Why is it so hard to get this people to join in with the fun here?

@choybel (5059)
Philippines
March 5, 2012 12:11am CST
I know everybody has their own standards and definition of fun, and I know I can't force anybody to enjoy something they don't but I think that maybe if they just tried for a while they'll see what they have been missing. Okay, now let me be clearer here. So, I have a brother who stays most of the time with his girlfriend. Now I have been trying to get them under my referral here in Mylot explaining to them how easy it is to join and earn here and how much fun I have had. Maybe I'm not really convincing but they know for sure that I have earned because I have shown them my paypal account. They don't doubt that part. It just seems to me that they aren't really interested at all. Now, the thing is, they are always online doing nothing specifically important and knowing my brother, I'm sure he will find this place as quite something. I also don't see it a problem for his girlfriend, and I know that both of them could use the extra cash they could make here, plus I'm sure this isn't far from what they usually like to do online, but they just wouldn't. I don't know how else I'll convince them but I'm determined to get them in so I'll still give it more tries. It would be fun to get into discussions with them, not to mention the extra I'll get when they get active. Hehe! So, anyway, have you ever tried convincing somebody from your family, a relative perhaps, to join under your referral here in Mylot? If so, was it easy? Are they enjoying it here? Are you?
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@SIMPLYD (74802)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Well, not everybody my friend share the same interests. In addition, they don't have the time to be here because they have their full time jobs to attend to first. But to be honest, i have my full time job and quite busy with it. But in my spare time i would still find myself dropping here to participate. I find it nice that i am able to express my thoughts here, like what i am doing now.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Your thoughts are very much appreciated. Though it is true that they might not share the same interest as us here, I still believe it will not be that difficult to get them indulged here. If people with full time jobs such as you can make time here, then those that have so much free time should probably spend some of it here.
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@Hatley (157510)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Mar 12
hi choybel I am 85 and the mornings being really cold I cheated and went back to bed thus only mylotting from noon on the rest of the day and still made 95 cents. some days I can make one fifty an also I have fun and enjoy responding to my friends and keeping up with them. Its hard for me to describe what mylot means to me, I am stuck here in a tiresome retirement c enter. I get lonely as I was used to being my own person in my own bedroom in the apt I shared with my adult son, My computer is my lifeline and mylot lets me make money while also making and enjoying friendships from all over the world.I feel part of the outside world again.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Hello Hatley, It's been so long since I have made an amount greater than 50 cents for a day. I hardly participate these past few weeks but I think I'm getting back on track slowly. I can't remember if I ever did reach a dollar earning a day here, because I am just amazed to find out that you could do that almost on an average. Earning that much and having fun at the same time is hitting the jackpot. I am glad that you still find time to share with us your thoughts and I very much appreciate your opinion.
@marguicha (80234)
• Chile
5 Mar 12
Not all people like to do the same things. My grandchildren do lots of chatting through the computer but would not be interested in mylot. As for money, maybe they have other ways of earning.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
I am pretty sure my brother will find it enjoyable here, if only I could get him to start being here and see it for himself and I'm really sure he could use the earning here. I could be wrong, but I guess it's too early to give up. The same could also happen to your grandchildren. I mean, if they tried it for a little while then maybe they could find a spot here, right? Don't you think so?
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@marguicha (80234)
• Chile
6 Mar 12
Mylot would be very difficult for my grandchildren as English is not their native language. I do hope that you can get your brother to start being a member here though, if he does not have language problems.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
I have seen people in discussions here who had English sentences that barely made sense but have greatly improved over time. I think this place could be a good practice and development area for them in the English language department. Our second language has been English since we have started learning to talk so I believe my brother will do okay.
@jkct02 (2860)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 12
Sometimes it takes time for someone to find out what is good in myLot. When I first signed up, I just thought that myLot was just another site to make a bit of money online. I didn't really pay attention and I thought all members here were just posting for money - so whatever they posted were just commercially-made with no readable values. Until one day when I was bored and I signed in myLot to take a real look. And from that day on, I became mylotted :) Using my own experience, I will usually get my referrals to sign up first and make them active later. I will email some interesting topics/discussions to my referrals that I know he/she can relate to. Like sending a discussion on photo-taking technique to a referral who likes using camera. Let them be hooked naturally with some background assistance from you. Don't push them too hard to create resistance.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Wow, I really like your suggestion. Thank you for this. I might try this strategy out and see if it would work. I think it will. Very wise move, I should say. I think I just know what topics I could use to lure my brother in. Thank you very much for this. I'm running the scheme in my mind right now.
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@utopia96 (641)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 12
you are right,everyone have other standart about fun. In my opinion.there are too many fun websites out there without much rules and guidlines.so i am here because I was satisfied and out of websites aimed at fun. I am really not here to enjoy and fun again,but i am here to earn money.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Hi. Thank you for sharing your opinion on this matter. I do wish that you get to earn more and stay satisfied as member in this site. Good luck and more power!
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• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 12
I understand your frustration. I have gotten a few people to join but they do not stay active for long. Its annoying. I just want to scream at them give it a chance!! Lol. My sister did join (bnsp09) and shes been here for a little while but at the time I didn't know about referrals so she just went to mylot.com and signed up, but not under me. =( I am having a hard time getting others to join though like you.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Oh, that's sad. Could have been a good help, having your sister signed up under you. Why won't they just give it a chance, right? Anyway, I'm still up for the challenge and I will get my brother to sign up under me.
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@minx267 (11217)
• Hartford, Connecticut
5 Mar 12
I do have friends and family I try to convince to join me under other things... they too Know I'm making (pretty good) money, and they too don't really have the much money of their own and also waste their time on the computer doing so much useless stuff.. that I wonder why they wont try to help themselves.. I have got a few to sign up for different things but they don't usually stick it out.. So far the only thing one of my friends (no I take that back actually 3 of my friends and coworkers) has stuck with is Superpoints.. A few have joined me in Zazzling and mylot and other things.. but they never stick with it. I almost don't try anymore.. if they don't want to earn extra money.. oh well, more for me. :)
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Well, like you, I did get a few of my friends to sign up in here under me but they too didn't stay long. There was one who I thought was getting the hang of it but eventually lost interest anyway. In this case, I still will try to get my brother in because I'm really sure he will like it here.
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@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
5 Mar 12
I don't even try people to join. I know most of them spend (waste) a lot of time on the internet by doing nothing at all, being bored or addicted. But I also know most of them are not interested in educating themselves, learn from others or share some advice/experiences/tips. Way to busy with ... themselves.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
You are probably right. I think the problem is, they are just too busy with...themselves. Still, I'll find ways to make my brother join.
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• Philippines
5 Mar 12
I have never tried asking any of my family. I think that to want to get involved here, you have the desire to write-- something my family isn't really keen on or interested doing. And to be quite honest, if I can't get them to read my own writing, I don't see how they'd be interested in reading others. I've written short stories and some people I don't actually know have commented, but I get none from my family. I think it's just not their cup of tea.
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@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
I have a sister who is a journalist in a popular newspaper in this country, the Philippine Daily Inquirer, and even she doesn't seem interested. I also have a friend who loves to blog and spend so much time in that tumblr thing, I'm not sure what it is, but I also can't get her to join. My brother also loves reading and joining in forums. He likes to interact online, too. I think I just lack the skills in persuasion although I am sure I was good at persuading people, now I am doubting that. Anyway, maybe you are right, maybe it's just not their brand of drink, or as you say, their cup of tea. Still, it's too early to give up. I will give it another try or maybe more tries until they get in.
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@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
5 Mar 12
I'd love it if Mum joined MyLot as I know everyone would love her on here BUT she doesn't even have a computer. I'm constantly nagging her to buy one but it's falling on deaf ears at the moment..and she's not deaf lol. Good luck with trying to get your brother and girlfriend joining MyLot. I take it they know it's free, right?
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
I already told them, my brother and his girlfriend so many things about this site. I even showed them proof that I was earning. They know it's free. I have come up with an idea from a suggestion of a responder in this same discussion, and I think I'm going to push that idea through and see if it succeeds. There's a great chance of it succeeding, I just hope I could find discussions that could interests them both. Well, if you think your mom would be a great addition to this site, then I say you should really persuade her into buying that computer and signing up here.
@Janey1966 (24127)
• Carlisle, England
5 Mar 12
Next time I see her I'll give it a go. My MIL only uses the laptop to play games..i.e. solitaire that's pre-installed in the machine. She doesn't even go on the internet! Mind you, the grandson in there so I bet he uses it the most.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
5 Mar 12
Cool! And if she does join, kindly introduce us to her. I would be happy to welcome her.
• India
6 Mar 12
I am trying to refer my Sister to joined here. But she didn't. Also i try to my Friends but they refused that because of small penny here. But i enjoy always stays here. Here we can learn we don't know about some queries and we can get Good Answers from other members for queries we need answers. It's always difficult if it's small penny but peoples doing such thinks in facebook and other Social networking sites. Why they don't like here i didn't understand the reason for this.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
It seems that it really is not easy to let people see what we see in here unless they try it for themselves. It was just like Facebook and other social networking site for me, I never wanted to join them because I thought they were useless, but once I tried it became clear to me why most got hooked to those sites. I, however only understood them but is not one of them. I spend some time in Facebook only to see if there are important business things that are posted as updates.
• United States
6 Mar 12
It seems to me that they seem to doubt that Mylot is a real place to share ideas and make money too. Maybe they don’t want to put out the effort to get to know people and to earn money. I have one referral now that is active some days…my other referrals never did anything much at all.
@aghiuta (526)
• Canada
13 Mar 12
I know how you feel! many times I tried to get family and friends to join different sites as referrals,or just for fun,and I never succeeded.Some people do not want to try anything new,or are not interested.I still wonder ,what am I doing wrong,when I hear about people having hundreds of referrals.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
They just don't share the same interest. There are ways to get other people in to it. I think we just have to work harder. People who had multiple referrals didn't come by them with luck, surely. They did hard work and so it paid off.
@NailTech (6892)
• United States
6 Mar 12
I gave up trying cause no one wants to join in these things with me, my friends don't either. I have to explain to them even if you just get $10. a month at least it's something, go buy a package of steak with the money or something, hehehe. Oh well, you can't force anything you want on anyone and in this case I don't anymore. Its not worth it.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
I wouldn't bother if it was just somebody else but I am really looking forward to this because I know that he will find this place a good one and that I will feel sorry if he doesn't get the chance to at least give it a try.
• United States
6 Mar 12
I’ve tried to get family and friends to join too, and I think they don’t believe that they will really earn here. They might think of it as a scam. One of my young friends I used to go to church with was hurting for money… I told her about mylot and she looked at me like I was trying to scam her… and she felt that I only wanted to make money off her efforts, when that isn’t how it works. She makes money on her efforts and I make money on my efforts, and I get a bonus for her being a referral, but it doesn’t take anything away from her. I do have a referral, but she asked me for it. I had a nephew who gave up also… and my daughter gave up too… it’s just really hard to convince people they can make some good spending money here if they participate and make quality discussions that other people will want to respond to.. because when they respond you can comment back and that is where you make your money… but no one listens.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
That's probably also one reason why they don't bother to join, because they think it is a scam. I have talked to my brother again just a while ago but I still think that I didn't catch his interest yet. I'm not going to give up easy on this.
@Metatronik (5899)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Mar 12
So far I've already did that as well though that is not that easy. But then there are times that some people are not interested so I don't force them.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
It's really not easy to get people to be interested in joining up here, and it's probably useless to force them. Thank you for sharing.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
6 Mar 12
Heyya choybel! When I first came here I played around with the idea of referring people I knew here. I talked about this site and how much fun I had here and actually invited a few people to come. No one I knew seemed one bit interested nor took the initiative to even ask for a link. I just gave up. I am not one to try and force things or be repetitive so if they didn't inquire any...I didn't ask anymore..LOL. I have 0 referrals.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
Hey there Jen. Referring seemed like a very good idea until I found out just how hard it was. Well, i am not one to force people as well, but this case is different as it is my brother who I want to get to sign up here, of course under me. I'm determined to get him to join here because I just know that this is his kind of place, he just doesn't know it yet. I have had other friends under my referrals but none lasted. Maybe I'll try to get them interested again, as well. Thank you for your contribution to this discussion!
• United States
6 Mar 12
i think if they got paid more for the responses you could talk them into it people are hooked on face book where everyone lies and pretends to be what their not no one wants to use their brains to think any more
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
That's actually what I think, too. If people are able to spend so much time posting things in Facebook, they would be better doing that sort of thing here. It's just hard to let them realize how much they are missing out.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
i couldn't get any referral either. It's either they are skeptic about it or they are not into replying and discussing and posting at all which is sad. Hubby knows they pay and i tried inviting him here but he is not just one who do these stuff..lol.
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
I have found a good way to invite people and get them to be interested here. It was of a responder and I really think that his method could work for me as well. May be you should try it, too.
• Canada
5 Mar 12
Not all people like to do the same thing, maybe they just aren't interested in making money in this way. I have not tried to convince anyone from my friends and family to join mylot as I just started mylot a few days ago myself. I haven't tried to ask my family to join since I know this is not their type of thing and they would not like to do it even if they will make some money on it. My sibling would rather just play and enjoy his games rather than do something productive but I don't force him to join because I know that he enjoys the games in his free time. So, I think that just let your brother and his gf be and if they want to join they will. You can't force them to join and you can just inform them about it as you have already done...
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
I appreciate your opinion, but I must apologize because I know I will not give up yet on trying to convince and/or persuade my brother and his girlfriend to join here. I just believe that this is a place he will like as well. Anyway, it would probably do you also good to invite some friends over under your referral. You could share ideas here and earn for it at the same time, plus you get the extra referral earning.