Woman's measurements.

@MissPiggy (1751)
Indonesia
March 2, 2012 11:28am CST
I read this this somewhere and I liked it. "A woman is often measured by the things she cannot control. She is measured by the way her body curves or doesn't curve. By where she is flat or straight or round. She is measured by 36-24-36 and inches and ages and numbers. By all the outside thing that don't ever add up to who she is on the inside. And so if a woman is to be measured, let her be measured by the thing she can control, by who she is and who she is trying to become. Because as every woman knows, measurements are only statistic and STATISTIC LIE!" It's supposed to be a funny post but it's true somehow. How funny that woman would have a hard time when she's too fat, too skinny, too short, too tall, too smart, too stupid, too successful, and so on and so forth. And sometimes men set the bar: those measurements. So if this woman doesn't fit the measurements, then she won't be put in a priority. To me, there is something so much more important than outside measurements, and it's called "attitude". But, sad to say, why is no one aware of this? :(
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12 responses
• Mexico
3 Mar 12
Hi Miss Piggy: I agree with this statement but I have to add that it also happens with boys. Of course not so often but some silly girls judge the guys around them for their physical appearance and they even avoid someone for being unattractive. In my case, beauty is important but not that much. I prefer to evaluate someone for her conversation, her intelligence, her ambitions, what she wants to do, etc. I mean, I don't want to date a super model with no brain. Have a nice day. ALVARO
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@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
Hi, Alvaro. I also measure a man after I have the conversation. To me, no matter how handsome a man is, if he doesn't have enough brain, I would lose the interest. But yes, you are right. Some of my friends then think that I require too much. If there's a handsome guy passing by, they will automatically try to attract him. I'm also interested to see such man, I must say. But I somehow I know that he won't look at me. Lol. It's not easy, you know, even just to find a man (the ugly one) who really loves a fat woman no matter how smart she is. That's a fact. Have a nice day.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
30 Jul 12
I have to admit that if there's a cute guy passing by, I would automatically take a glance at him. But if I get the chance of talking to him and yet he doesn't seem to interesting, than I would pass. Brain is still on top of the list along with the character. Too bad there are not many people who have this package. Not even me...
@stanley777 (7176)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
I guess some of us are really attracted to physical appearance,vital statistics and beauty if we see one. It's the first thing that comes into our mind, either we envy her for having the good looks or appreciate her for having such. Some men will be proud to have them as their partner or treat them as some kind of trophy when they win their hearts. Her character comes second. For me, I don't gauge a woman by their measurements. If I like a gal, I don't care if she is fat, skinny or whatever what matters is her character.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
Wow, that's cool. But really? Have you ever had the experience of having a fat girlfriend whom you really loved?
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
I think I have but not too fat though. I can say, she's a bit chubby and I like her the way she is. But sad to say it didn't end the way we have planned it.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 12
Well, at least you have seen her best quality. :) Anyway, I'm sorry it didn't work out.
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
sometimes man can`t understand woman why?? i dont know too
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
The same thing happens to women. We often have this difficulties in understanding men. :P
@adhyz82 (36289)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
thats right Miss God had planned woman and man for understanding each other so they must takes time for understanding.. man must understand woman and woman must understand man..
@rhodzptc (1319)
• Philippines
29 Jun 12
When a woman is moody to understand her you need to make her feel she's important, show you care and then start a conversation. Everybody's number one concerned is themselves now it you want to understand your woman then you talk most about her than you.
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
4 Mar 12
Women are aware its the men that trys to measure us this way and its sad they only look at the outside not what is within
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
Soooooo agree...!! Moreover when the woman is fat and not so pretty. :(
@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
7 Mar 12
I have known ladys that fit that description and they are beautiful inside Men just dont look over skin deep ashame to they miss out on some wonderful women
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
8 Mar 12
I totally agree. Men should "wake up".
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
2 Mar 12
men do set the rules.. although they lie and say the inside counts, they love to have smart wife to have great converstations with.. the opposite is true.. men are still somewhere in the middle ages, somehow evolution passed by them if it comes to women.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
And that reality hurts. :( I mean when they keep judging us by the look only. :(
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
14 Mar 12
not ALL men are like that. I have seen some very attractive men with women who are not so pretty And they are deeply, madly in love with them for years and years. There are shallow women also who care more about looks than what is on the inside. I think a lot of it has to do with maturity level. Seeing a person as attractive or not changes for me as I get to know the person. A person that initially "looks" so attractive can quickly look very ugly if they are not pretty on the inside. I've also met people who initial don't seem so attractive but they have such a vibrant and beautiful personality that you fall in love with them.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
15 Mar 12
True...true... I also will lose my feeling if there is a cute guy who is apparently a little bit dumb, or behaving unbelievably. And my own ex was not so handsome but he is very patient and kind. That was enough to make me fall in love with him. Lol.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
2 Mar 12
Hi MissPiggy, It's true that a lot of people measure a woman by all these things and don't pay attention to her inner beauty or lack of it. Many women of doing the same thing to men. I have to disagree though with your question at the end of this though, "why is no one aware of this?" I think many people are aware of this and don't buy into this shallow thinking. It is not uncommon to see a very attractive man with a not so pretty woman or visa versa. Clearly he saw something in her much more important and special than the physical. There is not much anyone can do to change the thinking of those who judge simply on appearances. Those that think like that are missing out on getting to know some very wonderful people...their loss.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
Hi there, Sid. :D Sorry for responding very late. I was suddenly loosing my mood to open MyLot. :( Does this happen to you too? Ok so, I agree with you about "Those that think like that are missing out on getting to know some very wonderful people...their loss." I know that so much. But somehow there are still many people out there who judge by the appearance. Ok, maybe this is only what I feel as I'm not so pretty and fat and often hear these people say that I have to lose some weights so I can get a boyfriend. I'm quite annoyed by this shallow thinking and really want to throw them my middle finger. :( Lol. I mean, come on, I have my brain. Doesn't it count? And when there's a guy who really judged me not by the look, he used my brain. :( That sucks. (Sorry for that, lol). So I think even if I don't think shallow, those men out there still do. :'(
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
7 Mar 12
Hi MissPiggy, Yes I do get in moods where I'm just not into responding here. Now for your discussion: Yes, there are men who think like that and women too. I've always been skeptical of such people. Even IF you had the perfect body and physical good looks...would you want such a person? If looks mean that much to a person then I would right off feel uncomfortable with it. If a guy made too big a deal about my looks even in a good way, it'd just be a huge red flag for me. those good looks are just too temporary so even if he thought I wa beautiful, I'd always worry about gaining a few pounds or natural aging etc. I wouldn't want to be with a person who placed too much emphasis on my looks even if he wee complimenting. I'd never get comfortable.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 12
I so agree with you. I never like someone who gives too much emphasize on the outside looks. Just like people say (and also you), it would fade someday. Me too get so much annoyed when there's a guy who requires too much on the look. No matter how difficult for me it would be to get a guy, I would let go a man like that.
• Makati, Philippines
3 Mar 12
for me i believe that size doesn't matter. i agree with you that attitude is more important than physical measurements most esp pertaining in a woman's body. positive attitude will make an individual to get a happier and more successful life.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
I agree with you so much. However, that doesn't happen in reality too much. :'( It's not easy to find a handsome man who loves a fat woman no matter how smart or well-behaved she is. :(
@SIMPLYD (75375)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
Actually, when it comes to men in their types of measurements for a woman, it all depends too on the type of man. Some men likes chubby women, some likes curvy ones when it comes to someone that they will marry, they measure what's inside the woman. Do you agree?
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
I agree so much. However, it's difficult to find a man who likes a fat woman no matter how smart she is. :) That sucks. Lol.
• United States
3 Mar 12
I know that people, most anyway, have always measured who a person is by their looks. That is why so many marriages don't work out. Statistics are very high in the divorce rate also. I hate to say it, but I always wanted a good looker, but some who I thought were gorgeous, others didn't. I think I always had to see character in someone's face. If someone just looked flawless, I usually didn't find interest in someone like that. You know the quarterback of the football team usually married the head cheerleader. You know, they could totally have different characteristics, but they knew that was how the popular people did it and that is what was always expected of them. Even, tho, after they marry they are usually miserable. Marrying for that reason just doesn't get it. I feel bad for people who are not chosen because they are the wrong size or not pretty enough. I wish it wouldn't be that way.
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
I wish too. :( I mean, apparently I don't have this sexy look or pretty face. So I have this hard time facing the reality too. Men around me always say that I have to lose some weights so I can get a boyfriend easily and then get married. But then I think, what? So people get married just because they have the look? How silly? I have brain and my attitude isn't really bad. Don't they count? They blame me of having measured a guy too high. Is it wrong if I expect a smart guy for me? I mean marriage is for a life time, right? I don't have "divorce" in my dictionary. And I am not intended to add the word there. :( Men always say they like having a conversation with me, but none of them are interested in me as more than a friend. Sad, isn't it? I also wish it wouldn't have to be that way.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
17 Sep 12
Not only women but men also cant control their measurement specially about stomach but women spread in any size. This is danger for we all women and not seen good if our body is increasing in any side.
@laken02 (3068)
• United States
8 Mar 12
i agree totaly, more people should take a look at a womans attitude as well as other stuff.. but you know, like me for instance, if im looking for a guy, i feel very strongly that i use a measure on guys as well, and if im not attracted to them i dont even read what they have to say.. that is sad on my part as well.. but i think everyone is like that, there is something about an attraction to another person that leads us to reveal the rest.. some people are not like that at all like my mom , i guess as you get older it may not matter as much.. i dont know\ but the next guy i get im gonna be very attracted to him from first sight or im not wasting my time, when i married my first husband i was on rebound and wasnever attracted to him at all sad i know.. i still dont find him attriactive i fell in love with his attitude and mainly his family..they were great, then we got divorced after 5 years he found sonmeone he worked with and took her..and i moved on and got remarried years later, the funny thing was as i was attracted to him way more then my ex, his family is so different then i was use to, nothing like the family i had left.. so i had to get use to them and im still struggling with that.. totly different type people.. but now im looking again, yep my husband wants a divirce.. so here we go again... i guess goodluck they say the 3rd time is a charm i sure hope so lol
@kristiane (112)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
Simply because attitude is unmeasurable and invisible so men with their eyes open wide and with close mind won't be able see the attitude of women. For eyes can't see the beauty of the soul.