Is there anything that makes you aggressive?

@JenInTN (27565)
United States
February 29, 2012 5:11pm CST
I have known some very passive and peace loving people. I like to think that I am peace loving...maybe not very passive...but peace loving...and very open to new ideas and differences. Even though...I think there are things that have the potential of bringing out the worst in everyone. Maybe it's not really the worst..just something that we are so passionate about that makes us a bit on the aggressive side. Maybe it is even something that you didn't think would make you feel aggressive until it was in the moment. It might be work..it might be personal. Everyone is definitely going to be different where this is concerned and I can't wait to hear what it is that makes you aggressive...ok..not aggressive..passionate. What makes you passionate? Have you ever been surprised by a moment when you were suddenly aggressive about a situation?
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@bunnybon7 (33091)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Mar 12
9ive been more aggressive lately then ever in my life! it seems this man of my daughters just wants to purposely get on my nerves. not to mention my daughter takes up for any antics he pulls.
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@Hatley (159445)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Mar 12
hi bunnybon is that jerk still at your home? you are just too darned kind and why cannot your daughter see what a jerk he is instead of defending the bozo instead. love is blind indeed I guess. get your son to take him by the seat of his pants and toss him out the door lol lol
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
I like Ms.Hatley's advice for sure. I think she will see what a jerk he is after a little time and hopefully get him by the seat of his pants herself. Thanks for responding!
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@celticeagle (114484)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Mar 12
Yes, Ms. Hatley's got the right idea for sure. It's just that in such situations usually the guy is a manipulator and is brain washing her to think he is the living end. I agree on the get your son to take him by the seat of his pants and toss him out the door thing.
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@celticeagle (114484)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Mar 12
The things that make me agressive is ongoing injustice, my kids being mistreated, and my granddaughter. I am passionate about literature and keeping books alive, my writing, animals, and food! I remember back in August of 1996 when I was still with my ex. He and I had had the talk about him leaving his stash where my granddaughter could find it. I was not a happy woman! Then he left and went over to his user friends place. Came home about 3a. and had the nerve to make advances toward me. I refused to respond but he continued. I sat up and hit him in the face! I was so mad over everything that had transpired I hit him! Still weirds me out when i think of it.
@Hatley (159445)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Mar 12
hi celticeagle but again perhaps thats the be st thing you could have done it surely must have made some impression on your ex.
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@celticeagle (114484)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Mar 12
Yes, it did.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
I can understand that. I would have been mad too. I am not one that another might want to make advances towards when they have ruffled my feathers either. I like the way that you separated your passions from the things that make you aggressive. Sometimes there can be a fine line between these things. Thanks for sharing!
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@1hopefulman (20332)
• Canada
1 Mar 12
I am working hard on trying to be peaceful and controlled and kind. However, I do find it hard to keep my cool when I am lied to or someone wants to cheat me or cheat on me or anyone that wants to use me. I guess that brings out the worst in me. However I am doing much better at how I react. I still make them know that I really don't appreciate liars, users or cheats but I'm much calmer about it or at least I think I am, even if other person can't see it.
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@1hopefulman (20332)
• Canada
1 Mar 12
I think it's the first time I've used that icon.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Congrats on the first icon!!! Use it as you will as long as it is not steaming at me. We will save that for the liars and the cheats. I hate that too. I give an honest effort and I expect it in return. I hate for someone to think that #1 I am stupid enough to believe it and #2 A person they can just swindle Thanks for the response!
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@Bluedoll (16817)
• Canada
29 Feb 12
After putting on my thinking cap I came up with this event. I put out my finger pointing to the door and said, “I want you to leave now! PLEASE!” On shutting the door I said quietly, “Do not come back.” Yes, I was upset. His words before my anger came were, “What are you going to do hit me?” He obviously could see I was upset and I was. He was rude and stated pompously that he was going to have to charge me. What nerve! That, that, that creep. Have you ever wrote a story backwards? (stay tuned for the beginning tomorrow same time same channel)
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
29 Feb 12
I am awaiting anxiously. Sounds like a very passionate and possibly aggressive moment or two. Every time I have pointed to the door..there have been some very moving experiences.
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@Bluedoll (16817)
• Canada
1 Mar 12
"You should have left it alone. You are suppose to call right away and not mess with taps (He looked like I didn't know what I was doing). Now you have ruined it and it needs to be replaced!" He was soooo sure of himself and I think out to make a buck. I also think he didn't like coming to fix simple things like a dripping tap and waws making things sound overly important. So what if I took off the chrome tap thing covering and put my Dad's vise grippy pliers that lock on the screw part to turn it and tighten the tap more and stop it from drip drip dripping, eh? I would have fixed it myself too but I didn't know what I was doing. Well more on the fix but first let me tell you about the beginning of this moving story ....
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
@olliekobra1 (1826)
1 Mar 12
Im a very passive person but i can get very aggresive when i play sport, i play in a indoor soccer league and always want to win so i tend to get aggresive when i play sport.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Sports can be a great outlet. I have seen alot of people with the ability to release stress or aggressiveness during sports. They are usually very talented in the area of sports too. I bet you are. Thanks for responding!
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1 Mar 12
yeah im pretty good and a competitve player, a lot of great sports people such as john McEnroe and Dennis Rodman are aggressive but thats what gives them a competitve edge.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Yes it is.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
1 Mar 12
HI JEN,I can be very aggresive if i think someone is mistreating my kids even tho they are grown. As for my grandkids noone even needs to try to go there, lol. Idon't like to see elderly people mistreated either. hope all is well w/you.HUGS.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Heyya Jo! I am crazy protective of my kids too...lol..I am fixing to see about those grandchildren..I am very excited about her coming already. Elderly people is definitely a soft spot and animals too. How is the pneumonia thing coming? Are you better yet?
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1 Mar 12
people should always be protecive of their kids and if people mistreat them thats enough to make anybody aggressive
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
1 Mar 12
U just wait till that little girl gets here, she'll have u twisted around her finger in minutes.I am better from the pneumonia but it's hard to bounce back. My arthritus is kicking my butte , BIG TIME. tHE HOME HEALTH PHYSICAL THERAPIST STARTED COMING BACK TO SEE ME YESTERDAY.Of course it's not going to get rid of it but will hopefully make it easier to put up with. I'm soooooooo tired of feeling bad.Have a happy day. hugs.
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
1 Mar 12
MAybe not that but pushy!? specially when it comes to tlak ing aobut the coffee I drink. I had blood work dont today and I can hardly wait to see th results and compare it to the last time I had blood work done I even printed out about ganoderma and gave it to my DOctor for her to read lllololool now is tha pushy aggrressive or passionte?
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Nothing wrong with wanting to make your business work. That type of passion makes businesses successful.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
2 Mar 12
thanks got to get the word out there about healthy coffee huh? Have you tried yours? I got 2 sign ups last night am in 7th heaven lol now to get more buyers or sellers yup want too
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
3 Mar 12
I haven't got to try it yet!!! I am going to try it in the morning after a good night's sleep. I hardly ever drink coffee but I do have the occasional cup. Wait a minute...I wonder if my b/f has drank it? He loves coffee and now that we are talking about it, I haven't seen those packets in the kitchen I'll be investigating this...
• India
1 Mar 12
I am really calm and Cool person in all time. But even though in any hard situation i am passive and calm in Real life. But in some time i am aggressive when it is i played the Games. When we played games it's make as to involvement more on that to win on that time any one frustrated us by lying things that should make me aggressive and more Aggressive.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Games do have a way of turning on the aggressive switch. Which games do you play?
• India
2 Mar 12
I am Playing cricket and Chess.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
2 Mar 12
I have never played much cricket but I have played a little chess. I like it.
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
1 Mar 12
Hello, JenInTN. It REALLY takes a lot to get me to that point. I should say allow myself to get to. I am really passionate about Biblical subjects. (As you can see in 5 of my discussions.) What I allow to "tan my hide" is when others mock me with what I have presented. Oh, boy. I worked very hard to show people the truth of science and the Bible, as I know it to be true, and the best they can do is use one liners to cut me down without doing research. AARRRRGH!!!! All this, just to "try" and prove me wrong. I also think they do it to get that exact response. IDK. I must admit, I may not know everything there is to know about YAHVAH (GOD), but at least I look into it with the passion all people should. Now I got myself worked up...(I don't yet have 200 posts because I wanted to place an angry guy face there). :) So, I will continue to preach the word of YAHVAH, and try and keep my cool. After all, Paul did tell believers to live in peace with everyone. Okay, I hope that You have a great day and keep these wonderful discussions coming. :)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
1 Mar 12
But what if peaceful living is disallowed?
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Heyya CODYMAC! Religion is definitely one of those things that can bring out huge aggressiveness. There are people out there that will try to get a rise out of people by challenging them but I am one that likes laid back discussions about it. Thanks for sharing!
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
29 Feb 12
At the moment the politics that is going on in my country (Australia) gives me aggressive feelings, I am a very passive person usually but gee the things going on in this country at the moment makes me think dreadful things.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
29 Feb 12
I can certainly understand that. Politics has the potential to make many many people aggressive. It might have never even bothered one before and then one thing...bam...mad as a hornet! I have been there for sure. Thanks for sharing!
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1 Mar 12
In the UK politics is making a lot of people mad , because of the reccession and that the politicions don't seem to be listening to anyone
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@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Normally I am very laid back. As a matter of fact, I'm a peacenik at heart!!! My aggressions tend to flare up when I feel truly passionate about something & I'm being challenged to prove my point to a complete idiot that refuses to hear!!! I also believe that EVERYBODY is entitled to their opinion & I try to explain calmly; but eventually my aggressions get the better of me & I go into attack mode. I've noticed this happening more on myLot than in real life; so, I'm working to control my aggressions by more carefully choosing my battles. I don't like it when I lose my peace!!!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
2 Mar 12
I try to choose my battles too. It's hard when all the battles I want to fight are worth fighting in my opinion..lol. I am working on that stuff too though. Thanks for responding!
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Hi Jen, I'm a very laidback person and many people who have known me my entire life will say that they can't imagine me getting worked up. Hmmm..those that have seen it have been shocked. My kids...they have seen me get worked up when they were being rude, disrespectful or mean. They have also seen me get worked up in defense of them for anyone treating them wrong. My daughter once put it perfectly to one of her friends when they were teens. They had come in late & had been drinking. I handled it all very calmly. As I was walking away from them, her friend commented, "Wow, your mom is so cool! My mom would have freaked on us!" My daughter replied, "No my mom is weird. She freaks on things like.....I don't remember what she used as an example.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
2 Mar 12
I don't think your weird at all. I get mad over disrespect and being rude or mean too. My girls know where I stand on that and they better never let me know of them being that way either. Thanks for responding.
@lynboobsy11 (11347)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
I'm a very calm person, I do have a smile in my face always, I don't get easily mad. Since my blood pressure is always normal.But there is two things that make me so aggressive. When I saw a person who is so very pretentious. In the first look you can see how she act the way she's speak tha makes me irritable I ussually walk out on her. The other one is broken promises, the one that your hoping for and after waiting there are so many alibi's I hate those kind of people. You can say "you will try" at least I'm not hoping It can be sure and it can be not. That's the only two things that make me so aggresive.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Oh yes...someone acting as though they are of higher importance...like talking down to me...I can get a little aggressive feeling with that too. Broken promises is another strong issue. Thanks for sharing!
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
All I know is if you punch me in the face, expect me to be aggressive. I don't take those easily, and also, I'm a giver. So if someone punched me, I'll punch him right back. If you're referring to being passionate about stuff, I guess the aggressiveness comes with inspiration. I'm a digital art enthusiast and I like browsing through artists' galleries. That inspires me to compose my own works, and thus, gives me "aggression".
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
I think that we should all be a "giver" if someone punches us in the face. I really like looking at art too. I have searched galleries online but my recent visit to the one in my area has made me want to go personally from time to time. Thanks for responding!
• United States
1 Mar 12
I am generally pretty laid back, but there is one thing that will make me turn me aggressive, that is when some one gets aggressive with me. I let it slide for a while but if they keep up the aggression, than I have no choice but to fight or flee. Maybe I should just choose flee, but I often reply with my own aggression. I never get aggressive first, and often ask someone if they are really getting in my face and let them know that I will not back down. take care, and happy posting.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Hi fransico! That reminds me of a class I took when we discusses fight or flight. It was something that was described as instinctual. I find it very interesting. There are those traits that can cause us to be more aggressive when confronted. I think I am aggressive during some of my confrontations but my responses are very calculated..mostly when it is professional though. Thanks for the response!
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• United States
1 Mar 12
We grew up with parents who felt we needed to be raised being aggressive to survive in the world. I have control of my temper but I have to say anytime someone is even remotely aggressive towards me I am fired up immediately. That or when my family is involved.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
I appreciate your input on this. Raising can be very influential on aggressive behavior. Family is one thing I am protective of too...it was always ok for me to think what I wanted but not ok for someone else to say it..does that make sense? I am of course referring to family I was raised with. Take care.
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@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
29 Feb 12
For the most part I'm a very calm and mellow person. I generally get along with everyone. I try to keep the peace between relationships that I have with others. Things that irritate me or bother me is when I think someone is being unkind or unfair to another person. People being kind to my child is important. If someone says something that I think isn't right or that would hurt my childs feelings then I speak up on it.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
29 Feb 12
Oh yes...our children are certainly one of those things that can make us go 0 to protective in a moments notice. I have three children and although they are older, I still find myself highly protective of them. Thanks for responding!
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@olliekobra1 (1826)
1 Mar 12
road rage is another factor that can make people aggressive people have killed other people over road rage?.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
That is another good point. There are people that get really aggressive when driving.
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1 Mar 12
It's sad I work with some guys who get bad road rage, one guy chased a car down the road because he got cut up that's so sad
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Wow..that is sad...and scary. People can be very irrational when they are mad.
• United States
1 Mar 12
I am very peace loving unless someone picks on members of my family, other relatives or friends. At that point, all bets are off and I'm willing to fight. That applies double to anyone picking on my daughter, who was born with Down's syndrome. Why fools think these children were born to be scorned I don't know, but it won't happen around me without a resounding answer I'm sure the bully won't like.
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
2 Mar 12
Oh I am really moved by that too. I will get mad so quick it will make someones head spin over making fun of a child. I know that other children are not always sensitive but I am hoping that I taught my children how to be. They better never let me see them bullying anyone...they are very clear as to how I feel about it too.
• United States
2 Mar 12
Good for you! Jaimie never had trouble with children; in fact, they protected her, but adults were another matter. One doctor said put her in an institute and leave her. His date tossed him out and told him she never wanted to see him again. Turned out he was dating my best friend, who happened to adore Jaimie. A lady in a grocery asked why I would let that child out in public. My response was to question why anyone would let that woman out in public. With our parents - Bru's mom wanted to have Jaimie sterilized. My mom couldn't believe she was actually beautiful and wanted 'to know the truth.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
2 Mar 12
And to think that doctor is supposed to help people...what a shame his ethics are no more than to say "oh..just throw her in an institution." What a waste of a career that could do people real good..you know? I can tell you one thing...the love you are able to know from having that little girl will be more in a day than most of those people will know in their whole life.
@alottodo (3062)
• Australia
1 Mar 12
I Am a passionate person and some times some people would bring the worst out of me...that is why I would keep my self out of some discussions when in a party or get together[ specially if I had a few drinks]and if I had bad day that would make it worst.
• Canada
1 Mar 12
Thanks for the vote of confidence, alottodo! I, too KNOW that if I imbibe..it puts my mouth in gear, and my brain in neutral, and I am so dang passionate about my causes..I get assertive then! Usually, there is just ONE person in a gathering that can "ruffle my feathers", I find, and know there is no chance of winning a battle of wits, with the unarmed..LOL! Cheers!
@alottodo (3062)
• Australia
1 Mar 12
I don't know about the vote of confidence what do you mean?
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
2 Mar 12
Sometimes getting tangled up in the wrong discussion at a social event can be very uncomfortable. I can see a drink or two perhaps intensifying the effect. Thanks for responding!