" Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are."Is it true?

@eljayo (1107)
Philippines
March 6, 2012 8:50am CST
Hi guys! I believe we have close friends. Of course we need them for support. However are we careful whom we have friends with? Do we go with them because they are cool,popular or we find comfort in their company? There is a saying that says "Tell me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are". Maybe this saying is somewhat true but not generally. This saying jives with another saying that says "Birds with the same feather flock together". I think this is true for most people because we go with people whom we can relate with.On the other hand, in a circle of friends,each has different personality but each has something in common so that they can easily understand and relate with each other.Well what do you think?
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@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
I think that's not generally true as well. I mean, I make friends with anyone. So someone won't be able to only judge me by this variety of friends I have. But if they know who my closest friend is, then they might be able to tell what kind of person I am. So I think I'm with you in your point of view. :)
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@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
Hi! Thank you ! I was really referring to your set of close friends. By the I can't help but smile because my boyfriend and I call each other mr. and ms. Piggy. heheh.:))
@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
9 Mar 12
Really? :)) That's awesome! Lol! Now you know another Miss Piggy! :D
@stringer321 (2851)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
6 Mar 12
I think that saying is right but it is complex to figure out who is the person : The human personality is a very complex thing. For example , my friends are nice and polite and don't think they are better than anyone else. I am also like them. But , I also has other parts in my personality that not all of them has : I like dancing , zumba , mylotting and not all of them like dancing or mylotting or zumba. Like you said , sometimes the people one hangs out with are not necessarily the people that are similar to him. I always try to be friendly with people around me even if we don't have common things and still we can talk about many things.
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@dharanil (319)
• India
6 Mar 12
No this quote doesn't mean what you said.. this quote just relates character of your's and your friend's but not your skills, likes, etc.... IMO this quote will suit to you and your very close friend.
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
Hi! This saying as I said is true but not generally. It does not apply to everybody. I agree with you in a way but most of the time we want to be in their company because we can relate to them and that means there is a link in your personality to them. I think it only applies to those who are most close to you and not to acquaintances.
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
This saying can be true to some extent. My friends like a certain genre of music that I also like. That makes me somewhat like them as a whole. Although, people can never really tell who you are by knowing who your friends are. I'm sure your friends have different characteristics and attitudes compared to yours. That makes us an individual.
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@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
Hi! I agree with you. Although we have different personalities, still friends become friends and they jive and understand each other.
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
There's truth to this saying and it just usually means that we prefer to be friends with people we are commonly in sync with. However, I can always attest to it all the same, as a person should never be defined by association. Each has their own qualities. I think that this saying applies mostly to your interests and what you enjoy doing. If you find someone who shares the same interests, your tendency is to be with those people, and you eventually become friends. I have a diverse groups of friends, depending on where I am. When I am at work, it's a completely different set of friends I have compared to those that I have when I am at home. Different in terms of qualities. So if it is indeed true, how would you define me? I, however, have a derivation of this saying-- "Tell me what songs and movies you like and I'll tell you who you are." I'm not saying that it is the correct approach, but it's just how I usually define people, of course only for personal reference. Nothing personal.
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@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
Hi! I agree with you in a way. We all have different personalities.You may have a point but as I said the saying does not apply to everybody.
@Cranos (274)
• Belgium
7 Mar 12
It's true that we need some common ground, but it doesn't have to be a lot. For some friends the only we have in common is that we used to be in class together and we like going out. Still we have a lot of fun and are in contact even though we got out of high school 3 years ago. Also depending on in which group of friends I am, I talk about different things so you would always only get part of the story.
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• Canada
6 Mar 12
I think that having things in common is helpful, but not necessary. Another saying many people believe is that opposites attract. I think that you have to let your friendship grow with time, developing trust and loyalty. Many people today take their friends for granted, so it is important to feel valued in any relationship. You have to be careful and tread lightly in order to develop a quality relationship with anyone.
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@rose1717 (190)
• United States
6 Mar 12
I think it is pretty true. I think most people pick their friends by what they have in common with each other. I mean, if you were a person that didn't like liers then you wouldn't be a friend to someone who does nothing but lie. If you liked going to the horse races, you wouldn't probably hang out with a friend who thinks they are bad. I think most people pick friends that also have the same type of personality as theres, but still get along with each other.
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@dharanil (319)
• India
6 Mar 12
Yea, I too heard this quote and I believe this quote will suit for the true friends not for others.
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
6 Mar 12
You are right , if one has many friends on facebook , that quote can't catch on them. They are probabely too different.
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
Hi! That was what I meant.I don refer to facebook friends and acquaintances but only to those who are very close to you whom you have shared your life with and someone whom you can pour out your heart and knows you from head to toe.
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
6 Mar 12
I think it's partly true. But if you ask me who my friends are I can't tell you any except for my daughters.
@eljayo (1107)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
Hi! Its good to know that you are close with your children. I am just curious, do you other close friends like college,high school or colleagues?
@prinzcy (5063)
• Malaysia
18 Mar 12
For most people, the saying is true. It's like a bird of a feather, flock together phrase. We are recognize by the circle of people around us. But of course there are rare friends of clash personalities. In other word, let's not be jugdemental and only decide on something that we really know.
@megamatt (14332)
• United States
8 Mar 12
Kind of true in many ways. We tend to have our personality rather altered in many subtle ways or not so subtle ways based on the type of people that we choose to surround ourselves by. Of course, that can be a really good thing. Or it could be one of the worst things that have ever happened to any of us. There are times where people who are in our direct social circle, tend to get influenced somewhat by people who are influenced outside of our social circle. Still the people who we surround ourselves right around, is going to really just shape a lot of our personality. For some it is not much shaping needed, as there are going to be people who are going to share the most similar interests right at the beginning. But still, we can get a slight picture of who we are from the people that we surround ourselves with. At least for the most part, to a slight extent. But it is not something that is foolproof.
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
I believe in that saying, somewhat you choose your friends because you share the same ideas, emotions and interests you reflect yourself to them. I think that's what the saying is telling us about.