how do you make a conversation interesting?

Philippines
March 7, 2012 6:03am CST
I admit I 'm a boring person, is it because I talk a little? hmm, anyways I wanted to change this kind of attitude. What should I think before I start a conversation? I was hoping I can get some answers here, I have met someone and I want him to be my friend but as I said I don't know how.
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@owlwings (38859)
• Cambridge, England
7 Mar 12
First of all, who has told you that you are a boring person? The most common thing that makes others think of a person as "boring" is when that person has limited interests and constantly tries to turn the conversation to those interests. Usually such people are rather talkative but show little interest in what other people think. The secret of good conversation, surprisingly enough, does NOT rest in having a great deal to say oneself. A good conversationalist is genuinely interested in what others have to say and knows how to interject the right questions and comments at the right moment to prompt other people to talk about their interests. In other words, people who are considered good conversationalists generally say very little themselves but are very good listeners. When you start a conversation, therefore (and much the same applies to starting a good discussion here), think about what will be a topic which interests the other person or persons and which you think they may have a lot to say on. If you ask a question (as most people do), try to avoid questions which can be answered simply with just 'Yes' or 'No' or another single word. A question like "What is your favourite colour?" doesn't offer much scope for the other person (and even less for you, when continuing the conversation, but a question like: "I hear a lot of people say that red is their favourite colour. Do you think that we all have favourites?" is much more of a 'leading question' which will give you scope both to hear what the other person thinks and to introduce your own views, without being dogmatic.
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@owlwings (38859)
• Cambridge, England
7 Mar 12
I used "favourite colour" as an easy example only. Try to get to know what the person is interested in and, if you know a little about it or nothing, get him to tell you about it so that you will learn something you didn't know before. Perhaps he's into football: do YOU understand the 'offside rule'? (and does he? ).
@derek_a (10902)
8 Mar 12
One of the more powerful ways of creating friendships is to have an interest in what they have to say. Listening to them and acknowledging what they are doing or not doing. People who are attractive are nearly always good listeners. Listening is the most powerful part of communication. Responding to another, and supporting another. This makes a relationship strong. _Derek
@Cranos (274)
• Belgium
7 Mar 12
I was in that position once. I got out of it because a friend pushed me to talk to strangers. Honestly what you really need is trying it a couple of times, even if it gets a bit awkward. That way you'll lose that fear of messing up and once the fear is gone, you won't mess up anymore. That's the weird thing, the only reason you think you're boring and don't talk a lot is because you're insecure. If that one feeling is gone or if you can ignore it when necessary, you'll be a great conversationalist.
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• Philippines
19 Mar 12
"Interesting" really differs from person to person. Some like music, some like sports, some like movies, you have to do your homework if you really wanna sound interesting. I wanted to date this girl from school but I felt like I didn't have anything interesting to say, so I thought about MY interests. When I went out with her, I started asking about my interests and every one bit is boring to her. In a nutshell, the date sucked.
@bird123 (10481)
• United States
11 Mar 12
School 101. The talk show hosts. If you watch the talk show hosts closely, they will teach you all you need to know. They are masters at conversation.
@megamatt (14331)
• United States
9 Mar 12
I'll be perfect honest with you. If someone feels that the conversation is boring, that is their problem, not mine. I'm not bending over backwards to adjust what I am talking about to what people do in fact want to hear. Of course, what I might be saying might not be boring. There are some people who will listen to you only to a certain degree. But after that certain degree is up, they are going to stop listening. If you did want to bend over backwards to make a conversation interesting, I would say just slightly change the subject. But with some people, on either end it can't be helped. Either some people are poor at really having conversations or there are just other people who are rather poor at listening. Whatever you really want to say, that is just the case that things are going to end up being again and again and again.
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
Try getting some basic information about him like his hobbies & interests.Then try initiating a conversation with those as your topic.That will help make your conversation with him interesting.
@meozard22 (872)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
I think we have the same attitude but I don't think I was that boring. Actually I have a lot of friends. You just have to believe in yourself. You don't have to be that talkative to be friendly. Just show who you are. And if they accept you for being that way, you will know that they are really your true friend
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
8 Mar 12
If you want to be friends with someone, the best way to start a conversation is to ask questions about the person take an interest in them. Find out what they like and like to do. Then if you have things in common, you could talk about things that interest you and then take it from there. Good Luck!
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
8 Mar 12
HI there! It is easy. If you want to make the conversation interesting you just need to ask and discuss about interesting topics. It can be either something that you know very well or it might be something that you have no clue at all but hi might know it a lot. Make sure it involves questions and answers and don't just asked simple questions with simple answers. You may add some value points if you link your answers with your experience about the subject matter. I am sure you can do it. Just find some interesting topic..(^^)
• United States
8 Mar 12
Boring? I don't think so. You've started a most interesting subject here. Talk about things that interest you and of which you are knowledgeable. Just be you; don't try to act like anyone else. I was once very shy and it took a long time to get over it, but I have many good friends and you can, too. If friends don't accept you for the person you are, they really are not worth having. Hugs, Maggie
• United States
8 Mar 12
The best way to be interesting is to be interested. Listening is the most important part of communication. Also, it is important to be honest and express hoe you feel about things, but not to be too attached to your opinions. Everyone has opinions, but they are just opinions, not facts. They get in the way as much as anything. Taking risks in a conversation is fun, too. Try talking about something which might seem unusual, but is interesting to you.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
8 Mar 12
Any conversation for that matter to be interesting and appealing should have tinges of good humor attached with it.There is nothing elegant than raising occasional spells of innocent laughter.
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
It depends through the topics.If the topics is interesting,we can go forward to talk,through responding. And if the topics is boring,it means we can't talk it long or it depends the way people give comments .
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
8 Mar 12
Any conversation between two individuals could be made lively and absorbing if mutual inquiries are made from time to time. Speaking all about oneself all the time would only turn out dull conversations.With a little bit of concern for the others make a lot of difference in mutual interaction.
@dazzledlady (1624)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
There is no boring person in the world. Maybe the person who told you that did not understand you well. Just because you talk less doesn't mean you are boring. You just need a little boost of confidence. Praise yourself a little more. And the key to an interesting conversation is find some topic you both know well. Start there and do not stop, sometimes what is hindering us from it is being afraid of rejection. Show who you really are, and it is up to the person if she likes the way you are. Because if not then maybe it isn't meant to be. A person should change only for himself.herself to become a better person and not be dictated of what to do. Just have fun and enjoy the time you spend with her.
• United States
8 Mar 12
Do you find my conversations interesting? I just be honest about what I am talking about. I bet your not a boring person at all. You are a creation of the most high God. There is nothing boring about any of Gods creation. Just respond what you think about what I said. HONESTLY.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
8 Mar 12
I have found the best way to make a conversation interesting is to stimulate the one you are interacting with. When you can capture the attention of someone else through conversation, it can bring a whole new light to the relationship you have with them or one you are hoping to have with them.
• Philippines
7 Mar 12
Every conversation exists for a purpose may it be to gain information or pass the time. But since you are up to interesting conversations, you will have to bring out the good memories out of yourself or your conversation partner IMO. As we all know, a conversation is not interesting if all the bad things are discussed. Still, a discussion of problems doesn't have to be considered as unworthy and uninteresting. It is where solutions are discovered at least.
• India
7 Mar 12
First off, don't be self conscious. Forget what others think about you, your looks, dress, the kind of questions you ask etc. Next take a genuine interest in the other person. Ask them questions about them and their interest and you will forget how long you have been conversing and your conversation will be interesting.