I think it is funny...
@imajerseygirl (433)
United States
February 25, 2012 6:27pm CST
I think it is funny who you think are friends, and then yet those people who really are your friends show and prove themselves to be your friends when you are in need. Have you ever been in that situation? When you need a friend but yet they desert you when you need them? I'm in that situation right now. :(
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@magester1 (148)
• Argentina
26 Feb 12
That's why I usually don't call most people I know friends, they're more of acquaintances.
You will most likely have very few real friends in your life.
Luckily for me, I've never been in that situation, then again I don't really have many friends.
A good solution when you need to talk to someone is to actually do it here, online, where you don't know the person and he/she doesn't know you. That way you take a big weight off you back.
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
26 Feb 12
I am the same way. I do not trust anybody, I have no friends besides the internet. Sadly to say, this is my lifeline. We moved here 3 years 6 months and 20 days ago. (but who's counting, lol) all my "real" friends are over 600 miles away, since we have been here I have not been able to trust anybody.
@magester1 (148)
• Argentina
26 Feb 12
Yeah, I know where you're coming from. I moved from my home city to study almost 1000 miles away.
I didn't have many friends back there, mind you, but the ones I did now I can only see them a couple of times a year.
I guess we could try spending less time here and more on the outside meeting people...
@joystick (1675)
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26 Feb 12
I am sorry to hear that you feel that you have been deserted by your friends.I have a really nice friend, who lives near me and who has always been there for me no matter what.But there are other friends that are people who only want you when they have no one else to turn to or want things from you.There will always be people that are like that in our lives, but I tend to not bother seeing those people, as I can live without them.
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
26 Feb 12
No, technically I have not been deserted by my friends. My friends live over 600 miles away from me. Since we have moved here I am not able to make "friends", I have made aquatints, but no one I would trust. I only moved to where I live because of my husband, and have shortly learned after the fact, it really wasn't worth it. :( I wish I did stay home, where I had my "support", here I don't have any support, I am learning that I have to be stronger than I was, but in certain situations you do need that support line. I am having a difficulty time right now, which is why I turn to my friends on mylot for the extra support and push I cannot give myself. :) I know this is all online and no body truly knows the next, but the small words and wisdom everyone gives in all actually gives and pushes more than the person on the other end knows. :)
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
26 Feb 12
I am sorry to hear that but sometimes that is the best way to find out just who you can trust. I think we've all been in that situation, I know I have. I've also been in the situation where a person who I thought was a friend ended up being even more immature then I imagined / realized she was.
You will get through whatever it is, just trust, and forget those who can't be there for you when you need them most.
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
26 Feb 12
Thank you for your response. I can completely relate. Sadly though this person was a "friend" of my husbands side of the family. To be honest, I just find it real funny when it comes to "friend of the family" verses a "person who wants to get into someones pants" (I am sorry to put it so bluntly as that). But I find that disturbing. Really makes me wonder where these people come from. I mean I know I was NEVER raised to be like that, so where are peoples morals these days?
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
27 Feb 12
So sorry to hear about your problems jerseygirl. I hope that your situation improves. I found out back in November that the two people I called friends and I have bent over backwards for in the past just plainly abandoned me when I needed them. The funny thing of it is, I was not asking for much....just for them to drop by and see me because I was lonely and had no way of getting out. Now in the past I have helped these two "friends" rather extensively. It is good to find out that way you don't have to continue helping them when they need it.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
26 Feb 12
Not the way you described it.
But I did found out that friends seldom show up (no matter how many times you helped them out) if you need them and completely strangers will help you if you are in need. No matter if they stay friends with you or not.
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
26 Feb 12
don't worry imajerseygirl cause it's not only you who ever felt that way. it also happened to me and not only once, where it reached a point that i was feeling betrayed as a friend. like they say you'll know who your real friends are at your lowest moments. you shouldn't mind them because it'd be a waste of time thinking about them which most probably aren't thinking about you and how you feel right now. it hurts but you should focus on other matters that are important to you. self-pitying about losing your so called friends would only make you feel worse so cheer up because there are millions of other people left in this world whom would want to be your friend. ^_^
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
26 Feb 12
One reason why I only open up to only a few people is because of that reason. There are people who are so good to you in the good times but when it comes to the bad days, they disappear. I am proud to say that I don't have a lot of friends but the few friends that I have are the people who truly loves me and the people who were there when I needed them most.
The quality but not the quantity of friends is the most important thing in the end and I would always choose quality over anything else.
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
26 Feb 12
Deserted by friends usually happened to all of us in many ways.
In my case,I have a friend which I assume my friends that I found out telling bad things about me to other people which is not true.Actually he is a co worker who eventually became a friend but now its seems he is not based on the things that he have done.
@vt689586 (584)
• India
26 Feb 12
well it is good have friends like that who are always ready to help when you want help from them but i have not face such situation till now where i really want only my friends help.according to me it is rear now days to have friends like that and i don't think i have friends like that who are always ready to help me.but i am sure in it because i never ask for help from my friends.
@erjnsimon (1191)
• Makati, Philippines
26 Feb 12
sometimes we consider our friends as our true friends however only few are your actually true friends. others are just pretending, maybe we can call them or they actually call you friend with benefits. they want you to become their friend but the main motif is to take advantage with you. this is what we call friends. haha
