Two Sides Love

@Lucas818 (378)
February 29, 2012 10:23pm CST
Greetings to myLotters! Currently, I am having long distance relationship. To me, it is nice but also sad. Recently, my partner she is so busy of her work, her job in the company she's working. If I try to call her during the day time, she wouldn't be available to talk to me. She works as department coordinator, always giving training, attending conferences, meetings.. So, I have to wait until night and call her. Anyhow, it doesn't work well neither. She might come back from work late, or she still has her personal things to do and etc. Even if when we talk, she will tell me all about her work, and nothing much. I am kinda sad, as I feel that the distance between us is getting further. I don't think we communicate well, and not good enough to understand each other. In short, I am aware of this, I fear that our relationship is getting not healthy and I begin to worry. Is there any advice for me? I appreciate the relationship and I don't want to fail. Thanks!!
4 responses
• Malaysia
7 Mar 12
Relationship especially the distance one is never an easy subject. You need a lot of patient and endurance. You said that she is busy with her job and even if when you talk, she will tell you all about her work and nothing much. I think that's the problem, what other topic you want to talk about? The girl might feel stress and even reluctant to pick up the call with nothing to say, and thus she try hard to tell you her job and work. I think you should come out with better ideas how to maintain the relationship other than phone calling.
@Lucas818 (378)
7 Mar 12
Hi picture, I'm running out of ideas, and I feel that the burden is only on me. Shouldn't both party take it and go through? How bout you suggest some better ideas? I would be deeply appreciate.
• Malaysia
8 Mar 12
I think you should adjust yourself not to call her too often, may be once a week or once a month, so that you have more subject or topic to talk in one time. Don't hold too tight or keep checking on her, she would feel suffocate. Email once in a while when she least expecting and send her some small gifts to surprise her. Also, fly yourself over to meet her would be even great.
• Malaysia
8 Mar 12
I think you should adjust yourself not to call her too often, may be once a week or once a month, so that you have more subject or topic to talk in one time. Don't hold too tight or keep checking on her, she would feel suffocate. Email once in a while when she least expecting and send her some small gifts to surprise her. Also, fly yourself over to meet her would be even better.
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
Talk to her, know her priorities for now. You should know where you stand in her life. If it didn't fit yours then I think its time for the two of you to end the relationship so that you'll get the time/chance to date/know other girls. Communication is very important in any relationship.
@Lucas818 (378)
1 Mar 12
Communication is very important indeed, I agree with you. Seriously, I don't know where I stand in her life, I really have to figure it out.
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
Hope you'll find out soon where you stand.
@mauve02 (133)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
Hi Lucas818! Well, being in a long distance relationship is really hard. There are many things that might happen since the two of you is far away from each other, if you know what I mean, but I hope it will not happened. My advice would be hold on tight. Just be patient. What ever the reason why your partner is working away from you is maybe for the future for both of you. Just trust your partner and keep the communication.
@Lucas818 (378)
1 Mar 12
Hello mauve, we know that long distant relationship is never easy. Thanks for your advice. I really have to be patient, and look at the bright side I guess. I just hope she could spend a little bit more of time on me, for the sake of our relationship.
• Italy
1 Mar 12
Doesn't she have breaks? Did you ask her how she deals with it? Doesn't she have free days or holidays in which you can meet up with her? Is she really that busy to not have not even the possibility to text you for a few minutes? [TEXT not calling]
@Lucas818 (378)
1 Mar 12
It is hard for us to meet, cause we're in two different country. Besides, the public holidays are totally different, so we are also facing certain difficulties to meet up.