long distance relationship works?

March 1, 2012 11:33am CST
me and my girlfriend were been miles away for few months.. we often had communicated tru internet.. im always grieving for her presence and been wanting to be with her side always.. im afraid that she cant wait for that long time for us to be together again. im afraid to lost her. my fellow mylotters, what can u advise for me for this relationship to long last??please help.
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21 responses
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Mar 12
I think long distance can work if your open and honest with each other. Communication is a big key to any relationship, long distance or not! Always talk with each other. My husband and I when we were far apart from each other would talk on the phone and send each other videos through our phones. This way when we couldn't talk (when he was working) we could still watch the videos and feel close... All hope is not lost for you. If its meant to be it will work no matter what! =)
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 12
@joesa : you are not God and you did not know that your current girlfriend is your wife someday
1 Mar 12
thank you lov, i'll do what you say. my girl is my life.. she is my everything.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 Mar 12
Keep in contact with her and let her know how much you care about her. Send her little gifts and it will remind her that even though you are far apart you still care about are. I hope that things work out between the two of you.
1 Mar 12
thanks dominiq, i'll do what you said. she is my everything bro.
• United States
1 Mar 12
I'm glad that you are going to. And glad to hear that she means so much to you. I hope that everything works out for the best in your relationship with her. We have to make time for those we care about.
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
2 Mar 12
hi joesa long, do not worry about your long distance relationship, if it is written in your life surely it will workout , if not nothing to be done, i have not expected a girl enter in my life(my dream girl) but last year she enter in my life,that is my second innings of my life, so leave it to fate and luck,have a nice day
• India
2 Mar 12
You are right friend. I also agree with you. It's true luck is favour in every thing in our life.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
6 Mar 12
There is a programme in our country and there are many people go to blind date,therefore they cant' avoid long distance relationships.But anyway,if you two are meant to be,i believe that it will gonna be work.
@jenn88 (57)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
i dare say i hate LDR, long distance relationship, but since u are in that predicament n cant afford to lose her.. then i tell u this.. COMMUNICATION is the only way to make it last... really make it last... and also honesty n stffs. but for me communication is all there is to it., not unless u go to where she is now,. that better than internet.. :D goodluck :D
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
1 Mar 12
why do you really hate long distance relationship?? any bad story about it for you??
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
All you have to do is to trust her...if you really love her,trust her with all your heart...and if happen that she find someone to love,let her go.you really love her,right?so thats that mean that you want her to be happy...im not saying that let go of your feelings to someone is easy. i experienced already the heartaches two days ago,long distance relationship...deep inside me,i still crazy inlove with him but i can feel that he doesnt love me anymore even if he didnt told me that himself...do what makes your heart says.. question:are turkish men cant break any rule about their religion?
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
2 Mar 12
first you need to trust each other and always have communication. be honest with what you feel and the other way around. both of you should work for your relationship because if one of you give up, this might the end of your relationship. long distance relationship is not that easy. imagine how hard when you are already together everyday, then what being miles away. but then again, if you are meant for each other then you will end up together. always pray to God and keep Him in the middle of your relationship. God bless you.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
2 Mar 12
I haven't experience that though I am also afraid by now especially if the petition of my boyfriend will work someday. But then the only thing I can do is to trust him and I know he will never let go his love for me. I think you should do that as well that you must trust your partner.
@06MLam (620)
2 Mar 12
To what I know, long distance relationship usually doesn't work. Usually, even the couple promise each other that they will keep on loving one another, they end up breaking up because they have too different experience and therefore way of thinking would have changed while they are seperate. Hence, the gap between the two increases. Thus, if a pair is going to be seperated in two places, their relationship usually break up in the end. However, I do know couple who can keep their relationship while they are apart from one another. This is my teacher. He is a British while his wife is a Chinese. They have been working in UK and HK seperately for a long time before but they are still keeping their relationship very well. And they are now seperated due to the same reason again! Therefore, it is not impossible but the chance for this to happen is really very small. Good luck!
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
its better if you always have communications, that's the best for a long distance relationship..there's a cp or a landline to communicate with each other..there's no reason for the two of you..that's the only i can advice you..
• India
2 Mar 12
I think that though your girl friend was stay a long distance you meet him towards in a week. Then your problem will solved. Then you trust your girl friend. If you trust your girl friend then you loved you also. I think love is a trust.
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
I'm in this case. My boyfriend and me been in this long distance relationshp for a year, till now. We believe that someday we can be together. Sometimes he doubt on me, and me sometimes as well. But we always communicate what we feeling each other. He make me sure that I'm the one, and I also do the same. We are arranging to meet for the next few months and also have plan to get married soon. I think you need to share what you feeling with you GF. Make her believe that it won't be long till the time you both together again.
2 Mar 12
hey dude, u r a lucky man to have somebody to miss a lot... always b in touch with her through any means possible,. Like as u said via internet, n also throug phone calls, sms's n all.. If possible try to send her greetings cards by post.. She would love to recieve that.. Take care..:-)
2 Mar 12
as long as you love each other miles doesn't matter for there is no far for two hearts beating as one.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
what is the reason why you are separated? if it is because of studies, then both of you have time to see each other during school breaks. if it is because of work, then one has to understand the latter's situation. it is quite selfish to always have your loved one by one's side. one has to soar and find new height for her/his life and career.
• Philippines
1 Mar 12
Long distance relationship is always hard. This measures how the two sides trust each other even if they are far away. Also, it also measures how each side maintains to be loyal despite their distance. Communication and trust is the key. Plus with the deep and sincere love, the relationship will be fine, I think.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
I think communication is the most essential part in long distance relationship. And of course you must put your trust on each other. I hope your anxiety of losing your girl don't make you possessive. Because as I know, girls don't like guys who are too possessive..
@VRamone (325)
• Brazil
1 Mar 12
hi there pal,if she loves you really,u don´t need to fear much. Most important thing is to keep in contact,by internet,by cell phone,webcam... i marry a girl thanks to long distance relationship,i´m from brazil and she´s from poland,we met each other by net,and we started talking often until we decide to be together.Now she´s my wife and live here in Brazil with me.
• Canada
1 Mar 12
I feel that long distance relationships can definitely work. The key to success for these relationships is being honest with other and communicating and staying in touch with each other. You both should take out time to talk to each other regularly by telephone or through skype, etc. You need to show your gf that you care for her and love her and that the distance between you both is only temporary and will not last long. You can also try and send small gifts and flowers once in a while to show you remember about her and care for her...
• China
2 Mar 12
i hope you can still around you girlfriend,because everything will be change