Your Opinion is Badly Needed

@totor_53 (223)
Philippines
February 26, 2012 8:43pm CST
I have experienced being in a relationship however that relationship did not last long. It took me 9 months to realize that the kind of relationship that I had with my girlfriend sprang not from emotions or love but from a learned emotions. For you, what will be the best way for identifying the right person to love, the right love to give and the right time to give love?
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@Aja103654 (5663)
• Philippines
27 Feb 12
Well, when it comes to finding out the answers for all those questions, you need plenty of time to do so. It should not be hurried. You have to patient when it comes to these matters since most of them can really affect your life a lot. The person you should love should love you as well. This person would be willing to love unconditional, always take your feelings into consideration, respects you and accepts your flaws no matter how terrible they may seem. the person should not be abusive or needy. simply loving you should be enough for this person. this, i think, is an ideal person to love. this person should not be demanding or mean. the right love to give? i'm not sure. i often just give back as much love as i am given. the right time to give love? huh? what does that mean? well, you should choose a time in which you are fully intact, like you are not heartbroken or anything. you should be a whole person when you love not someone who just broke up with a past love and is currently healing. give yourself time to heal first. don't use another person and make him or her your new girlfriend or boyfriend to get over your ex. this person is not medicine. if you're the type who yearns for your ex then don't bother getting into another relationship wherein you will only hurt your new partner.
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@totor_53 (223)
• Philippines
27 Feb 12
I guess you're right. The primary reason why I've got in that kind of relationship was because of my haste to have a relationship. I guess love also takes time. It may not be now but I'm sure it will come in the near future. Thanks anyways for your insights i highly appreciate it ;p.
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@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
27 Feb 12
If you can see that person walking down the isle towards you, then I think she might be the one. But that is not enough, imagine having children with her, having problems your parents are having right now, like finances, kids and others. And also imagine her being ill or handicapped or something, will you still love her and take care of her until you both gets old. I only had two boyfriends, my second, hopefully my last.
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@espoir (184)
• China
27 Feb 12
I don't think people can instruct you about this.
• Philippines
27 Feb 12
I would rather advice u to observe first his character ........u can judge him in ur own whether that guy is true or just making u fool.........
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@bird123 (10342)
• United States
27 Feb 12
With true love comes high chemistry on both sides. Take your time deciding. True love hangs in there. One thing I did realize was that around her I was never lonely or bored. Hang in there long enough and you will know.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 12
i don't think there's a "right formula" for love because it just happens when you least expect it. i'm not an expert but i learned that it's not good to always control things like your feelings, expectations and even having a standard or criteria in choosing who you want to be with.
@Mashnn (4503)
27 Feb 12
Falling in love is very difficult. In most cases, people just give a love a trial and as times goes on you are able to tell whether this is the type of love that you wanted. I believe loving and falling in love is not a one day thing and if anyone is given a chance to fall in love, you will definitely know whether you are ready to and whether the person you are dating is the right one for you.
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@magester1 (148)
• Argentina
27 Feb 12
I think the right come will come on its own, you don't have to think about it, one moment you'll realize you're there. The right person might be a little more difficult. In my opinion you shouldn't look for her/him, you start friendships or relationships or whatever you want. I think a real lasting relationship will start with friendship instead of meeting in a bar or something.
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@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
27 Feb 12
We have our standards and likes when it comes to choosing someone to love. But most of the time we failed to look into those standards once our heart fell in love. So,it's not easy to tell who is the right person- knowing each other for sometime can also be a good help to know each others differences and likes.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 12
Until now, people find it hard to measure and identify the true love. I just say the mystery of LOVE. I have been a victim of crazy love. and that I feel like I'm ensalved by this love but I find happiness in it. It might be a marytr love or perhaps a crazy love. It is an individual criteria to say that this is the right person to love, because to some your right person to love might not the way other people look at it. It is actually unique in nature and nobody can say that it is the right time to give love because it is just like a lightning, you don't know when it strikes at you. I would say in the end explore love and give your love to those you don't even love.
@Hatley (157510)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Feb 12
hi totor did you really fall in love with her, or with the idea of love? real love can handle just anything and still be there. did uo see her having your babies, cleaning your house, maybe working part time or was it all just that lust was there so you thought you were in love? how does she react to you? does she love you? nine months is not a long time unless you two had only lust and the pretty picture of love with a fancy wedding and all? what do you mean by learned emotion, please explain so I can help more intelligently? the right person will make you light u p inside,you will want her to live with you forevr,you will want her wi th you always, eveh you will think of a real wedding?
@totor_53 (223)
• Philippines
28 Feb 12
I could say that I have somehow learn to love her however, the reason why i decided to finish our relationship was due to her over dramatic attitude. I mean its okay sometimes but its like everyday she always makes me feel useless.