Your right to hold my child? I think not.

United States
February 29, 2012 11:21am CST
So a few weeks ago I was out with my daughter doing some grocery shopping, when I ran into a former coworker of mine that I've never liked. She's very entitled and says really rude things and then gets upset if you get upset at what she said. So she saw us, walked right over and pinched my daughters cheeks hard enough to make her whine. I removed her hands and told her not to touch her, and she told me that it was fine, and that my daughter just needed to get use to it. I gave her the stink eye, told her no she didn't, and continued my shopping. All the while she trailed after me. I kept ignoring her, until she tried to reach for the baby again and I blocked her hands. This time I told her that she must have misunderstood me before, it wasn't ok for her to grab at my daughter. She actually told me that it was her right to hold my daughter. I almost laughed out loud. She began to carry on, almost yelling about how it was her right to hold or touch the baby, and how I was just supposed to let her. Finally one of the grocery managers told her that she was either going to need to settle down or leave. I beat a hasty retreat while she was going on about how he couldn't talk to her that way. I'd like to think I handled it well all things considered. However I'm curious as to what you would do in that situation?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
29 Feb 12
You handled it a lot better than I would have, I'm sure. Good lord, kids are people too. How would she like it if you started pinching her cheeks etc. You just don't go up to someone's child and start touching them or trying to hold them. I meet new babies all the time and unless the parent's offer me to hold the child, I don't even try. Your ex-coworker sounds kind of scary. What a weirdo!
• United States
4 Mar 12
I have no idea why someone would just assume they could touch her. I mean it's crazy.
3 Mar 12
I should say you were quite calm an reacted too nicely ! I am a bit possessive and i would have called security, make them keep an eye on her or even invite her out ! HOW can a complete stranger assume to have the right to touch or hold your baby? Just because you two used to work together? You have the right to choose who is getting near your baby, and who is allowed to hold him. The woman is insane if this really happened.
• Ireland
29 Feb 12
As someone who loves nothing more than to hold, play with or talk to a young child, I always ask the parents' permission first. I think it is very rude to lay your hands on someone else's child like that. You did the right thing, personally I would have been a lot less polite the second time 'round!
• United States
4 Mar 12
That's what you do! You ask if you can hold the baby, not just make grabby hands lol.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
24 Aug 12
I might have flat out smacked her. Nobody has any RIGHT to hold my daughter. They can ASK but I have every parental right to say NO to anybody. The only person I wouldn't have the right to say that to is my husband, and why it would ever cross my mind makes no sense lol. ANYBODY else, regardless of family, friend, coworker, the president, GOD, I could say no if I wanted and EXPECT no arguement. I'd press charges if I said no and another person continued to grab or threw a fit. Completely unacceptable and idiotic. I would NEVER EXPECT that someone else should just allow me to hold or touch their baby. Nobody ever has a RIGHT to someone else's children!! If people share, it is a priviledge!
@kristinad (185)
• United States
29 Feb 12
i think you did a great job i would have flipped out on her no one has the right to touch your daughter.
• United States
4 Mar 12
Thank you! I know, why would you assume you had a right to touch her?
• United States
24 Aug 12
No one has the right to touch your child unless you specifically says so. you could file assault charges against that dumb lady.she was not a lady but actually some kind of animal. Good for you for Protecting your child.