Kids aren't happy about there meals

By C
@ShyBear88 (17062)
United States
March 6, 2012 2:31pm CST
What do you do when your kids aren't happy with the meal that you have made for dinner,lunch, or even breakfast? Do you fix something else for them? When I was growing up if my mom made something to eat for you weather its something that you wanted or not you ate it. If that meant you go hungry all day till you can't stand it no more then we would eat what was in front of us hot or cold. My brothers and I learned at a young age if we don't like we don't have to eat it but we better find something else to eat because mommy and daddy were not going to fix something else for us to eat just because we didn't want it. It was different if one of us didn't like it. Normally before that meal is given out my mom might already have something on the side for one of us or two of us. I never liked fish so normally my mom would have something else for me to eat on those nights she did fish. But when I got older I could fix things for myself then I would eat like left overs or have a frozen dinner. With my own child she is 13 months so there are days where she doesn't want to eat what I have for her. But normally she'll eat one or two things that is offered to her. I normal have 3 things on a plate for her ready to go. If its fruit or cereal she'll eat. She is still learning what she doesn't like and what she does and trying new things so I'm not hard on her yet like my parents where on me and my siblings but that was when we where like 5 and older. I normally try to my daughter to try something a few times before I say okay she really doesn't like this. I don't let her pick out what meals she has I pick them out and pair them for her.
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@marguicha (90609)
• Chile
7 Mar 12
As long as she eats what she should, I don´t think it is so bad if she doesn´t like some food or doesn´t want to eat one of them in a certain day. But you must not let her have her way every day or she will manipulate you with that.
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
9 Mar 12
I never said I let her have her way with what she eats. I know what she doesn't and does like to eat but there is still foods that she can't eat yet so we don't like if she likes it or not and taste buds change as kids get older. I always have 3 things on a plat for her its if its dinner its a meat, either a veggie and a fruit or two different types of fruit and veggies. Bread is always a good side for my daughter she loves bread. If she doesn't to eat at that time fine with mama it sits there till she eats it there is 3 things there so she will eat something on there. Most always she'll eat or try all of it at least ones or twice. I do the 3 times you treat this and that way mama knows if you like it or not. She eats everything her mama and dada likes so that is the easy time. I don't give in when it comes to food or treats. Right now we are at the stage where food ends up more on the floor then in the mouth. But the question was about your kids not my daughter and her eating habits.
@marguicha (90609)
• Chile
9 Mar 12
Sorry. I did not realise that you weren´t talking about you and your child. I have forgotten what exactly happened to my daughters as it was quite a long time ago. I remember that they went through stages of being picky and other times when they loved food. They are grown ups now and they must have had good eating habits as they are both with the weight according to their height and very healthy.
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
12 Mar 12
A lot of little kids tend to be picky eaters at first. I have never been the weight that they say is for my height but I'm still healthy regardless of that. Not everybody can get up to those weights that doctors say they should be at. I've always been on the light size. Other the being pregnant I've never been over 105lbs and I should be at 110lbs. My daughter is like me she is on the light side as well but a every good eater at the moment in time. She is going through the stage of let me put this in my mouth and then spit back at and on to the floor stage. Its annoying but when hungry she'll eat what ever you give her. A big veggie and fruit eater which is a good thing.
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
It's because some kinds are picky eaters. It's inevitable for kids to be a picky eater. Sometimes there are some solution on how will you prepare your foods. Moms should prepare the foods in a way that children will love it. Be creative in serving foods is also way for a child not to say no to foods.
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
9 Mar 12
Pretty much all little kids are picky eaters. I know I was but mom never gave in to us. You don't always have to be creative to get your kids to eat what is good for them or to try it. My mom never did the creative stuff and I ate what I was given didn't mean I like what I tried. Little kids that are under 5 normally aren't picky unless the parents let them be picky. I don't give my daughter that chance to be picky she eats what she is given weather its all of it or some of it or none. I do 3 things on the plat and she'll eat what ever it is. What ever mommy has she'll eat. The question was about your own kids?
7 Mar 12
my son is also like,when he reached 1 years old i have a hard time to feed him,most of the food that i prepare is he didnt like.,so i need to fix his food,maybe i could adjust him by food when hes older enough.,
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
9 Mar 12
Me I wouldn't do that as a mom. My daughter is 1 and I don't fix her anything else then what I put in front of her. If she doesn't like one of 3 things that is given to her then it sits there till she gets hungry enough to eat. Parents some times assume there child doesn't like it but if they don't try it 3 times at least then you will never know if they like and they will never now either. You got to be tough as a parent. When they get older then they can fix what they want to eat. Taste buds change all of the time so one week they won't like it and the next they will. My mom was good about remember what we didn't like some times she didn't remember what kid didn't like it but she never really made different meals for us ever. If we didn't like it would sit there at any age when we where old enough to fix out own things and we didn't want it we could find something else. The only time she would make something else is when she planned a dinner and she know a 100% one of us would eat it then she would have something else ready for that person or left overs.
@shylade (3137)
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
feeding toddlers is really a tough job for us moms. i have read several experiences of moms who have hard time in feeding their toddlers. i am glad my 20-month old son is not a picky eater. he will whatever we eat. some said, do not feed your toddler sweet foods like chocolates because it will affect their developing taste buds. i am glad my son does not want too sweet foods like chocolate and he would not want to drink chocolate drinks too. he eats vegetable and fruits, even oatmeal. in our country our basic food is rice that is why we seldom eat oatmeal but my son loves it. he will eat c=finely chopped pork and chicken meat also. just make the eating fun and never force your child to eat and do not show you are disappointment because she does not want to eat the food you have prepared. try again the next day and she might want to taste it by then.
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
9 Mar 12
I really don't have that hard of a time with my first toddler I don't know if I can say the same next year 2 toddlers. My 13 month she'll eat what ever you put in front of her for the most part. Some times there are things she'll try she doesn't like which is fine with me because there is always 2 other things on her plate that she will eat. There is sweets and then there is sweet foods. Fruits are sweets those are what we call natural sweets which is good for you body and chocolate is good for a kid in a small amount. Every now and then a small amount of chocolate is okay my nephew when he was 2 we started chocolate candy. I call my daughters vitaimins candy because they are gummies and kind of sweet. She eats things that are vanilla if we give her a treat which isn't often. I didn't ask for your advise on how to get my child to eat her food. My mom never made 5 different meals because one of us or all of us didn't like what she hate. You ate what you where given or you go hungry till you eat. I do the same with my daughter you got to start young and if you don't then you always going to be fixing them something to fit there needs as well as your other kids needs to make them happy. I never said I would sound or look disappoint if my child didn't like something. I there is lots of things I don't like eating but I don't make myself anything special because I don't like it and the others do like it. If they never try something then they never will know if they like doctor say get your kid to try it 3 times and after 3 times they don't like it then you know not give to them. that is 3 different times not 3 times in one meal. Taste buds are always change from the moment your born to the day you die. What works for you works for you what works for me is being a tough mom with a 13 month that doesn't mean she doesn't understand what I say and she is going to be a big sister so she'll have to show her little brother or sister yeah try it mommy know its good and if you don't like it after a few tries then she won't give it to you but she isn't making anything special for everyone including yourself. That is why when I make a meal there is 3 things on the plat.
• United States
7 Mar 12
I think it's good that your mom pick out the meals when you were young and now you pick out the meals for your child. My mom always did that and, like your mom, sometimes if one of us really didn't like it she would make something on the side for us. We didn't have the option to make something else if we didn't like what she fixed. I don't remember ever going hungry, so I guess I must have liked what she fixed or at least some of it. Sometimes it's hard with the younger ones when they are learning what they like and don't like. My 5 yr old granddaughter doesn't like hamburger, but she likes it when I put manwich in it. She loves fruits, but doesn't like vegetables much.
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
9 Mar 12
My mom never made 5 different meals she would make one meal we would all get the same things. Of course there was always one of us that didn't like something or we all liked it. Not a big deal when there is only one thing on the plat that we didn't like so my mom learned what we didn't like that she made and she would just skip putting it on that plate and we would eat extra of something else that was made that night. If everything was eaten and you where still hungry my mom would fix you something really small for yourself most of that time that was ceral when we where younger. I do that with my 13 month she doesn't really get a choice of what she wants and doesn't really get to pick what she eats. What ever she is give most always she eats it and if she doesn't like she just doesn't eat it and will eat the other things on her plat. At her age I know kids tend to be a bit picky when they start learning about different foods at there. I try to get her to eat something at least 3 times before saying yep she really doesn't like this and maybe as she gets older she'll like it. My daughters doctor said its normal for little kids not like red meat as much but as they get older they will eat it and like it normally but that doesn't mean some kids never like it. Your taste buds never stop change as you get older so some time things you don't like at one point in time you life a few years later you might like it. My daughter loves fruit and veggies we don't really have a hard time getting her to eat anything. She loves mac and cheese and chicken she would eat chicken all day long if you let her and puffs which is a fruit cereal snack for babies and toddlers.