Which is better? A young or older partner ?

Philippines
March 1, 2012 1:33am CST
I'am just curious. They say age doesnt matter in love but dont you think that maybe it matters afterall? The level of maturity a person has can help him/ her handle the relationship better? My parents have 18 years age gap, they are doing great. What do you think?
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17 responses
@Hazelrose (2186)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
For me,I prefer the older partner.My husband is 6 year older than me.and i can say that it helps a lot to make our relationship stronger. We've been married for almost 35 years.He knows better than me,and he can handle what ever problems we've encountered.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
1 Mar 12
Felt really nice to read that you guys have had a long and happy marriage.Best of luck for the rest of your lives together!
@ekooke (28)
25 Mar 12
according to me a woman has to have the older patner in order to balance their maturity, because mostly a man gets the maturity slower than a woman. in the other hand, a man must look for a younger patner.
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
i think when it really comes to love age is really doesn't matter and i think it will not depend on the age of the partner, i think it will still depend on the personality of the couples. it will depend on them on how they handle a relationship and how they will keep it stable. sometimes there is also couple that so immature but they still feel happy to each other. there is also relationship that one is too matured when it comes in the way he/she think and the partner is immature but they are still happy and feel contented in there relationship.
• United States
6 Mar 12
Wow dazzledlady. I have had gaps before up and down, up to 12 years, but 18 don't know about that. It takes certain people to be able to handle that. If that's what they like it's cool. And you know really it depends on what a person has been through in their life that has given them wisdom and maturity OR ignorance and immaturity, whatever is needed in one's relationship to make it work. We have all different kinds of people. That's why God made vanilla and chocolate so I say to each his own. I mean only 40% of marriages of people at close ages work out anyway, so what the heck!
@dodo19 (28558)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
6 Mar 12
I think that it depends on the person. We all have our own preferences. I personally prefer being with someone who is older, but that's just my preference. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be with people, who's younger. The age shouldn't really matter, in my opinion. Love is really the important thing, in my view.
@Metatronik (5899)
• Pasay, Philippines
2 Mar 12
I just realize that maturity is not always depending according to the age but it depends on how other people handle it. I mean there are a lot of old man who has lame mentality and they can't be matured enough in understanding the point of other matters. In my case if I have to choose then this is just me that I have been thinking about or realize. If I could still have the chance to meet the standards that I ever wanted of course I am going to choose the younger partner. In physical sense I dream to have a handsome and hot guy that they can be young looking of course at least I will be the first one who will look old lady while I am still with a handsome and a hot guy that his physical beauty will still inspire me. Aside from that at least whenever I get old he can still manage to take care of me as long as both of us have been taking care of our health. In maturity sense as long as I was able to meet the right guy who has good sense of good moral and right conduct, respect, decency, trustworthy, honesty and other moral values then I could consider that as matured enough in understanding everything. For sure he can also value me as a woman then we can do great as well. I don't like old man because I feel like I am having affair with my grandfather or father and yet I feel like he is the dirty old man. But of course it doesn't apply at all it is also depends. I just don't like sleeping beside the old man wherein I could feel that everything is not fresh anymore.
@vikasbi (12)
• India
2 Mar 12
yes the age matters a lot kindly marry a younger than u guy/girl.the maturitym also matters.
• China
2 Mar 12
no matter in love ,if you love, everything is ok
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
Hi, i don't know which is better..Just they are different in age gap and also maturity. There are young partner that is matured in thinking,and there are partner that is act like a young boy or woman. It depends on the both partner if they are agreeing,or understand each other.No matter how old or young.
@succeednow (1638)
• Singapore
1 Mar 12
Hi dazzledlady, I think it depends on their race and culture. For example for Chinese people they would prefer to have an older husband. However, to me the age difference does not matter much as long as they are compatible and love and care for each other very much. Have a good day.
@jaiho2009 (39034)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
I agree that age doesn't matter when it comes to love. Because there are older people by age who are immature than the younger ones. So,age doesn't matter really when it comes to relationship. That depends on each situation- how two person work for the best to make their relationship last. Maybe for some relationship, age does matter, and for others...age is never a matter at all.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
1 Mar 12
My parents have only an age difference of two years but their marriage is rock solid.I think age has nothing to do with the stability of a relationship.Rather it depends on many factors like understanding,loyalty,commitment etc.If these are there in a relationship then it will last or else if the natures of the two persons staying together is antithetical and they refuse to compromise then they will experience trouble with their relationship.Trust,faith,loyalty-all these are very important in building a lasting relationship more than the age difference.However this is only my opinion.
1 Mar 12
oh, there is a saying that prevails in the place i live, the husband had better be 3 older than the wife is in a perfect marriage.
@arjunm (439)
• India
1 Mar 12
I think same age is just boring and problematic.. It creates so many problem but too much older is not good.. Five to six years gaping is preferable.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
1 Mar 12
To me it's the one I can have fun with and who understands me or at least tries to understand me and who is willing to take care of me, without complaining whole time about all his little pains. I am married to a younger man. Age difference is not a problem at all. Why should I take care of an old complaining guy. If I want to be a nurse I will do that job and I already have plenty of children to take care of too.
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
no one is better according to age. it depends on the chemistry of two people. one has to complement the other. age is somehow related with maturity, but actually it is about experiences and gaining insights and lessons from those experiences. i hear stories of couples who have huge age gap and they are fine. and many of course are of the same age, and they too are fine. of course, there are exceptions, but these are few exceptions.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
1 Mar 12
I don't think age matters at all so long as the people involved meet each other in other areas. Age is a state of mind, there are old young people and young old people, its all in the mind.