What would hurt you more?

Jacksonville, Florida
March 3, 2012 8:47pm CST
I am bringing up some depressing discussions tonight, sorry everyone! This is another sad one. Ready? I think I would rather have myself have the death sentence rather than see my loved one die in front of my eyes. We are all different though, so... What would hurt you more if you had to choose one? Seeing the love of your life getting hit by a car and dying or the doctor calling you telling you that you have cancer with 6 weeks to live?
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@ElicBxn (60440)
• United States
4 Mar 12
I'm with you. I had a very dear friend die of cancer 14 years ago, it STILL breaks my heart that it happened and I miss her.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
4 Mar 12
It hurts way too much to see a loved one die. I would never ever want that!
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@Metatronik (5899)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Mar 12
I am into having cancer with 6 weeks to live because at least I still have time to say goodbye with all people I love. Rather that seeing my love of my life being hit by an accident which indeed he wasn't able to say goodbye.
• Jacksonville, Florida
8 Mar 12
I agree with you. Having the time to say goodbye would be better and I could not handle the pain of seeing my husband die! I would much rather have the chance to say goodbye to the ones I love...
• Jacksonville, Florida
8 Mar 12
I agree with you. Having the time to say goodbye would be better and I could not handle the pain of seeing my husband die! I would much rather have the chance to say goodbye to the ones I love...
@celticeagle (115553)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Mar 12
Wow! That is pretty depressing indeed. I would rather get the phone call than have my meger family get hurt. For sure. Since I only have three family members left it would be even worse than normal to have this happen.
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Mar 12
I know... The crazy things I think about when I am bored. Lol. At least its not real though. I agree. I would not my husband or kids to die. I could not handle it.
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@celticeagle (115553)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Mar 12
And i wish them the best of health and long life.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
7 Mar 12
Like you, I;d rather give up my life than seeing someone I love die :( And I'd rather have cancer myself than seeing the one I love die like that. I would rather be in their places and I seriously mean this. I mean life without them would be 10 times more miserable i know :(
• Jacksonville, Florida
6 Aug 12
Yeah most definitely. Your right, being without the ones we love would not be worth living anyway.
@AmbiePam (46923)
• United States
5 Mar 12
I'd rather be the one to die than see the one I love die before my eyes. I'll take the 6 weeks left to live over watching the love of my life get hit by a car.
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Mar 12
I absolutely agree with you. I could not handle seeing that happen. Good thing it was just a silly question of mine and won't really happen...
• Romania
4 Mar 12
I personally think that i can handle myself if a doctor tell me that i got some desease that will kill me in a short time. But i will never get over a similar thing to happen to my girl, she`s so fragile and don`t deserve to get trough such pain, i rather die than seeing her dieng next to me
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Mar 12
I agree with you. I would rather go than have something happen to my husband. Thank goodness this was a fake question and is not happening...
@jillhill (37399)
• United States
4 Mar 12
I don't have to worry about that....I don't have the love of my life yet.....60 and still waiting but if I did I would rather get the bad news then lose someone I love.
• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Mar 12
I'm sorry Jill. You still have time to find him, if you want to of course. I agree I do not want to lose my husband ever but especially not like that! Good thing this is not the case for us...
@zaahro (749)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 12
Hii lovingmybabies... aww it's hard to choose. I don't like them, but if I have to choose one I'd take the last one. Yeah, I can't stand seeing my love diying in front of me but more bad if I can't see them for the last time.
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 12
I don't lie the options either, lol. Thank goodness its not real! I would rather die than see my husband die.
@thesids (22448)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Mar 12
Hi LovingMyBabies Why only seeing the love of my life getting hit and dying... I cannot stand seeing anyone die. I have seen many die and every time I have wept and shed tears. The pain to see anyone die is just not going to die easily. On the other hand... I have been living with illness since 2005(it was then when it was diagnosed, though I have been with it since 2000). Docs have told me and also I read on the Internet that one fine day, this illness is surely going to be cancerous and I will die of cancer. So I have kind of groomed myself for the day when this news gets broken to me. Made my life somewhat easier. So it is something that I am prepared. Unfortunately the deaths that we get to see many a times we arent prepared for those and this unpreparedness makes us feel more insecure, sick and miserable.
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 12
I hate seeing anyone die too. Its horrible! I am so sorry that you have an illness. =( I'm sorry that it will turn into cancer too. Its good that you have prepared for it the best you can. Being unprepared is a lot harder and does make things more difficult.
@Vvance (280)
• United States
4 Mar 12
I would prefer myself dying if a loved one had to die slowly. It always depends on the person, LovingMyBabies. But, your love may be as sad as you if you saw them getting hit by a car. But, I see no reason visualising such situations. Try to avoid this and instead, enjoy every moment with your love. Live life to the full and never look back! Hope this helps :)
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 12
It was just a question to get people thinking. I don't always think this way. Lol. I would prefer losing my life rather than seeing my husband die...
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
probably seeing the love of my life hit by a car and dying. That love of y life is the only treasure i have here on earth.
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 12
That would hurt me a lot more too! =(
@almond24 (1251)
• Hungary
4 Mar 12
It would be very hard to choose, if possible. Nothing can be more shocking than losing a loved one to an accident... even if they suffer less, it's an unbelievable pain. Dieing from cancer is very painful and constant suffering... I didn't lose anyone to it, but saw someone dieing from it, and it's terrible to watch. On the other hand, if it was me who was dieing, I know I would feel awful if my loved ones avoided me. It's very tough.
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 12
I agree its a hard decision that hopefully none of us will have to make. Cancer is terrible. Its a horrible disease to watch someone lose their life to. It is tough and hopefully none of us will experience it...
@JDaw2006 (428)
• United States
4 Mar 12
Im not real sure what i would rather have. I have watched family die slowly from cancer and just lay there and suffer till the end and that hurt me really bad. I have never had to see any loved ones getting hit or hurt anyother way thank the lord. I would have to say that i would rather die then to see a loved one get hit by a car and die i would much rather take there pain away along with there place i hate seeing people suffer!
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 12
I have watched loved ones die from cancer too and its horrible. The only thing that makes it a little easier is you get the chance to say goodbye. I would rather the same. I hate watching people suffer too. =(
@dazzledlady (1624)
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
True what a very sad thought to end the day. Anyways for me i think it would bring me more pain seeing my love one clinging for hid/her life. Accidents for me is never a good thing to die. Because you will not be ready to leave your love ones and so are they. Dying of cancer is much more tolerable because it will give you and your family to grieve together.
@Hazelrose (2186)
• Philippines
4 Mar 12
Sorry to hear that,I can really feel that you are depressed.I cant imagine that kind of situation .It is so heavy for our heart if its happen.We need to be strong and pray to God to survive.Prayers is best way to ease the pain.
• Jacksonville, Florida
4 Mar 12
I am actually not depressed lol. I just think a lot, probably too much. These are just hypothetical questions that I thought of so I decided to ask here... Nothing more than that! I am ok and I do pray multiple times a day. =)
@inertia4 (27001)
• United States
13 Mar 12
Both would hurt deeply. And they both court hurt you and your loved one as well. It would be a lose lose situation. There would be no winners.
• Canada
4 Mar 12
That's hard to answer as I would want my love to be here as long as they could but if your given so long to live what kind of life are you really having knowing that your days are limited and quite possibly full of pain. On the other hand if it was a car accident and the injuries were life threatening and no chance of leading a normal life, free of pain then I would want them to go quickly without any pain.