Is he psychologically ill OR just a habit???

Malaysia
February 28, 2012 11:26pm CST
I have this recent problem with a close friend. It's a HE. He likes to nag in the office. He have zero tolerance towards the way you place your stationery on your desk, he will nag you when you left your cup in the sink, and he will constantly be telling you, that your sitting position will tangle the computer wires! I am hereby, seeking your generous public opinion about this man. Seriously, whenever I hear him starting telling people's off in the office, he got me really feeling annoyed. He speaks really loud in the office as IF he is having a fight/arguments with someone. He will keep telling you ," DON'T DO THIS.......DON'T DO THAT...24 HOURS !" Whoever drive him or pick him up from home, will just feel annoyed, because he will constantly tell you to slow down, to turn this lane, that lane and ETC! Please peeps, is this man suffering so kind of disorder? What is wrong with him????
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11 responses
@neelia_lyn (2017)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
Maybe he is so stressed, depressed and frustrated and that he wanted to pour his frustrations upon everyone who comes along his way. He could be suffering from something that needs to be assessed by a psychologist. I know someone who is acting same way as your friend but the reason is he has been seriously ill for 2 years now. Doc said he's affected psychologically.
• Malaysia
6 Mar 12
Maybe he is stressed out easily. Some people have lesser tolerance towards stresses in life.
• United States
29 Feb 12
Maybe he had a traumatic childhood experience where his parents done it onto him? Judging from your story, it MAY be a little bit of both. It gotten to the point where he can't help himself but to do that because it's been already programmed into his head from something... though I would be extremely annoyed if I went through it -.-
• Malaysia
6 Mar 12
Hi there. Well, I guess he does have both of what you mentioned. Sometimes, we need to change what is not good for us and others around us. I hope he have the same thinking like I mentioned.
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
1 Mar 12
Hi Jacklyn, I don't know to say if it is a happy or sad thing that he is your close friend. If he is really your close friend, I would just advise you to just accept him as he is, but don't end up like him. If it really gets annoying, get earplugs!!! The other possibility is he is trying to attract your attention with all his whining...mmm...he interested in you? I hope you are not the one picking him up and to home...are you? Ha ha...
@Metatronik (5923)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 Mar 12
Probably yes he has psychological issue already. Maybe he is already suffering in depression as well that is the reason why he became like that. Aside from that he is in defense mechanism wherein he wants to rule other people it is because he has been pressured by other people. Something on that extent.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
Probably an anxiety disorder or maybe an OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder. haha, the way you describe him, it really seems this person has a serious problem. just wear earplugs or something, i'm not kidding, that way the only person stressed because of his behavior will be him.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
29 Feb 12
I am not willing to be near him if he can do that for 24 hours!! He must be someone we girls can't handle and stand at all as he is more fussy than we girls!!(^^) Is he the boss or anyone who superior than you?? Even if he is the boss he should not acted that way. He will be the one that everyone will hate to see and meet on that office. If he is not the boss, that is worst! He should not acted like he owned the office~ People will totally dislike it.. Anyone has told him that he is acting that way and you all dislike it??? He should know about that.(^^)
@inertia4 (27786)
• United States
29 Feb 12
Well after reading this post, I think your friend has OCD. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I know someone like this myself. He not only talks loud, but he does not think before he speaks. and he has to have certain things done a certain way. You, or no one in your office can fix this. He need therapy to help him with this condition.
• United States
29 Feb 12
I have no tolerance for people like this. Traumatic childhood or not, if you are not my boss do not tell me what I should or should not be doing. If you were in my car, and pulled that kind of crap, it would be the last time you got a ride. I simply have no tolerance for people who are control freaks and as my sister would call it, simply a bossy boots. The reasons for the behavior could be from childhood, or he could just be an insufferable know it all. Either way, he seems like he can be in a pain with all his do this, don't do that nonsense.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
Most people with this kind of attitude had a very traumatic psychosocial history as a child. Actually, i think this is somewhat an escape or protective shield behavior to be able to get attention. Being an authoritative usually reflects on finding faults and the will to rectify them is just second nature.
• Philippines
29 Feb 12
He's just a Perfectionist type of human being. I had met person who are like that. They're the type who wants things to be on their way. A person like him needs to be alone. Instead of arguing with him, People should stay away from him.
@UmiNoor (3594)
• Malaysia
29 Feb 12
He sounds like a control freak to me. It's either his way or the highway. Has he always been this way or is this something that happened recently? If he has always been this way, I guess it must be his upbringing but if he's doing it recently, then something must have triggered this behavior. If he's the senior employee then it's obvious that he feels that it's his duty to have everything in the office in order. But if he's as old as you are, something must be bothering him at home or in his personal life to make him behave this way. The only way to be sure is to ask him nicely and not to offend him and hurt his feelings if you value his friendship.