Is marry a woman/man from online dating a big NO NO???

@TheIzers (680)
March 2, 2012 9:33pm CST
I have my friend she dated make friends with a guy online for three years and never meet each other (live in different country). And last christmast they decided to be couple. Most of our friend tell her not to marry him reason is people online lie and some friends are just ok as long as they know each other long enough. Me personally doesn't really care how they met as long as both are honest. is it really a big NO NO to marry person who met on internet?
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17 responses
• Indonesia
3 Mar 12
I beleive on it.I think its ok if they be couple from online in internet,Its happend to me too.I find my boyfriend in internet,and we live in other country.We will marry in next November.But i trust too many lie in internet but if we know each other well its not problem.Many things can be happend in internet.For me love can start somewhere.Good luck.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
3 Mar 12
yes they can do so, why not, as i self decided with a girl to merry her and insha allah God will do for me to merry her one day. what about you?
@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
wish you both luck with your partner, me myself my biggest concern is the lack of understanding in way of life/ culture since the partner live in different country
• Indonesia
3 Mar 12
don't say NO NO NO NO NO just say Yea Yea Yea Yea Yea, and we'll go go go go go, if you are ready like I'm ready. Thats what Bbruno Mars says in his song hehe. Me and my BF now celebrate our 1st year. We met in online dating and plan to get married soon. We shared evrything, we chatting sometimes with cam. He shows me when he did his laundry, or having meal. He gave me home tour by cam and it was really fun. We trust each other, sometimes we fight, sometimes there bad time when I want him for real dating not only by chatting or calling. As time goes by, I learn that may be he is the one for me. We learn how to be patient with evry limitation that we both have, learn how to trust, learn how to be loyal, and learn how to love without any reason. I wish for the best for your friend :)
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• Indonesia
6 Mar 12
aww your story same with me.i meet my boyfriend from internet too.but we in relationship around 6 months i think.We have plan to marry in November.He show me all he do in camera.We always have fun when we r chatting.i give u much much support with u and your boyfriend.hope u enjoy your day with him.nice to know we have same story.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Mar 12
hi i seen you comments about, but pleas can you tell here that who is that lucky to marry with you in November?
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Mar 12
No I don't believe so. However I do believe that you need to know them for a long time and meet them in person and be with them for a few months that way before really getting married. We do have to be careful of who we communicate with through dating sites either way.
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@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
ya sometimes thing's too good to be true right... on internet people can say anything the other ppl would like to hear
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
3 Mar 12
For me personally I wouldn't marry someone I met online if our situation was like theirs. But that is me personally. Each person has free will and make decisions based on what they think is best for them. I personally would want to know a person well before I were to marry them. I would have to live in the same area. Doesn't mean I would have to live in the same state but I wouldn't want us to leave in separate countries.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
3 Mar 12
It's possible to marry each other even if they only known each other online. It depends on how you know the person. It's just better to know them personally too. AS we know at this time now, there are many people who are good at lying. So better be careful. There are good people online too. It is up to the couple how to find out the real personality of each other.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
3 Mar 12
they should fix to meet first with eachother, but as i think they both watch each other on cam, no doubt they can marry.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Mar 12
yes friend you right to say that cam show nothing of person character.
@TheIzers (680)
4 Mar 12
ya I prefer they meet each other first than on cam because cam can show nothing of person character it only shows face, it won't b enough for me
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@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
3 Mar 12
i dont think it really matters how they met and end up married but until they meet and are together for a while actually "properly together" then no they shouldnt get married. they may find that they dont suit each other properly if they jump into getting married
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
6 Aug 12
I think that it is fine to get chatting to someone on the Internet. It is great for the two people to type messages to one another. A time will come when the twp people agree to meet each other. It can be challenging to have a long distance relationship due to the number of hours traveling. This is especially so if the couple live in two different countries. Due to visas it might not be possible for the person to stay in that country for long. The couple should not get married until they really know each other well. They should be able to spend lots of time dating and seeing if they are fully compatible.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
28 Mar 12
i think if the person you met online is a good one why not?so in many cases meeting online is not considered positive from amny people also because they imagine that online metings are starnge and so people using it are strange in reality depends from different situations and people too also because we can calculate that considering the busy life not all have enough time to spend meeting personally so amny different people so from this point of view online meeting can be ok...
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Mar 12
I married a man I met on internet, and we have been married for 3 years. My situation is a little different from your friend's situation, because my husband and I are from the same country, so it was easy for us to meet and get to know eachother in person. I don't think that it is a big no to marry someone you met on the internet, but I think it is neccesary to meet in person and get to know eachother in real life before you start thinking about marriage. Some people are very different when you meet them in real life, so it is very important to meet in real life and get to know eachother in real life. One of my friends met a man on the internet. When they had known eachother for 2 weeks they decided to move in together. I thought that was much too soon to move in together, but my friend had made up her mind, she gave up her apartment and moved to his town. Today they are married and they have been together for 10 years! Sometimes online dating is a success like in my friend's case, but unfortuneately there are also many people who get disappointed because their partner's offline personality is different from their online personality.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
5 Mar 12
Without knowing them for an extended time in real life, I would be very inclined to say no. You can say anything online that you want, and it would be among the most blatant lie possible. Granted, nothing has ever stopped people from pulling convincing acts of deception right in the real world, but it does tend to multiply tenfold right in life. You have no idea how honest people are when they are sitting behind a keyboard. Online we all wear masks to some degree. Period. We tend to all sometimes say things that we won’t say in real life. Granted, not all of these things are bad, but we don’t have the courage to say them not to offend people. Some people wear a transparent mask where you get a good sense, but some people where a pretty good mask of deception. Not to say that a person that you meet online wouldn’t be a good person but marrying them without knowing them in real life for at least a year straight has a high potential to end badly. It is much easier to coexist with some people online then in real life.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
27 Mar 12
Not really though. My co - worker met her husband online, and they met and live together ever since. They seems pretty happy, and leading a happy life together now. So, everything has an exception. I won't say all internet dating is a lie, but most of them are lie according to statistics and personal experience. Watch out, and be careful in all circumstances.
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Mar 12
My husband and I met in a chat room online. We have been married for 7 years. We were both honestly looking for love and we found each other. Theres nothing wrong with it as long as your smart and careful about it. I brought my guy friend with me to meet my husband the first time just in case. I think its a great way to meet someone, it worked for us!
@blazer2 (48)
• Nigeria
4 Mar 12
personally, i don't think i can marry someone i don't know in real life. i must have seen that person, know the said person to a greater extent, before considering been couple
@GemmaR (8517)
3 Mar 12
I don't really agree with internet dating, because I think that there are far too many people who pretend to be something they're not when they're online just because they want to meet up with somebody. However, if you met online and then you met in real life and you get on, then I think the rules change again and it should be alright to get married to them if you should choose to do so. However, you should be very careful when you're thinking about meeting up with somebody from the internet, because you can never be sure that they're the same person in real life as they are behind their computer screen.
@prinzcy (32322)
• Malaysia
3 Mar 12
Love can come from any form or medium, Internet included. You don't know where your other half would be. To be honest, you can find liars just about anywhere, doesn't need to be online. Plus, some of my friends meet their partner online. Some end up marrying their partner. So it's not a big NO NO.
@cairalyssa (1402)
• Malaysia
3 Mar 12
Why not? Arent soul mate are destiny... For some reason they must have meant to meet thru the internet.. As long as both of them can feel that they both complete each other, it doesnt matter where or how they met!