So selfishness is like a whole set, and self-love is one form of it. :)
• Jacksonville, Florida
25 Feb 12
I think we should all love ourselves or no one will love us in return. Self love is good and healthy. Selfishness is only loving and caring for ourselves. Nothing and no one else which is not good. There is a difference. =)